Why can’t you have a love mind when choosing a mate? So what is love brain ? We often see such girls in life. Once she starts to fall in love, her friends won't go out on dates with her, and she doesn't pay much attention to her work. She just thinks about falling in love all day long.
In fact, Teacher Hu does not object to this, but if you decide to marry the other person in such a state, Teacher Hu will definitely not agree.
Why? Because when it comes to marriage, men and women have different goals. Most of us women actually have a little bit of love brain to one degree or another.
Think back to when you first chose to marry your husband, did you think that this person was very nice to me, that this person made me feel good, that this person was quite handsome, and that this person would not let me lose my temper? When he is happy, he will coax me to marry him. Most of us women will use this basis as the standard for choosing marriage.
But I want to tell you a fact . Men are not. When a man chooses a marriage partner, he must be for the purpose of reality . To put it bluntly, they may not necessarily choose the one they like best, but they will definitely choose and which is most suitable for them.
For example, if you are a good match, your job is stable, and your character has many virtuous parts, he feels that after marrying you, you will definitely be able to take care of the family. In fact, this is the psychology of most men .
So if you have a love mentality and go to to choose a marriage partner , it is easy to suffer a loss. Why?
After marriage, you will find that the good things he did towards you gradually disappear. On the other hand, a man may have considered some practical factors when he chose to be with you.
But after marriage, if you do not bring him the benefits he thinks, his feelings for you will become cold. This is also the reason why many marriages cannot go on until halfway.
So today I want to give you two small suggestions for those sisters who may think that you are really in love with your past relationship experiences.
First, you really need to be on guard against human nature.
This is a compulsory course for every adult. That is to say, when you are in an intimate relationship, you must not be like a moth to a flame and give your wholeheartedly. .
I received a consultation like this before. This girl was in love with her boyfriend. The boyfriend told her that I have a wish, which is to build a house for my parents in the countryside, because the people in the village attach great importance to houses. , I feel that it would be shameful for my parents not to build this house in their entire lives..
After hearing this, the girl said: I support you in building a house, what should you do if you need money? It's just that in a relationship, the girl gives half of her salary to her boyfriend every month, and you go and fulfill your dreams. As a result, as the relationship progresses, the boy becomes more and more indifferent to her and does not behave as she expected. In that way, I have paid a lot and we will be able to get married in the end. .
Therefore, your payment must have a bottom line , especially during the relationship, before entering into marriage, it is best to maintain their own independence regarding money .
The second point is that you must have the ability to settle down and make a living.
The reason why you have a love brain is actually analyzed from a psychological depth because many of us women think that after I find a man, after I marry him, this is One of my future dependencies.
Or it is a destination for me in the future, so you will have that kind of feeling. I pay time and money, and I hope to be with him forever.
So the side of also shows that if you don’t have your own rhythm of life, you don’t have a job that you can focus on, you don’t have your own interpersonal circle, you don’t have some life goals that you set for yourself, as small as the recent one I want to lose weight, so much so that I want to take a certificate .
If you don’t have a good arrangement for your life, you will put all your focus on your relationship with this man, so no matter you are in your twenties, thirties, or forties. If you are immersed in the state of love brain, it means that you may really need to spend more time on yourself .
