My sister-in-law installed the air conditioner I bought for my mother in my nephew’s room, and asked me to pay for the installation fee. She was so angry that she never bought anything for the old man, because she didn’t want to thank you for spending money. If you don’t buy it after seeing you for a long time, they themselves They will put it forward, and if they buy it again, it will suit their needs. How great.
Let’s see what netizens say:
By the way, it is often said that other people’s children are very filial and her life is miserable. I bought it for her, but she was dissatisfied and had to be scolded. If it weren't for my mother, there would be nothing I could do. I really don't want to deal with this kind of person.
Don't be angry, I just want to make my mother and brother angry breast cancer , don't worry about it! This 1,100 will be deducted from the Chinese New Year fee! Ignore them.
Why don’t our two sisters buy anything for his mother? We all get things from her parents’ house, so forget about her own mother’s. She still misses mine every day and takes mine. It seems that I am too kind, so we have to fight. OK [cover face][cover face][cover face][cover face].
Don’t worry, your sister-in-law has two sons. In the future, the two daughters-in-law will also educate their grandchildren. If they are not filial to her, it will be reincarnation.
My sister-in-law is extremely cold and unreasonable, but she married a daughter-in-law who is smart and lively. Listen to her again.
Wait until your sister-in-law is older. Now she is just young and is suppressing her daughter-in-law.
You won’t be angry if something costs more than two thousand yuan. Besides, if it’s for your mother’s family, you just have to pay and it doesn’t matter how they arrange it. I have given nearly 20,000 yuan to my nephew who is one and a half years old. Now that I can go back to my parents’ home and see my parents, brother-in-law, and brother-in-law living in harmony, it is better than anything else! Why spend a little money to be happy? My little nephew hugs me when he sees me. How wonderful!
There is a difference between giving willingly and passively being deceived!
You pay them to make peace? Do you owe them this much? Their peace is based on your money? Thinking about it the other way around, if you didn’t spend any money, should they treat the elderly harshly? This sister-in-law of
is really weird, and you have to pay for the installation fee. There are so many weird things. My sister-in-law spends my parents’ money and I still have to pay for it.
When I lived in my workplace, I would put the stew left over from lunch in the cafeteria into a porcelain vat, send it home to my parents, and then rush back to work. I wanted my parents to eat it, and my parents were willing to give it to their son. After a few times, I became unhappy. One time I gave him rice flour stew. When I entered the room, my parents were lying down to rest. I put the lunch box in front of them and said, "Powder meat stew, you guys." Eat. My mother said, we just had dinner, let’s leave it there. I said you should eat some, don’t let him eat all the time. As soon as the words faded, my dad said angrily, "Don't give it away next time." I haven’t given it away since then. I just love buying food for my mom. [Red face].
Yes, I won’t give it away. If others don’t value your goodness, they are doing harm to themselves. If they don’t value it, they will be too lazy to serve it, and I won’t be disrespectful.
is correct, just don’t send it. Me too, my parents gave my eldest sister and her daughter to eat the things they bought back from my parents' house. I would buy less or not buy them in the future. As a result, my mother became anxious again and asked me for them.
asked you to help your eldest sister and her daughter in the end. No problem, the old man's idea is to try to balance things out. Maybe you have a better life than your sister. But these are all the old man's own ideas, and he basically doesn't care about the children's ideas. On the surface, it is not biased, but in fact it is biased. From now on, you try to buy things that can only be used by the elderly. You don’t need to buy anything like food. The elderly are basically reluctant to eat. You can buy better health products, such as calcium tablets and .
Don’t worry! You reap what you sow. My mother-in-law used to do this to me because I married far away. She looked down on me and often found trouble to bully me. My husband was useless. Now that my son has grown up and I have started working, my mother-in-law is also old. , my mother-in-law is often picked on by my sister-in-law. Don’t call me generous, I just want to live my own life.
