1. If you depreciate money and rich people deep in your heart, think that money is dirty, and the morality of rich people is questionable, then your subconscious will keep you away from money and rich people, and externally The performance is that you can't make money.
2. People who lack love did not receive love when they were getting along with their parents and other adults when they were young. When they get along with others when they grow up, they will repeat the same relationship pattern. The result is that they still don’t get love. Love, this is psychological compulsive repetition.
3. Some people are "addicted" to suffering. They think suffering is noble, and if they let themselves relax, make themselves happy, and make themselves happy, they will be punished, so they will seek hardship for themselves.

There is a phenomenon, I don’t know if you have noticed it. Money tends to flow to people who are not short of money, love tends to flow to people who are not lacking in love, and suffering tends to flow to people who can endure hardship.
This phenomenon can be explained from many angles, but today we will explain it from a psychological perspective. Use a psychological perspective to look at some psychology and behaviors so that we can live better. This is what we have to do.
1. Psychology explains why money tends to flow to people who are not short of money.
The so-called people who are not short of money are actually people who have established a healthy relationship with money. A very important aspect is that they do not devalue money.
Among the students in our psychological counseling and our psychology training camps, we will find many people who will belittle money and rich people.
For example, a student said that when he was a child, their neighbors were businessmen. Their family was poor, while the neighbor's family was richer, but his father often belittled them, saying that they were businessmen who were greedy, greedy, and restless. Crops are just lazy people, don’t play with their children.
Gradually, he came to have the idea that money is dirty and rich people are morally bad. They only seek pleasure. It can be seen that this visitor gained a moral level by belittling money and rich people. sense of superiority.
Then in order for him to continue to maintain a sense of moral superiority, his subconscious mind will inhibit his ability to make money and keep him away from money and rich people, so that he does not have to become someone he does not like, or even the type of person he hates. .

2. Psychology explains why love flows to those who are not lacking in love.
There is a saying in psychology that everyone must be familiar with. Happy people are healed by childhood throughout their lives, and unhappy people are healed by childhood throughout their lives. Why is this so?
A very important reason is the relationship model. People who were unhappy in childhood did not receive enough love when they interacted with their parents and other adults.
When they grow up, when dealing with others, they will still use the same way of dealing with their parents and other adults when they were children. Then this method will still lack love. This is like walking on the same road, and the result will be the same. .
In fact, the closest word to this explanation is "empathy", which means that you have brought your experience of getting along with your parents to now, and you will only be rigid and use the original way to get along with other people. In order to use this model, you It will induce others to treat you like a parent.
For example, the following case in psychological counseling:
Visitor Zhang Min (pseudonym), she has had several failed relationships. She said that she never gets true love and never gets love. For this reason, she thinks that men They are all bad, and they themselves have a miserable life.
Zhang Min was born in a family that favors sons over daughters. When she was a child, her parents often ignored her and belittled her. Later, they even fostered her with relatives. It can be said that she lacked love very much, so she was sensitive and depressed since she was a child. Also learned to please.

When she was in an emotional relationship when she grew up, when she was with her boyfriend, she did not believe that the other person would love her, so she sensitively looked for clues to verify that the other person did not love her. She suppressed herself, If you obey your boyfriend, you will be disappointed every time.
In this relationship, one of his operations is to induce the other party. If you don't love me, you definitely don't love me. I know you don't love me. This is like a "loop", trying hard to trap the other party, but once there is no trap. If you do it, just try it a few more times. The other party can't resist the temptation, so she admits, "I just don't love you." Well, she succeeded.
The result is that she has verified every relationship she has, and she has come to the conclusion that the other person does not love her. This is called projective identification in psychology, which is a reaction that you project to me. I agree, of course. It can be interpreted as you inducing me to react in a particular way to your reaction.
For a person who lacks love, he will induce others to treat him in a way that lacks love. Therefore, people who lack love cannot get love. This is the psychological reason.
3. Psychology explains why suffering flows to those who can endure hardships.
One student said that now he feels that his family is never happy and lives a miserable life. It is clear that they don’t have to work so hard, but they still have to do it very hard. Work hard and then be moved by yourself.
This student is right. There are indeed many people like this. Subconsciously they like to endure hardship, because enduring hardship can give them a noble feeling. If they do not endure hardship and accomplish something, they will have a sense of dignity. It is a depraved feeling to be opportunistic, take shortcuts, and only know pleasure.
Of course, there is another situation that is also very common, that is, he has a self-prophecy subconsciously. Every time I do something, I must endure a certain amount of hardship and endure a certain amount of setbacks before I can succeed. This has become a A compulsive repetition.
Okay, the above is our psychological discussion on "money flows to those who are not short of money, love flows to those who are not short of love, and suffering flows to those who can endure hardship". Let's briefly summarize it below.
Money flows to those who are not short of money, love flows to those who are not short of love, and difficulties flow to those who can endure hardship:
1. Money flows easily to those who are not short of money, because people who are not short of money do not belittle money easily. And rich people, consciously many people love money, but deep down what about it? Not necessarily. When it comes to money and rich people, you can think about how you judge them.
2. People who lack love have problems with the way they deal with others. This problematic way makes it difficult for them to get love, so the problem lies in their interpersonal relationship model.
3. In the minds of some people, enjoying happiness makes them uneasy, but when they endure hardship, they feel at ease and have a certain sense of moral superiority, so they go for hardship.
