Many women do not divorce after being cheated, not because they are reluctant to cheat on men.
More than half is really for the sake of the child. If the child becomes independent, the original wife will divorce without hesitation.
For the sake of the child's tolerance, Lan Fang felt very pitiful and respectable.
But the wives are willing to endure, and the mistresses may not be able to cooperate!
This cheating case was contacted by Blue Party last year, and the original wife Ms. Wu said that she does not want to divorce now.
Her husband has been cheating for ten years. She knew from the beginning that her husband was unwilling to break up.
She endured it because the child did not want to divorce, so she had to endure it. She wanted to wait until the child grew up.
After graduating from college and working, she could be independent, so she divorced.
or the mistress can’t be dragged down, and she and her husband can continue to live after the mistress leave.
result neither result was waiting. Her youngest son just entered the third year of high school, and the third year started to get ahead.
Ms. Wu said that she didn't think the mistress really wanted to get ahead, otherwise she wouldn't have been making trouble for so many years and suddenly started to make trouble.
The mistress came for her son, hoping to make the child’s mentality problem and make the child unable to get into a good university.
Why does Ms. Wu feel so? Because Ms. Wu’s eldest daughter got into a good university.
After going to college, the cheating man bought a house for her daughter, saying it was a reward.
The mistress also has a son and is in elementary school, but she is spoiled by the mistress. The
has a mess of grades. This is actually the reason why the cheating man was clamoring for divorce a few years ago and suddenly stopped in recent years.
Maybe he thinks that the mistress’s child has no hope, and he still wants to rely on the original child when he gets old.
The mistress is not only jealous of the original wife, but also resents the original wife's children, so she does not want the original wife's children to do well in the exam.
Lan Fang felt that Ms. Wu’s idea was right, and the mistress was really uneasy at this time.
Because Ms. Wu’s youngest son has just entered the third year of high school and it is still half a year before the college entrance examination.
So Ms. Wu made up her mind to fight back against the mistress. Even if she didn’t solve the extramarital affair, she would not dare to make trouble again.
But she didn't know what to do, so she came to the Blue Party for help.
If you want to fight back against the mistress and solve extramarital affairs, you need to analyze two aspects.
The first aspect is the weakness of the mistress, and you must hit the weakness of the mistress.
Think of this case, the weakness of this mistress is mainly three points
The first point is that this mistress relies very much on cheating men, and she cannot live independently.
Compared with Ms. Wu, she can live on her own even if she divorces.
Missage is different. Before the mistress and the cheating man were together, she was a waiter in a hotel.
Apart from being younger and more beautiful than Ms. Wu, she is more good at coaxing men, she has no advantage.
After being with the cheating man, he immediately gave up his job as a waiter.
Rely on the money given to a cheating man every month. In addition to relying on the child to get ahead, he also wants to get more money for giving birth.
This mistress is not financially independent and relies heavily on cheating men.
The second point is that this mistress is very greedy and jealous.
In fact, all mistresses have weaknesses. They are all greedy and want more.
At the beginning, a man may have cheated on him for several thousand yuan, which is more than a mistress serving employee, so the mistress is satisfied.
But later she found that a cheating man was rich and could give more, so she wanted more.
and she will also become jealous of the original wife, thinking that she must have the original wife, and that the original wife’s children must have the original wife’s children.
If the cheating man is unwilling to give it to him and she dares not ask for it, then destroy what the original partner has.
This is also why the mistress started to get ahead at the critical moment when Ms. Wu’s child took the college entrance examination.
The third point is that this mistress cannot give the future support of the cheating man.
A cheating man will start to pay attention to his children when he reaches a certain age.
begins to weigh which child will become his future support and want to make him have a support for him.
It is obvious that the mistress’s child is a mistress, and it is difficult for a man to rely on a mistress’ child.
And the mistress's child does not seem to be more promising than the original child.
So the cheating man has calmed down and he will not make a divorce at all.
cannot make the cheating man feel safe in the elderly and will also become the weakness of the mistress.
On the other hand, it is the attitude of cheating on a man.
First of all, be clear, a cheating man must have feelings for his mistress and his illegitimate child.
The two have been together for ten years. The cheating man had thought of divorce and marrying a mistress before.
proves that the cheating man has true feelings for the mistress, and the original wife must be clear about this.
Secondly, it is impossible for a cheating man to divorce and marry a mistress now.
A cheating man has feelings for his mistress, but he still cares more about himself.
He is much bigger than his original wife, and he is about to retire and needs to consider his old age.
It is obvious that the mistress is even more unreliable. The original wife and the original wife's children can give the cheating man a sense of security.
Finally, the attitude of the cheating man towards his original wife is what the original wife needs to consider.
To the greatest extent possible, it is necessary to make the cheating man feel guilty, and at the same time, it is necessary to take advantage of the cheating man's expectations for his child.
to make the cheating man feel awe of the original wife, fearing that the original wife will not let the child support him.
Only by grasping these two points can the original wife catch the cheating man.
analyzed the cheating man and mistress to help the original wife solve the problem.
In this case, the Lan party’s advice to Ms. Wu is to start from two aspects.
On the one hand, it is the mistress who wants to stimulate the mistress and make the mistress more serious.
is more tolerant than to continue to be patient, let the mistress make trouble at the critical moment of the college entrance examination next year.
is not as exciting as now to make her a big deal, making the cheating man tired of the mistress, and directly deal with the mistress.
On the other hand, when the mistress makes trouble again, the original wife wants to repair some relationship with the cheating man.
You must learn to let the cheating man see the grievance of his original wife and make the cheating man feel guilty towards the original wife and the original wife's child.
In addition, the original wife should also let her child intervene appropriately, and the child is already sensible.
Instead of hiding it from the child, you help the child make decisions and arouse the child’s disgust.
It is better to respect children, treat children equally, and give them the right to deal with them by themselves.
As long as the child stands on the side of the original wife, the cheating man must have some concerns, so that he will break up with the mistress more firmly.
Last point, don’t kill all the original wife, just cheating men are unwilling to continue with extramarital affairs.
The child support fee for the illegitimate child is inevitable.
Even if the cheating man is unwilling to give it to him, the mistress can still sue him. Instead of letting the mistress make trouble because of the child support, it is better to give it to him directly.
And giving money can reduce the guilt of cheating men towards their mistress and reduce the possibility of rekindling their old love.
Let the mistress not make trouble first, and the child will successfully end the college entrance examination. Ms. Wu will make a decision whether to divorce or not.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
