In this world, poverty and illness are still an important proof that a relationship is precious. The difference between one person being poor and two people being poor is that the two people are poorer together. The so-called advantage is that they have experienced 81 difficulties and are tortured into a relationship of mutual support. However, the other angle allows you to see clearly the noble and despicable character of the other person, and the difference is uneven. These flaws that you didn't care about will become a handle of attacks in the future for quarrels and attacks the person you hate happily and viciously.
pic | Jiang Biwei in his later years
Xu Beihong is a smart poor man.
battle just ended, and German currency Mark depreciated violently. He took out only a few French banknotes left in his hand, exchanged them into the Mark's wealth of the Germans' national crisis, and took advantage of the opportunity to buy many original paintings in Berlin. He also made some tricks in the transaction operation, such as if he took a fancy to a painting, he would pay the deposit when he asked for the price, and then he would pay the final payment in a few days. Not to mention a few days, Mark is rapidly depreciating the number of 100,000 trillion trillion in just one day.
Xu Beihong said that buying is profitable, although his wife told him: "We are already very poor and should not buy anything randomly. We must ensure that we can eat some bread slices before the unpunctual official fee arrives."
Xu Beihong retorted: "Artwork is also food, although it is only spiritual."
Jiang Biwei wanted to have an attack but did not, and said unhappy: "You'd better... stare at this pile of broken paintings to eat enough."
Xu Beihong's slutty sophistry was in vain. Jiang Biwei was so angry that he was also jealous. He said, "You do the first day of the lunar month and I do the fifteenth day of the lunar month." Miss Jiang also pried open the drawer lock and took some money to buy a beloved black rabbit fur coat.
Xu Beihong saw it and scolded him in his heart, but he dared not say a word on the surface.
"Mr. Xu didn't say anything at that time."
It should have been a poor couple to fight. Don't let this kind of messing thing be told to outsiders. Xu and Jiang should have such a tacit understanding. But forty years later, this broken incident was published by Hong Kong's "News World", which roughly means:
"Ms. Jiang loves beauty, and is in the flashy place but does not control it. She asked Mr. Xu Beihong to buy violin and exchanged it for fur coats. She did not seek to improve and abandon her studies. She was criticized."
Hong Kong's "News World" published this gossip in the 1960s. Xu Beihong had passed away. Jiang Biwei could not be so stupid as to take advantage of her black material to the newspaper to attract people to scold. In this way, the information possessed by "News World" is provided by outsiders.
Since it was provided by outsiders, it was clearly spoken by the insider. After all, Xu and Jiang did not talk about such trivial matters, how could outsiders know about this?
Who has the tongue-in-law to expose the family secrets? There is no way to verify it. But this little thing about sesame and mung bean has been circulated for more than 40 years, which shows that it has caused criticism among friends at that time, such as: "I bought a work of art, and you bought a leather coat." The sword light and sword shadows are obvious.
What we are fighting for is the couple who spends money and who spends money and who spends money and is messing around. Obviously, Xu Beihong's works of value-preserving art are more high-sounding and upright.
is indeed the case. That leather coat depreciates when bought, and it simply protects Jiang Biwei's right to consume fairly in marriage.
As for "I don't seek to improve myself, I'm abandoning my studies, and I'm criticized." does have the same thing, but it's half true and half false.
First of all, Xu Beihong has no money to go to Jiang Biwei to study, so where can the studies that can be abandoned out of nothing?
"In those years in Paris, I never went to any school. Although I had to do housework due to life difficulties."
Secondly, Xu Beihong would never criticize Jiang Biwei for his study, because he has always adopted the attitude of "no suppression, no guidance, and no concern" towards his wife's career.
"Mr. Xu ignored my academic issues and let me decide everything."
Only "not seeking progress" is true.
