text/Hua Xiaoxian
Recently, a friend always complained to me and treated others with his heart, but that person stabbed him in the back and scolded him, saying that people's hearts were unpredictable and human nature was not old.
As a friend, I can’t do anything except comfort me. I can only suffer losses in dating people by myself to truly grow. As I have been struggling with the world for so many years, I still sent 6 tips to this friend.
1. Selfishness is human nature
A real estate boss was moved to see his subordinates following him for many years and planned to reward this subordinate with a house. He asked the employee to choose any set in the community developed by the company himself.
As a result, this subordinate chose a large set of 120 square meters, which made the boss very unhappy.
He thought this subordinate would consciously choose a small set of 80 square meters, "I didn't expect him to be so greedy."
He changed his mind and gave this subordinate a small set of 80 square meters on his own initiative.
So this subordinate was dissatisfied, and the boss also lost a good employee.
One thought he was just fine, the other thought he had a pie fell from the sky, but he forgot that human nature had lost its composure.
was originally a good thing, but it ended up in a bad mood.
2. Good people are good in their mouths
As the saying goes: "A good word warms up in three winters, and a bad word cold in six months."
If you want to be a good person, you must first be able to say things that make others feel warm.
3. Many people don’t blame
You gave all your best to others. You should think a little bit about whether you can make the other party have these things all the time.
I have a friend who has a good relationship and always brings something to the child every time I go to their house. Every time I go, my friend’s wife will smile and greet the child, saying that uncle has bought you something again, thank you uncle.
Later, due to the road that was not smooth, there was no good shopping center around, so I went to a friend’s house empty-handed.
As soon as the door was opened, I saw the child standing behind the door. When the child saw me empty-handed, he cried and said that his uncle was stingy and did not bring him a gift this time.
Facing the situation at this moment, I stood at the door with empty hands, not knowing what to react.
Since then, I have rarely come to their house to play.
4. Bullying the weak
In front of others, you must not say that you don’t know this or that, even if you are humble, you won’t do it.
Because humans are animals that seek benefits and avoid harm, if you are beneficial to them, she is more willing to get along with you and respect you.
If you know nothing, how can you ask others to look at you with admiration? Like often comes from worship.
5. Seek profit and avoid harm
A couple divorced, why did they divorce? Who is right and who is wrong? These are not the focus of everyone's attention. The focus is that the divorced couple will get more benefits and who will be close to them.
If you meet and have a good chat with a former friend, and then chat with others repeatedly, but the other party always feels very busy and rarely responds to you, it must be that you are not profitable to him and are too lazy to deal with this relationship.
If the people around you are nice to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have done a good job in all aspects, but that it is profitable for you.
6. Use each other
Nowadays, many older unmarried people are forced to go on blind dates everywhere due to pressure from their families.
Sometimes I get bored when I see more people, and occasionally I agree when I see someone with equal strength.
On the surface it is because fate has come, but in fact it is just living together and using each other.
You have no value and can't make money. Try lying flat at home.
People like to play when they are poor, and they pay too much attention to the emotions between people.
The richer people are, the more they will pay attention to the value strategies and find ways to make more money. They will not waste their time and energy in places where they have no gains from themselves.