More than a thousand yuan will mess up the family relationship? Mom will eventually go back to her parents' home to get along with her sister-in-law. If your mother doesn't want you, she has to live in peace. It's okay for her to pass it on to her grandson. You spent money. If your sister-in-law treats your mother better, you should also treat her as a filial piety. We sisters. , I gave all the thousands to me when I was sick, and so did my nephew, and the same goes for normal times. When we eat out, we are afraid that the sisters will fight for the money, so we put the money at the cashier first, but they asked the cashier to return it to us, and they rushed to pay. But I remember their kindness. If I can't repay their kindness, I will ask future generations to repay it for me.
I also bought an air conditioner for my mother a few years ago. I think I bought it for 2400. Later, my mother took turns living in her children's homes. My brother dismantled the air conditioner in my hometown and installed it in his room. Now my mother is living in my hometown again. It’s hot every day, the temperature is 40 degrees in Chongqing, and I’m embarrassed to ask my brother to buy one for my mother. What should I do?
What's so embarrassing about this? I can only say that your brother is not filial at all, and he doesn't care about your mother at all. I don’t believe he doesn’t even have more than 2,000 yuan?
When my eldest sister and I go out to buy anything, we always rush to pay for it. In March, there was something wrong with the speakers on my father-in-law’s TV. My eldest sister said that I would buy a new TV for my father. We would go watch the TV together and negotiate the price. Later, my eldest aunt directly scanned the QR code to pay without giving me a chance to pay. Our family gets along very well and is very close, and we will not have any conflicts over a small amount of money. My eldest aunt gave us money and gifts, so I bought clothes and shoes for my husband and nephew. I used to run my own clothing business. I always had good-looking clothes and matched them with my eldest aunt. I sent them to the same city quickly. My eldest aunt has better conditions than us. When my father-in-law was hospitalized and my family came to visit me, my eldest aunt paid for all the meals. One or two thousand for a meal was very generous. Oh, by the way, my father-in-law’s monthly pension is quite high, and I, my sister-in-law and eldest aunt, pay for most of the shopping. Therefore, our family does not care about money. I am not the kind of sister-in-law who likes to take advantage of others. No one should spend money on me. Many things depend on what I want to do. Family harmony is stronger than anything else. In my mother-in-law's family, there is no such thing as a married girl being an outsider. The girl is still the sweetheart of her parents.
On my mother's 60th birthday, my sister and I just started working and didn't have much money, so we bought a woolen coat for my mother together. Unexpectedly, we took it home and made my mother angry. We picked up the clothes. He threw it out, saying that we were wasting money, and scolded her to death. At that time, my sister and I shed tears of grievance, and from now on we will no longer buy gifts for my mother [crying].
If your sister-in-law doesn’t reimburse you for the money for the air conditioner, take the air conditioner back for your own use, and return your mother’s money to him. Next time, stay less involved in your family’s affairs. It’s useless for you to feel sorry for your mother. The old man still favors his son.
Although my parents are the only daughter. What a headache. If you take them out to eat or buy things, you will be scolded. They say I spend money indiscriminately. Then you have to bring your own water and bread when you go out to play. I was so angry that I didn’t want to deal with them. Then he said that so-and-so’s children were unfilial and would not take their parents out to play, eat or buy anything. Even if you take them out, you won’t buy anything for the elderly. I really don't know what they want. They envy the rich and filial sons and daughters of other elderly people, and they also want to compare with others. I also feel that your financial ability is not good, and I cannot bear to spend too much money on you and increase your burden. Just understand.
You are still young and cannot understand the hearts of your parents. Your parents are afraid that you will spend money, which is why you behave like this. If you tell your parents how much you earn in a month, your parents will be able to enjoy it safely if they are well-off.
My nephew was sick and he lent me 2,000 yuan from thousands of miles away. The whole family thought of borrowing from me. When I borrowed the money, he said he would give it to me, and then he said he would give it to me when I get married... and then he didn't say he would pay me back. My nephew is 15 years old today [cover face] [cover face] [cover face face], see clearly, and never talk about money from now on. Spending a little money to see a person clearly is worth it. Also, if you observe the details of that person through these things, there are big problems with his character in all aspects...