"I have always been an unprofitable person. Because the old-style tutoring I received and the social environment at that time did not encourage a woman to start a career, I have always had few positive and enterprising plans and determinations."
pic | Xu Beihong painted the piano lesson for Jiang Bi
11 In the spring of 11923, Xu and Jiang worked hard in Berlin for twenty months. The disappearing Ministry of Education of the National Government finally remembered these international students who were sent out by them, and they gave them living expenses with great compassion.
Xu Beihong got the money, paid off all the debts he owed in Berlin, and returned to Paris with Jiang Biwei to study abroad starting point. They swore that they would never dare to go out for fun with barely enough travel expenses, because they planned the monthly official expenses that would be interrupted by the chaos of warlords in China at any time.
After staying in the hotel for a few days, Xu Beihong rented a top floor studio in the eighth district near the Arc de Triomphe. The rent of this studio was surprisingly cheap enough, which is why Xu Beihong liked it. After moving in happily, Jiang Biwei realized that he had stepped on a big pit.
This so-called high-end residential building is dedicated to elevators on the first to fifth floors, and stairs on the first to sixth floors (top floors), just because the sixth floor was originally a house for servants.
There is no elevator, which is very inconvenient for this daughter who has never touched the water and has learned to do housework.
"From downstairs to the sixth floor, I have to climb more than a hundred levels. I often climb more than a hundred levels of ladders (purchase) to lack a match."
I don't know what the designer of this building is thinking. I have to climb six stairs, maybe I can borrow an elevator to the fifth floor and climb another floor to go home. But it seems difficult to do, because it means that the servants living on the sixth floor have defiled the noble elevators of the petty-bourgeois residents. Another possibility is that this kind of elevator design is directly used. How could Jiang Biwei have the nerve to go up to someone else's house and borrow a staircase from the fifth floor?
Compared to Jiang Biwei, Xu Beihong did not complain so much. He is famous for his steadily and his legs are great. What is the point of climbing a hundred-level stairs? Secondly, "the troubles of a match" has nothing to do with him.
"Mr. Xu has always been careless about housework, so I had to take on this burden."
Although there is a high voice to ask men to do housework now, Jiang Biwei took Xu Beihong's official fee and did not have to go to school. It is reasonable and natural to pack the housework.
probably lived for two years. By 1925, the domestic warlords started working again, and the official fee was interrupted again. The people in China are in dire straits, and foreign students are in dire straits.
Xu Beihong had no choice but to discuss countermeasures with Jiang Bi.
"Biwei, we may be out of the kitchen tomorrow."
"Bihong, is there any possibility that there is no such possibility, or this possibility is 'certain'."
"Biwei, what do you have?"
"Biwei, your solution is mine."
"Okay, the first solution is to ask your dad. Get the money (but it's too late). The second method is to ask a friend to borrow money (you can get it immediately). Both methods are shameless, but I can afford the second way, but I can't afford it. I can't come forward and I may not be able to do it if I come forward. I can only let you go. "
" Beihong, this is really an embarrassing opportunity to experience."
At four o'clock that afternoon, Jiang Biwei followed Xu Beihong's instructions and came to the home of the then Chinese Consulate in Paris, Liu, and his wife.
Just before departure, Xu Beihong told Jiang Biwei that you must borrow money quickly, ruthlessly and accurately, be straight to the point and poke your life. If you can't make the other party feel embarrassed at the first time, the next thing that will be embarrassed is yourself.
If so, Jiang Biwei became the latter.She hesitated at the home of the couple surnamed Liu and could not speak. The biggest resistance was of course that the owner was too enthusiastic and wanted to keep her for dinner. Why did she have the nerve to pour cold water on it? The most affair in the world is the battle between "asking people to borrow money" and "asking people to borrow money" and "asking people to borrow money". It is so aggrieved, embarrassed, awkward, and ashamed.
After dinner, I sat down and chatted and laughed. The opportunity came again. Jiang Biwei crawled in her heart with countless itchy little ants urging her to say "borrow money and borrow money", but she wanted to say it and she swallowed it back when she said it. Her embarrassment lasted for five hours, and she couldn't borrow a penny.
