Hello, friends, I am your Xiaoqi.
I wonder if you have noticed that young people nowadays seem to be getting more and more indifferent, just like a friend around me. She said:
"I now have no such worldly desires. I just want to be a salted fish lying flat."
This is a bit interesting. Food, sex, nature, human instinct. Why do people seem to abandon the instinct of "color" now? Looking at the changes in social forms in recent years, I have briefly summarized the following 4 reasons:
1. The pressure is too great, the internal consumption is serious
The intimate life of contemporary young people is getting fewer and fewer, and there are many reasons, but the pressure is too great, and the internal consumption is serious. This is definitely the top three in the list.
This is very understandable. Think about our current situation, the high-intensity work we have to face every day, the colleagues who are crazy about turning the blame, and the leaders who are taking KPIs... I don’t have time to take a breath in daily life, let alone have sex.
And contemporary young people will automatically enter the emo mode at night, constantly struggling in self-affirmation - self-denial - self-healing, and their energy has long been exhausted.
So, after get off work, we had no other energy to do anything. We just wanted to simply browse our phones, make up for the lost time, and have a good rest.
This is also the reason why young people nowadays like to stay up late, because only the time at night belongs to us. The reason why we stay up late and don’t want to sleep is to extend and catch the time left with only the remaining stars.
2. The relationship is frustrated and I don’t want to invest in it anymore. The reason why
becomes more and more cold is that the emotional factors are "indestructible". After all, emotions are still relatively important in life.
But everyone also knows that no relationship is smooth sailing. We will experience some ups and downs to a greater or lesser extent. Sometimes experiencing a relationship is like experiencing a life and death disaster, which leads to ourselves being deeply trapped in the previous relationship and being difficult to accept new relationships.
The second reason may be because in the last relationship, I have invested all my time and energy and no longer want to experience the experience of giving all the more.
html more than 0 emotions will be combined together, which will make people particularly weak and want to get a longer healing time. In this way, many young people will be in the longer period of window , and the frequency of sexual life will naturally decrease.I still want to say more about this. We need to grasp our own emotional standards and not blindly stick to the people and things of the past. We must eventually learn to look forward and accept new people and new feelings.
3, more interesting alternatives
There are endless electronic products, fast-derived mobile games, and toys within reach... More and more electronic products are beginning to enrich our lives, and the forms of getting happiness have become diverse.
These alternatives have gradually dispersed the desire for sex in contemporary young people, making more and more young people clearly realize that the channels of happiness are not only intimate behaviors with the opposite sex, but also some happiness does not require you to spend more time and energy to deal with and maintain.
And these substitutes can also bring more tricks to ourselves. For example, if you play games and decompress and win a game, we can not only gain a happy mood, but also gain the admiration and praise given to us by others. So on the basis of gaining happiness, I can gain more emotion called "pride".
This has made us feel happy and happy, so we will naturally not think about other things anymore. We may even feel that it is troublesome to start a relationship and need to maintain it regularly. It is better to be single and be free.
4. Awakening of self-awareness
Contemporary young people have already strong self-awareness. Compared with others, we begin to pay more attention to ourselves and be clearer about what we want.
Love is only a part of life. Compared with illusory emotions, contemporary young people prefer to make money or improve themselves, because these things are the foundation of life, and only they can be held tightly in their own hands.
As the saying goes: In the world, only money and hard work will not betray you. As for feelings, it is better if there is, and it will not be forced if there is no.
Moreover, many young people now think that falling in love is too troublesome, and there is more and more singleism. There is no need for them to waste their little time remaining on maintaining an emotional relationship. It is better to enjoy life yourself than to have time.
In summary, what do you think about the increasing sexual indifference of contemporary young people?
I am Seven, a post-90s emotional expert, focusing on sharing more sex education knowledge, emotional knowledge, sex interaction skills, and love business improvement skills. See you next time.