If your sister-in-law doesn't give you the money for the air conditioner, take it back and use it for yourself, and take your mother's money. Give it back to him, and next time, stay out of your mother's family's affairs. There is no point in feeling sorry for your mother. The old man still favors his son. Is
such a deadlock for one thousand yuan? Just have less contact from now on.
needs to be calculated once and for all. The best way to stop losses is to show your attitude. In the future, you will be honest and you will not dare to manipulate others so casually.
My mother gave birth to two sons and two daughters, both of whom were filial.One year, my husband went to my mother's house to take a nap in the summer. My parents gave my husband a room with air conditioning (which I bought) for him to rest. The two of them were in another room without air conditioning, swinging a cattail leaf fan. My husband said he was very happy. I was so ashamed that I asked someone to install an air conditioner in another room that afternoon. I told me about it when I came back. I praised him so much that I was very satisfied that my husband was like this.
You just can’t think about it, and the money you spent has added trouble to yourself. If you think about it from another angle, you have already bought an air conditioner for your mother, and you have fulfilled your filial piety (karma has brought you blessings). At the same time, you understand that your mother is diligent and frugal in her life. You have been saving for a lifetime, but she is reluctant to spend money even if it is for her children. Whether it is true or false, my brothers and sisters have kept your blessings. Thank her. In fact, some people and things are better understood psychologically. There is no need to say it out, that can only be Just make yourself unhappy. Happiness is just one day, and unhappiness is just one day. Why not live happily every day? My personal opinion, don’t criticize if you don’t like it.
Is it for my own good fortune to buy things for my mother? I feel sorry for her that she bought it because of the scorching heat. Now she has spent money and has no use. Who wouldn’t be angry?
It’s not a calculation. You feel sorry for your mother, and your mother feels sorry for her grandson. Moreover, your brother and sister-in-law live with your mother, so they must tolerate each other in life. The air conditioner is installed in the grandson’s room, and the old man goes into the air-conditioned room if he feels hot. It’s just right. It also enhances the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. You are spending money for your mother, as long as your mother misses you.
What’s awesome is that the air conditioner is installed in my nephew’s house, and I have to call someone to pay for the installation fee. It’s really disgusting! I understand you. My mother also has this kind of personality. Every time I buy something, she has to choose from thousands of things. For example, my mother has arthritis and I buy her summer short-sleeves. When I buy short-sleeves, she says not to buy them randomly, because it doesn’t suit her. . She wanted something with a collar and something that could protect her elbows and ankles. I said it could only be long-sleeved and couldn't be worn in the summer. Well, I couldn’t help it. I was really blind. I spent a lot of money to find a long-sleeved but very light and breathable one. I could barely wear it in the summer. She also said that I don’t know how to buy anything. How can I buy it in the summer? A long-sleeved one. Isn't it hot? If you don't buy something well, don't buy blindly. Later, I bought various styles not to mention. Finally, I found a silk one with a tie, short sleeves, and cool. She said it would be too wasteful to buy any silk one, and then she wore the old lady clothes she made every day, as well as the T-shirts that I had eliminated. shirts and vests. Our body shapes are different. My vest can just fit into my trousers and is obviously a bit longer. well. The main reason for the older generation is that they don’t want to spend their children’s money. I am an only child, and my mother is doing her best for me, but every time after shopping she gets scolded without saying a word of kindness. I am so angry that I don’t even want to talk to her for several days. But isn’t that the case with an only child? I forget about it after a few days, and I want to buy something for her.
Don't be angry, I do this kind of thing all the time. Two years ago, my mother's TV broke, and my brother didn't care. (I married far away) so he transferred 1,500 yuan to my mother and asked her to call her I went to buy a TV with my cousin. She didn’t want to trouble others, so she gave the money to my brother to buy it. My brother added a few hundred yuan and bought a new one to hang in his living room, which he used for nearly ten years. My mother dismantled the old TV and installed a [black cable] [black cable]. What else can I do? There is no need to quarrel, just do your own filial piety!