"I had to say goodbye until nine o'clock in the evening, but I still couldn't be brave enough to ask for money."
When I got home, Xu Beihong sat up in a coma in his dream and asked, "How much did I borrow?"
Jiang Biwei replied, "I borrowed a meal."
"Where is it?" Xu Beihong rubbed his eyes
"I ate my stomach." Jiang Biwei touched his little round belly.
Xu Beihong was stunned for sleepy eyes, without blame, without saying a word, and lay back on the bed and fell asleep.
It is said that Xu Jiang and one of them is responsible for making money and the other is responsible for Gu's family. Then borrowing money should be Xu Beihong's responsibility. Perhaps he thinks that the success rate of asking a woman to borrow money will be higher. But if you ask your woman to ask someone, sleep at home, and look ugly, you have to ask the man what he thinks? What do women think? Anyway, Jiang Biwei remembered it all his life. Fortunately, Xu Beihong didn't complain when Jiang couldn't borrow money. Of course, the most comfortable thing was that he could still sleep if he couldn't eat tomorrow.
The next day, Xu Beihong counted the balance, leaving only one franc . He decided to buy two subway tickets ashamed to go to his friend's house for free. Unexpectedly, there was good news as soon as he went out. The Ministry of Education found that he opened the official fee " near-death list" for international students and sent a month's living expenses to extend his life.
Life is done again, but it hasn't lived for long.
A bad hail smashed through their studio, and the contract stated that regardless of natural disasters and man-made disasters, the tenant's responsibility for repairs shall be borne by the tenant. Xu Beihong was extremely upset. The landlord was very disheartened and renting a place was really an IQ tax.
The studio must be repaired, and the northwest wind must be eaten after repairing, and the official fee is not expected.
Poor and humble couples are mourning, and they usher in the darkest moment. One ran to draw illustrations for the bookstore, and the other went to embroider the department store. But even such jobs with the lowest level and the most underprivileged treatment are short-lived, and priority should be given to French people with high unemployment rates.
"We were struggling for a while, and finally one day, we found that we had reached the end of our lives in Paris. If we didn't think of another way, we had to wait for death (September 1925)"
Xu Beihong knows how to make money, trying to work and study in Paris to solve the economic crisis? He Xu Beihong is nothing! There are so many talented poor painters in Paris, known as the capital of art, and even Xu Beihong is not the turn of his rank. The only way out at the moment is that he worked harder, traveling back to China to move bricks, leaving Jiang Biwei alone in Paris to wait for assistance, and then returned to Paris to finish his studies after he got the money.
The plan is flawless and irrefutable. Jiang Biwei agrees or not. She only attaches a little bit of advice to protect herself: "If the money raised is not enough for us to live in Paris for a minimum of two years, just send me the money and run back to China."
It is reasonable, and Xu Beihong did not agree.
Jiang Biwei, as the person who stayed, seems comfortable, but is actually nervous. There is still a certain risk for a woman to be left alone in a foreign country. If a husband is not around, it is hard for a woman to be unwilling to think about it. According to the Paris price, the two-year living expenses of two people are not a small amount. God knows how long it will take for Xu Beihong to make enough money? She had no reason to wait for no reason.Secondly, the country is so turbulent, how easy is it to get some money? I don’t know what she should do if Xu Beihong fails to raise funds and the travel expenses are not enough to send her?
Especially when all the blood relatives are on the other side of the earth, the negative depression cannot be stopped, and Xu Beihong's wooden head, "How can I know if you don't say it?" will never notice it. It is also possible that even if he notices it, he "does not understand" or "can't" comfort him. This may be because his heart is also made of wood, everything is numb.
"Eight years of marriage, this is the first time we have separated. I can't help but feel horrible and desolate in my heart, but I won't tell him to Mr. Xu, because in the past eight years, I feel that he has never understood and cared for me emotionally."
