Yesterday I went to the supermarket and heard an aunt in her sixties scolding her daughter on the phone:
"I really don't know what you think!
A person in his thirties, he doesn't even have a partner, and he is not in a hurry all day long.
Even if you look for a partner now, it will be thirty-five or sixty to get married.
It's thirty-seven or eighty to have a child, or even forty years old.
Why are you not in a hurry? Are you not afraid of not having a child?
If you don't have children and no husband, who cares about you when you get old in the future?
You don't have any children on the Internet in the future Some messy articles.
are those articles that tell you girls not to get married, don’t have children, etc.?
I tell you that those are poisonous chicken soup, which harms women.
Look around, which woman who is not married will have a good end when she gets old?
I have lived for most of my life and never did anything bad, just because you are so old and don’t get married.
I can’t even raise my head in front of others.
Why don’t you know how to be anxious? I don’t know how to embarrass you! ”
This aunt became more and more excited as she spoke. She danced and attracted many people to stop and watch.
I don’t know how her daughter was on the other end of the phone, but she was a little embarrassed in this supermarket anyway.
There are many topics about women now, and there are also many opinions like this aunt:
If you are over 30 years old and don’t get married, women should feel anxious, or regard it as a shame, at least they should not be treated as a good thing to persevere.
So, how do those women in their 30s who are not married in their real world view this view?
Today we invited three 30+ women to see their experiences and thoughts.
Wang Xiao, 34 years old
Before 30 years old, people often introduced me to my partner.
Such as relatives, colleagues, friends my parents know, etc.
Maybe in their eyes, women under 30 still have a "market" and can "sell it".
However, after the age of 30, these sounds automatically disappeared.
In my aunt's words, I am already 31 years old, an old girl, "it's great to be a big deal."
Haha, but it's exactly what I want.
Especially after the age of 32, my mother, who was originally very active in urging her to get married, was also desperate.
even said, "It's good not to get married. Look, who got divorced after two years of marriage, and I heard that she was beaten by her husband."
She can now comfort herself with some negative cases of marriage.
is also keen on collecting stories about relatives who are unhappy in marriage and using these stories to make themselves feel at ease. I don’t need
, because I think:
, whether it’s a marriage or not, it’s just a personal choice.
I will not persuade people not to get married, nor will I advise people to get married. I will only give young girls one advice:
Do what you want to do, and then be brave enough to be responsible for your choices.
Lin Lin, 35-year-old
wants to get married, but he would rather have nothing than be too bad. If he doesn't meet someone suitable, he plans to be single all the time.
Anyway, the house has been bought, and in this world, as long as I have a place to live, I am already very satisfied.
Go to hell, I was not born to satisfy your expectations.
Most women around me who are the same age as me are married and have children, and they all like me older!
Because I have been tortured by an unhappy marriage and noisy children year after year, it would be strange if I don’t grow old!
Weekly, 33-year-old
originally got married next year, but the negotiations broke down due to the issue of collecting etiquette.
The man finally talked to me and asked a question, why do we have to pick up gifts?
Don’t you women pay attention to Equalities between men and women ? Isn’t it just a marriage that you ask me to give money?
I answered him like this:
Of course you can not give gifts to you!
Will you share the housework after marriage with me?
You wash clothes yourself, make the food yourself, and clean the room yourself. Can you make it?
You want fair, right? You want equality, right?
Can you be equal to me when you have a baby? Can you share the pain and risks of my pregnancy?
You can't, then you have to bear the part of the loss of pregnancy and having a baby. Do you have no objection?
I was pregnant and suffered career damage. The company might fire me and marginalize me. Do you have to pay me my salary?
You have to bear the losses I have in my career in the next three years, right?
Please month nanny , eat nutritious meals, milk powder diapers, half of each person, right?
A child has added up before he was three years old, isn’t it too much for you to pay me 150,000?
When my ex-boyfriend heard this, she became anxious and retorted me:
"But our family has bought a house and a car for us to get married. What else do you want?"
I sneered:
"Did your house and car have written my name? To put it bluntly, it is a tenant.
Is the tenant obliged to sleep with you? Is there any obligation to cook, wash clothes and clean the room for you? Is there any obligation to have a baby for you?"
Speaking of this, I feel that this relationship has been broken with me.
Many people say that when talking about relationships, don’t talk about money, but if you don’t talk about money, how can you continue this relationship? Can marriage last by drinking the northwest wind?
Discussion:
Many women over 30 now have no plans to get married and have children, and they are not as anxious as some people think. What do you think of the phenomenon of
?
welcome to share in the comment area.