Anyone with brothers in the family will feel this way after they get married. Before marriage, I lived frugally for many years to make money to build a house for my family. Now I don’t even have a place to live. I pack a lot of stuff during the holidays, and also need to pay for it. Looking at my sister-in-law's face, I'm not in the mood to buy anything now. I just give her money and don't eat at my parents' house anymore. I called my mother in the hospital after I gave birth. My mother said, why is your mother-in-law here with me? She thought she was married off. My daughter belongs to someone else. She doesn't care about anything. She only invited my son over for dinner when he was 9 days old, and she treats her like a relative. Now that my son is four and a half years old, my mother has never bought him a single piece of clothing. She said her grandchildren are all No matter how good it is, it’s best to be close to his grandma. Regarding matters related to my natal family, my mother wants us to be active when it comes to contributing money and effort, but we can’t say anything. For a married daughter like me, just live a good life. My natal family will treat it as ordinary relatives. Just come and go.
When you get married, pay less attention to your mother's family's affairs, especially in families with older brothers and younger brothers. It's all about calculations. You have to be filial to the elderly, and the elderly generally don't appreciate it. Or use your money to give to your sons and grandchildren. You are thankless for your money and effort, but the elderly are not. Get a good reputation.
At least your sister-in-law still lives with your mother, which is very rare. You have also saved a lot of things. Just thank your sister-in-law for her efforts! [Like][Like][Like].
Yes, my mother keeps saying that her daughter and son are not biased, but she is very honest in her approach. In fact, the daughter can be discarded.
My sister-in-law has a strong mother. She doesn't like serving him like the empress dowager. She also demands that you serve her like her, otherwise she will scream and scream. She looks great just because she has a lot of money. It's annoying to look at. Your home is in Xinjiang [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet]
We are in Wuhan, it is after 9 o'clock in the evening.
My husband and I were out of town. We bought a lot of things when we came home. My brother took them all away at my house, and his sister Bao Yuan took them away at my husband's house. The old man couldn't enjoy even a single scumbag. It's more convenient to give money. Anyway, the old man's money has been stolen by them long ago. Even the two hundred yuan New Year's money cannot afford to give to my grandson. In fact, the root cause is that the elderly are accustomed to it, so no one else is to blame.
My brother’s air conditioner, which they have been using for five years, was transferred to me by his wife for NT$500 less (it was kept in the original room for the younger brother to use), saying that it was purchased for NT$3,700 and kept for NT$3,200. Stuff the child's stroller or something in the closet that cannot be moved, so that no one can use it. My eldest brother didn't even know she did that.
The tip of the needle is not big, but it can hurt people the most.
The tongue is boneless, but it can hurt people the most.
There are many seemingly trivial things, but
is the last straw that crushes people.
Don't let your kindness become a flaw in your life.
The prerequisite for a good life,
is to first not wrong yourself, give it to you and yourself, and encourage each other.
Don’t take it seriously. I bought the fully automatic washing machine for my parents. They don’t use it because it wastes water. I would rather use a double-tub washing machine. The vacuum cleaner I bought will collect dust wherever I put it. Hey, I said I won’t do it again. I won’t buy anything for you.
is that some men lick the dog so much that they drag their parents along with them. The key point is that some parents are not able to handle it, and in the end they end up being peeed all over by the dog.
My situation is even worse than yours. I guess it’s the bias caused by our parents’ overemphasis on boys.
What's wrong with your parents getting along well with your daughter-in-law? Your parents haven't raised your daughter-in-law, so if you want your daughter-in-law to be filial, you have to pay a little bit. The same goes for the daughter who pays more, and the parents and daughter-in-law who get along better. The family does not need to worry too much.
I installed an air conditioner for my parents-in-law in my hometown. One year, my sister-in-law gave birth to her second child. She has been living in her parents' house since she got married and could not go back to her husband's house for a month a year. My father-in-law called my husband: You can buy another air conditioner. It's so hot that your son will need it when he comes back from summer vacation. Not to mention that the summer vacation has not yet started, even during the summer vacation, my son lives in an air-conditioned room with my father-in-law. My mother-in-law old cold legs is afraid of the cold, so I am afraid that I am a fool who knows who I am buying this air conditioner for, right? How much money has she saved by living in her parents' home for more than ten years? Do you want to plot against your brother and sister-in-law even for an air conditioner?
