Are extramarital affairs really not happy? How to strengthen the modern marriage? You will understand after reading

In recent years, stories like "extramarital affair" and "third party involvement" have gradually increased around us. The result is getting worse and worse, so people start to doubt and talk: can modern people change their hearts freely? At

wedding banquets, people’s greetings are often "to grow old." Unfortunately, this is just a good wish. Let us look at the traditional marriage, which is basically for the purpose of having children and economic life, so many people call it "reproductive cooperatives" and "economic communities." A marriage like

does not have high requirements for the maturity of the couple. "Marry a man, marry a man, dress and eat," being able to have children and live together is the ultimate goal of marriage.

However, the times are developing and the society is progressing. In modern society, urban marriage has been changed to a "psychological-cultural community". This epoch-making change in the function of marriage has also caused great changes in the standards and conditions of modern people's mate selection.

People are eager for the two parties to have a better match in cultural and psychological qualities, to lead a good spiritual, cultural and emotional life together, and to improve the quality of love life.

However, when we choose objects, we often choose under a specific and limited condition, and most people in love are "myopia".

Therefore, after a few years of marriage, the husband and wife gradually become familiar with each other, and after the newness slowly disappears, he or she will find a new "outstanding person" in the ever-expanding circle of life. Therefore, the phenomenon of "extramarital affair" and "third party" appeared. So, how to consolidate modern marriages?

This requires both husband and wife to work together to learn the art of love, whether it is knowledge or affection to maintain the same level, improve the personality quality of the husband and wife, make progress together, in order to go forward side by side.

A few years ago, there was a drama "When we first love, we didn't understand love", which made a sensation in Beijing. Indeed, many of us often mistake the first time when we first love, as a life-long love that can be entrusted to life, and even conflicts and pain in our later married life. Part of the reason for this situation is also due to the education we have received since childhood.

We always hear people say that first love is beautiful, as if losing the first love will lose the happiness of the whole life. This wrong orientation and understanding makes some young girls choose to be single or die because of the failure of their first love .

In fact, every first time in life is unforgettable, and so is first love. But this does not mean that if you lose the first time, there will be no second and third happiness. Maybe something happens to the old saying: "The last is always the best."

So, again Whether falling in love or remarrying, as long as it does not violate social morality, it is a very legitimate thing. For a person who can rekindle the flame of love and pursue his own happiness, he should be encouraged and supported by society and friends.

And we do see that many divorced people will become much happier people once they remarry. They re-open up themselves with their own free bodies, and they will find an unprecedented source of strength in themselves and become more passionate about life.

Because they have matured and found the happy marriage they really yearn for. Rebuilding a marriage is much more difficult than destroying it. Let it be a stimulus to prove your ability and charm. It can be said to be your second love.