Jiang Biwei said, "I won't tell Mr. Xu", but there is obviously a huge gap in my heart, and I don't say anything in my mouth. When you suffer grievances, it is important to put your heart in your heart. No matter how blind Xu Beihong turned a blind eye to her emotions in the past, Xu was going to return to China to make money by moving bricks, which was even more painful in comparison. Who will appease him?
Besides, how can Jiang Biwei endure Xu Beihong's indifference in his relationship for eight years and still be willing to follow him? Putting aside love, the fundamental reason is their survival or partnership model.
Jiang and Xu also long for "the world is so big, I want to go and see it." Although the Jiang family is rich, Jiang Biwei said in person that her parents will not sponsor women to start their own careers, so she doesn’t have to think about staying in Europe. However, suddenly someone jumped out and said to her, "I can take you out and see the poetry and distant places of this world." Jiang Biwei still nodded in agreement? !
Although she knew from the beginning that this poor painter only had a share of the official fee for the head, and poverty would accompany her entire life in Europe in the future, the restlessness of desire and curiosity could not be stopped because she was just like Xu Beihong, just like Xu Beihong.
In other words, Xu Beihong must have truly loved Jiang (at least at that time). Before going abroad, Xu and Jiang were already a real couple. Xu Dake followed the practice of many international students at that time, leaving his married wife in his hometown to stay as a widow. After staying for school, he might even bring a new wife back to reunite. Wouldn't it be beautiful! Why should I take Jiang to eat braised vegetables? Even if I drink white porridge, I have to share half of it. It’s useless to make a bucket of rice. How stupid!
can only be said that they have loved each other, but unfortunately one does not know how to care about people, and the other seems to be too pretentious and demanding about care. A completely different intimate relationship will sooner or later happen.
After Xu Beihong left, Jiang Biwei subleases the studio in order to save money and moves into a French woman's house. Interestingly, after Xu Beihong went out to work, Jiang Biwei, who was struggling to support, lived a more comfortable life, because she didn't have to wash clothes, cook and do housework.
She gave birth to a lot of time to play the piano and read books, go to a coffee shop, chat, watch movies, and learn to dance with her friends... It seems that doing housework is the top priority that drags down a woman's happiness.
The problem is coming, isn’t you trying to support it? Still have money to have fun and socialize?
whispered, and a lot of men paid for her. From the photos, she looks really average, but she really can't make you angry. She still surrounds her with a lot of men, and the ones who play with her are super rich young men like Zhang Daofan, Xie Shoukang, , Shao Xunmei, , and Chang Yu. It is said that she has "fair skin and can be broken", leaving indelible memories for her future lover Zhang Daofan.
Nine months later, Xu Beihong returned triumphantly.
Before my butt was hot, I started bragging endlessly. Men who have been away from home for a long time have this problem.
After listening to his ordinary and great story, Jiang Biwei silently wrote a sentence in his diary: "I feel extremely disappointed and melancholy, and even a little angry in my heart, because the haze of difficult life has deepened with his return!"
There is no doubt that Jiang Biwei was annoyed again.
However, everything went smoothly in Xu Beihong's plan.After he set out, he went to Singapore because there are more rich Chinese people there and they are more profitable than in China. By portraying a portrait of a wealthy businessman in Nanyang, Xu Beihong made a fortune of 6,000 or 7,000 yuan in half a year, and the exchange rate was enough for two people to live in Paris for two or three years.
is so dying. After he made money, he did not rush back to France to see if his wife starved to death, but instead made a statement that Shanghai spent money like soil and bought her favorite calligraphy and paintings.
and so much so that Jiang Biwei asked him: "Where is the money?"
Xu Beihong only replied: "I really bought a lot of good things this time." Then he took out a stack of money that he said "a lot left" from him and handed it to Jiang Biwei.
Jiang Biwei stacked the money neatly, licked his index finger back and forth several times, but in fact he didn't count it at all. This "huge amount of money left" would be suspended, let alone support it for two years, whether it could last for a year.
Jiang Bi was furious and remembered what he said at the beginning of his separation.
She asked, "Didn't you let me send me the travel fee to return to China if you don't have enough food and accommodation for two years?"