I think filial piety, not only filial piety, but more importantly obedience, follow the old man’s wishes and don’t impose your own will on the old man. To be honest, the old man can’t stand the coldness of the air conditioner, the biting cold, but the old man is willing to give it to his grandson, she Be happy, just be happy, we are all one family, don't worry too much, everything will be happy if your family is harmonious.
Sometimes I feel that it is one thing to take the initiative to give something, but it is another thing to ask for it, not to mention asking for it in a roundabout way, which makes me feel uncomfortable.
When my own sister was a child, she didn’t feel that she was going around the corner.
If the old man says no, just take it back by yourself. Don’t think it’s because the old man is stubborn. There is a reason for the old man to be stubborn. Your mother said she wants your sister-in-law to refund your money, just ask her directly! do not be shy.
is something you just can’t figure out! Since the air conditioner was given to your mother, she has the final say on who installs it.Do you usually give money to your mother? Looking at the situation, she also spent it on her grandson. Do you care? It's your business whether to give it or not. What your mother does is her business. Why should you get angry and offend others. You can only control yourself by doing less, talking less, and making troubles. In this way, you can save money, effort, and worry.
Old people all have similar ideas. My mother’s house was being renovated, and she asked her to leave a room for me. I paid for the decoration, and also bought an air conditioner and TV, but I didn’t sleep much. My brother and his sister-in-law wanted to move back with my parents. Yes, their house is reserved for the mother-in-law. They moved my room back to my niece and my niece lived in it because she didn't have an air conditioner or TV installed during her vacation. My mother said I wouldn’t be able to come back more than a few times a year anyway. The big TV I bought for my mother's room was also moved to my brother's room. Open your eyes, close your eyes! They are all relatives. After all, my brother-in-law and his wife are pretty good to me. Now every time I go back, I have to worry about where to sleep [covers face].
Although I am also a sister-in-law, of course my two sisters-in-law are not so willing to give up to her parents! Everything in my family that his parents want to enjoy is paid for by the two of us. My sister-in-law is the kind of person who just comes back and enjoys it... This matter is very simple. Just tell your sister-in-law and ask her to give you 1,100 yuan. After all, you can't give this money for nothing. Forget your mother's 1,300, just treat it as if she bought it for her grandson. Of course you will be angry at being schemed against. You have to think about how to recover the losses. The best way~
I don't agree with you. Same thing. When I give the same thing to my sister-in-law, I will also buy one for my mother. It doesn’t matter what food I buy. I just buy food for my sister-in-law and nephew. My sister-in-law likes durian, so I take her to buy one for each of us. Anyway, I never care about this. My mother is also a very frugal person, even if she spends dozens of dollars, she will still give it to me. When my sister-in-law had no money to buy a mobile phone, she asked me to borrow a thousand dollars, so I directly gave it to her and refused to let her pay it back. Of course, I would change it later. Even my sister-in-law will buy things for me when she comes.
People have weird ways of thinking when they are old. I bought mosquito nets for each of my parents' beds. There were many mosquitoes in my house on the first floor, and my parents were unwilling to hang the mosquito nets and light a lot of mosquito coils. I went home to help my mother. My father firmly disagrees with hanging the mosquito net. My mother took down the mosquito net not long after. I bought it for 3 hundred yuan, and I have been hanging the mosquito net myself.
When my grandma was living at my aunt's house, I bought two bags of apples. The big bag of crisp apples was given to my aunt, and the small bag of more expensive soft apples was specially for my grandma to eat. I specifically told my aunt that she forgot to give it to her daughter who she recognized as living in quarantine. I didn’t care and asked my aunt to get it back. From then on, whenever I gave me milk, it no longer went through my aunt's hands. My husband and grandma love to drink nutrition express but they wouldn't buy it. I went back and bought a box and the old lady was very happy. She is ninety and doesn't drink any time. She only drinks one every few days to satisfy the old lady. My husband’s fifth aunt always hides things behind her words, and we can’t afford it if she’s used to it! Oh my God, what has she bought? Grandma only got a box of drinks from me, and I was basically away from home.
From now on, spend less money on your nephews, so that they can understand what it means to take advantage and suffer big losses. When you are calm, tell your brother and sister-in-law how they were deceived, so that everyone can understand that when buying things for your mother in the future, do not give money directly or go through anyone else's hands.
