Source: Teacher Bi said (ID: BiLaoShiShuo)
@范姐
Hello, my current boyfriend and I have been dating for more than a year. I am a very emotional, suspicious and sensitive person, and I often get angry because my boyfriend ignores my love.
On Saturdays and Sundays, I like to go shopping to climb the mountains, but my boyfriend said that shopping and climbing are too tired, so staying at home playing games and watching movies is not better.
I am very accommodating to him, but I feel wronged by this. Every time we quarrel about some trivial matters, he will not coax me after the quarrel.
We got to know each other through blind dates, and our relationship is not deep enough. I'm sure he likes me, but his acting style makes it difficult for me to accept. I hope to have more initiative in this relationship. What should I do with Sister Fan?
@橘座
Xiaoju classmate, hello. Thank you for your trust and support for Sister Fan, Sister Fan understands your feelings very well. Being in a passive, depressed, and anxious state for a long time in a relationship hurts both parties. I hope that the suggestions of Sister Fan below can help you!
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think in empathy, learn to communicate
boys are more rational in thinking about issues, and girls are more perceptual. Boys focus on results and goals, while women focus on process and feelings. Therefore, accept the difference in the way of thinking of each other and consider the problem from the perspective of each other. Z2z
relationship is a matter of two people. One person cannot manage the relationship between two people. When you disagree with his point of view, you must dare to raise it, speak actively, and don't wait to intensify the conflict. When he has troubles and wants to be quiet, don't disturb him. Don't block yourself, and don't let your boyfriend feel that you are reluctant, endless.
Secondly, there must be a certain sense of mystery. If you say that you are sensitive and suspicious of feelings, then you must be more concerned about him in your relationship. There is a saying that the unavailable will always be in a commotion, and the favored will have no fear. He is accustomed to you, so he takes it for granted, and he will naturally ignore your inner feelings.
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8zLearn to love yourself, invest for yourself
From now on, let yourself be an independent woman. Independent money, independent thinking, independent personality. Some people say that the confidence of adults is given by money. Yes, enough money can keep you away from the tight life and avoid quarreling with your boyfriend because of financial problems.
Economic independence allows you to go where you want to go, live a richer life, and live a more beautiful life.
secondly realizes independent thinking and personality independence by charging oneself. When men and women get along, they are most afraid of being too dependent on one side in their thinking and losing themselves. If they do not have their own opinions, they will fall into a passive situation.
Since he doesn't want to go shopping or climbing with you, don't give up your own ideas. It is also possible to make appointments with your own friends. Let her feel that you are not following him in everything.
Furthermore, it is important to enhance your personal image. As the saying goes, it starts with the value of the face, is trapped in talent, and is loyal to character. You don't have to wear heavy makeup every day, but you must never be undressed. Let yourself live clean and delicate to attract the other's attention.
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Treat each other frankly and respect each other. The last and most important point of
is to be honest with each other and give each other more space and respect.
If you decide to love each other, open your heart to love. Whether you are a boy or a girl, you must be sincere.
give the other person space and understanding. In this relationship, you can speak out your doubts and seek the other person's understanding. Increase opportunities for communication and reduce misunderstandings. If you can’t understand each other, you’ll love you very tired, and you’ll feel that you’ve paid a lot while the other party is not clear.
In ordinary trivial matters, you need to respect each other. In front of your friends, don't embarrass each other because of your own little temper, let others read jokes, and make both of you unhappy. This is not worth the gain. Mr.
Jin Yong said, "Love does not know where it starts, but goes deep, hate does not end, and smiles. When you truly understand each other and love each other deeply, the initiative becomes less important.
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