Xu Beihong said, "Don't you say you don't have enough funds to send it?"
"Then have you enough funds?"
"I've raised enough funds."
"I've raised enough funds."
"I've raised enough funds."
"I've raised enough funds."
"Yes, it's just half of it."
In fact, Xu Beihong is really stubborn. If he has a nervous wife's mind, he will send half of the money back to relieve Jiang Biwei's survival difficulties. Regardless of whether Jiang Biwei has urgent needs for money, if there is, it will rain in time. If there is no right to save the money for his wife, he will take his other half to Shanghai and be free, and no matter how much he spends it.
Forget it, which man will call his wife the money he earns as soon as possible? It's not just that I'll spend it first.
But it must be reiterated that Xu Beihong knows how to make money. He earned two or three years of living costs in half a year, but he just doesn't know how to make money.
So the result was that a new and arduous situation was soon ushered in.
"We have been struggling for ten months, and then we are at the end of our lives and have no choice but to do anything."
Jiang Biwei asked Xu Beihong: "What should I do this time?"
Xu Beihong licked his mouth and slowly said four words: "Repeat the same mistake."
Jiang Biwei He was anxious and said with a tight eyebrow, "I know I'm repeating the same mistake now, how should I solve it?"
Xu Beihong calmed down and said word by word: "Repeat the same mistake - let me go back again."
This time, it was more embarrassing than the last time. Xu Beihong's travel expenses for working this time were borrowed by Li Shengzhang, the Provost of Sino-French University.
1 In April 1927, Xu Beihong set out again to move bricks in Singapore. The legendary re-enactment of a great man leaving his hometown to work to support his beautiful wife.
And just after Xu Beihong went away for less than a month, something big was wrong.
Jiang Biwei suddenly had a high fever. It was found that she was one month pregnant during the diagnosis. This is of course not the cause of the high fever, because her inflamed cecum also seemed to be making trouble. However, Jiang Biwei, who had not planned to have children for nine years, was surprised and surprised that she was very happy.
A male classmate who is still ordinary took care of her (the male classmate is Sun Kuifang, a doctor of medicine, an expert in forensic in my country), and asked a professor in the medical school to treat her. The professor advocated that the cecum be cut first.
It is better not to cut it, but you will suffer as soon as you cut it.
First of all, I vomited day and night, vomited whatever I ate, and my stomach juice was emptied. The oil and salt are completely injected, and the goods are returned as soon as they are eaten, and the filth that is spit on the spittoon is still hot. In order to force supplement nutrition, you can only drop nutrients from the anus.
"I stayed in a foreign country alone and got such a serious illness. Mr. Xu was far away in Singapore. My desolate and painful mood at that time was really indescribable."
This confirms that being left behind is risky. Although Jiang Biwei has Xia Anxiu and his wife like their close relatives, their friends are in a hurry and unable to relieve their worries. If you want to serve a nanny, you have to rely on your relatives.
days later, the hospital said that they could be discharged from the hospital. At this time, vomiting was still ongoing. The hospital said that they were only responsible for cutting the cecum, and there was no problem with the wound healing. Vomiting was another disease and needed to be seen separately. Moreover, the patient It was the disease that occurred before admission, not their pot.
On the ninth day, Jiang Biwei was tortured by his family.
On the tenth day, her best friend Xia Anxiu cooked a pot of radish stewed broth. After eating it, she was regained her soul. She quickly wrote to Xu Beihong to tell her that she was pregnant and asked to send the travel fee to return to China immediately.
Xu Beihong replied: "Come to Singapore immediately, immediately, directly, and I will take you home. "
also comes with a travel fee to Singapore. Jiang Biwei disassembles it and will really thank you - " The money he sent is not enough for my travel expenses. "
Xu Beihong, even if you are unprepared for a son, you don't have to make such a big joke to your wife.
Jiang Biwei has a tough personality and will never ask Xu Beihong to make up for the difference. Instead, she asked her father to ask her, which is undoubtedly equivalent to suing Xu Beihong.