Mommy’s heart has long been unable to accommodate you. Do you have nothing at all? It’s better not to do things that move yourself but not others. If you do things that will make you sad and morally unworthy [cover your face], I’m just as stupid as you are. Now I understand. Just ask for it. Is my little family no good? Who help us. Both parents thought we were rich.
Let’s think about it differently. If you see a (family) person clearly at 1100, you can save a lot in the future. Isn’t this great? Under normal circumstances, for the elderly, their daughter is a guest when she gets married, and the children and grandchildren of other people's family are their family.
Before buying something, think about whether the elderly need it. Generally, the elderly cannot use air conditioners because their health does not allow it. My brother also installed one in my mother’s house, but she didn’t use it. She didn’t turn it on until my niece and nephew came back. She said the air conditioner was uncomfortable.
I also made my mother half-infuriated. I was the one who provided the money and effort, but she could call me cruel and heartless for a trivial matter. I was devastated.Why are you becoming more and more unreasonable as you get older?
Hey, it’s the same. My mother is like this too. She was afraid that my grandma would be hot, so she bought her an air conditioner. The result was great. They installed it in my brother’s room upstairs. My grandma and the others sleep downstairs, never upstairs. ...So, you taste it carefully.
It’s okay to love your nephew. It’s less than three thousand yuan, and the nephew is also a descendant of her mother’s family. I think it’s pretty good. My parents are used to being frugal, so let her do it!
It may be that your family is in good condition, or it may be that you are partial to your younger son. I think your mother is willing to install your nephew's house. If you are rich, it is difficult to buy it. If you are willing, just buy it for more than 1,000 as a lesson. You can't do things without doing things, and you will be exhausted. No use. If you remain silent, they may feel sorry for you. If you object fiercely, money will be spent and people will be offended. Learn your lesson and recite it silently three times in your heart, my biological mother, my biological mother, my own biological mother [呲呲].
Seeing this reminds me of an incident at my eldest sister’s house. My niece is a filial child. She bought sea cucumber for her parents. She thought that her parents would eat one sea cucumber every day to replenish their health, so she said she would eat it first and then buy it for you. As a result, my eldest sister gave her son's scallions and fried sea cucumbers, and the whole meal was completed. My niece was so angry that I couldn't even bear to eat it for you. In the end, I fried it and finished it in one meal. It was a waste of my daughter's filial piety.
My sister-in-law used my mobile phone to register an account while my parents-in-law had something to do. My second-married daughter-in-law thought she was asking him to do something, so she started borrowing money every three days. First, two cigarettes worth 2,000 yuan, and then another 3,000 yuan was not paid back. I borrowed 2,000 Landlords and immediately found a lawyer myself. My sister-in-law also came and asked me to borrow money. Now I feel angry and want to get the three thousand back, but my mother says forget it.
My mother-in-law had something to do, and my uncle was a good talker (he was my husband’s brother-in-law, and he was married for the second time). I originally planned to ask him to help, but before the matter was settled, he came to borrow money again and again, saying it was to fight the landlord. My husband’s sister also came to borrow money, and the whole family came to borrow money in batches. My sister-in-law also used my ID card phone number to register other accounts while I was busy. Do you understand?
Doesn’t the air conditioner include installation when purchased? Why the 300 installation fee? The location of
is not ideal, like extending the pipe or something.
There is a charge for drilling holes, extending pipes, and working at heights.
100 Just ask for it. Even if you don't give it, they still owe you. They will bow down when they see you in the future. My cousin defrauded me of 300 yuan more than ten years ago and refused to pay it back (I had no money at that time, so I helped her with the money I spent to make ends meet). I didn’t say a word to her, only told other people, and acted very angry. Someone always spread the word. , dare not see me. Now that I have money, she doesn't care who borrows it from me, so I feel relaxed. My cousin is cheating money everywhere to get by. Why don't you install it yourself? My husband installed the air conditioner for my mother-in-law. They bought it back home. I watched it installed. It is not good for the elderly to use air conditioners because they are prone to wind. A ceiling fan is enough.