Jiang's father was very angry when he learned about this. He has always been unwilling to fund his daughter who fled against his father's life and deceived his daughter The son-in-law who ran away, but if he doesn't take action now, he will be killed.
Letters take a long time to send a letter. Jiang Biwei waited for three months with a big belly, and finally waited for his father's three hundred yuan in life-saving money.
1927, Jiang Biwei came to Marse Harbor cliff The ocean-going ship set off. She brought seven or eight pieces of luggage and several large wooden boxes for shipping.
Where does so many things come from? It is convenient for a pregnant woman to bring so many things?
It is really not a woman who has too many things this time. I don’t know that the inside is packed and packed, all of which are the treasures that Xu Beihong has come from. It will be impossible for the child to stay in Paris in the future, so this pile of Xu Beihong must be regarded as the "rags" that Xu Beihong cannot put down. Take it away.
simplistic speculation, Xu Beihong should not have deliberately sent less travel expenses, nor was he badly math, but he was not thinking well and did not calculate his own "baby-dirty" consignment fees.
The boat arrived in Singapore, and a more heart-wrenching scene appeared.
"I squeezed into the crowd on the deck and looked at the railing. In my imagination, Mr. Xu would definitely appear at the dock as promised. But no matter how I searched, I couldn't see Mr. Xu. "
The truth is, Xu Beihong...he ran away.
He slipped back to Shanghai first. Leave a letter and said, "Let's wait and see, I will give you a brand new home for your mother and son. "So the reason to go first is to decorate a new home.
The couple who agreed to have returned home became a single thing and went home. The ending of the same fate added a negative comment to Jiang Biwei's diary: "After reading the letter, I felt infinite disappointment and melancholy in my heart, and suffered a heavy blow. "
Xu Beihong, you can't wait and say a word. Is it easy for your wife to carry your son to change the boat?
Xu Beihong left without saying goodbye. Jiang Biwei didn't stay for too long. After a full meal, he continued to set sail again.
1927, two months of hardships, Jiang Biwei finally returned to his motherland, which had been separated for eight and a half years. The people who took the boat were father, mother, her younger brother, Xu Beihong's second brother, Shou'an, and a "Mr. Xu" who she was reluctant to see but couldn't wait to raise an army to punish him.
Follow-up was that Xu Beihong did not prepare his new home either. After the couple reunited, they lived at a friend's house.There is indeed a new home in Xu's mouth. It was the house he booked in Xiafeifang, the French Concession, but it has not been completed yet and it will take three weeks to deliver it at the earliest. So what is Xu Beihong busy with when he comes back early?
This time, the return to China marked the official end of the years of Xu and Jiang in Europe. With many foreshadowings, there are more sharp and more severe contradictions waiting for them. At the end of
, there is a question to explain. As the largest clan of Yixing , did the Jiang family recognize Xu Beihong, a poor son-in-law?
There is one thing that can be dialectically verified. During Xu Beihong's study abroad, his second brother Shou'an, who came from the countryside to Shanghai, was only thirteen years old. He had no skills and had no place to live. He was accepted by Jiang's father and accepted it as his adopted son. He taught him to recognize his words and regarded him as his own. He was older and asked his relationship to find a job for him. For many years, all the food and drink expenses were spent in Jiang's family, and he lived a comfortable life than his elder brother. Until he got married at the age of 21, he was handled by Jiang's mother. If Jiang's father sneered at Xu Beihong, he would never have done his best to the Xu family.
As for why Jiang’s father didn’t fund this poor son-in-law, he would rather suffer the cold wind than be moved? It is not that Jiang's father was stingy and indifferent, but that he was an educator himself. He knew what kind of environment created what kind of characters, wealth and luxury breed laziness, pleasure makes people decadent. He knew that his son-in-law was in full swing, and money intervention might make this will slack and shake, which would be equivalent to destroying his daughter's happy future.
Although she is not happy in the future.