The old man didn't live with him, and he didn't seem to live alone. Where to install the air conditioner was a matter for discussion between the two of them who lived together. When a woman gets married, she only belongs to the same family as her husband and children. My brother-in-law’s family is someone else’s, so don’t stretch your hands too far, as it will be a thankless task!
Forget it, all the things I bought for my parents, as long as my sister-in-law liked them, were moved away. My father’s sister-in-law blocked me, and my brother couldn’t contact me more than a few times throughout the year.
Don’t worry too much about your nephew, as long as she is filial to your mother! I am the eldest aunt, and I pay a lot of money for my parents when they are sick. I usually spend 5,000 to 6,000 a year to buy fruits and medicine for my parents, and I send red envelopes to my nieces and nephews during the solar terms.
My sister-in-law knows that you posted this matter on the headlines and regrets it so much. Besides, your mother doesn't have air conditioning. If you communicate with her properly, maybe the air conditioning is installed in her room.
advises you not to be angry. The money has gone out and you have to come back. If you are angry and your body is bad, you will be in trouble with both people and money. After all, it is for your own mother. You have come to your heart. It is your mother's fault if you don't accept it. Money is hard to buy: I am willing. "Think openly. As the saying goes: filial piety moves heaven and earth; there are gods in your head, as long as you have a clear conscience.What's wrong with
? When your daughter gets married, you are an outsider everywhere. As long as the old man is not without food, you can just give him some money during the New Year and holidays, and buy clothes in daily life. The more you do, the more angry you will be.
In what age, there are no air conditioners in our homes [face covering]. Since my home is not fully furnished, I still want to kiss you. She is a good daughter, but think about it, many old people are unwilling to use air conditioners. It doesn't matter if you put it in your nephew's room. Just put it there and don't say anything more. It is better not to retaliate against someone who has offended him. When you are a sister-in-law, you go back to your parents' home and do more and talk less to persuade them to get along.
Don’t think about it, even if your mother asked you to install an air conditioner, and you go out and say that your daughter installed an air conditioner for herself, if others say something, why doesn’t your son install it? Is it unfilial? You are provoking a contradiction. As a daughter, it is enough to buy some food and clothing for her parents. Don't get involved in family matters, especially if the brother-in-law and his wife are difficult to talk to. The same experience, both abhorrent and repulsive. If you think about it, parents are always partial, especially their son. My sister-in-law and sister-in-law have always been rakes to dig out money for myself.
If you bring mom to your home for the summer, you won't have these troubles.
If you are angry, let me tell you that our family is even weirder. I installed a water heater for my semi-paralyzed in-laws, but my sister-in-law directly installed it in her bathroom. She said that her parents-in-law didn’t know how to use it and were afraid of being electrocuted and wasting water. I was speechless! You are still your own mother and sister-in-law, think about it and feel at peace!
Two days ago, my wife suddenly sent a video in the afternoon saying that she had gone to her parents' house. She was worried that something might happen and immediately called to inquire. It turned out that the mother-in-law's tricycle broke down. When my wife found out, she immediately bought a new one worth more than 4,000 yuan and gave it to her. The broken one was also bought by my wife. The mother-in-law refused and asked for money, so of course she refused! A daughter spends her money at her parents’ house, and when she earns money, she stays at her husband’s house. It’s normal to occasionally buy things for her parents! From the phone call, I heard that although the mother-in-law complained about spending money indiscriminately and using the old ones in various ways, she was indeed very happy! That’s enough, she’s happy and so are we!
I gave money to my mother, but my mother turned around and secretly gave it to my sister. During the Chinese New Year, she gave 200 to my children and 500 to my sister’s children. There were too many things like this and I would lose my temper, but I still bought her things, and my relatives just responded like that. If you don't care about things, keep in touch less. Don't be so fussy about it. I don't think it's a big deal. Just treat it as a device for your nephew. If your mother is willing to install it in the future, buy another one. It's not particularly expensive. It is said that in this era without air conditioning, it is indeed a bit backward. I bought the
air conditioner for my mother, but my mother was not willing to install it, so she installed it for her nephew, who is also my nephew. I paid 1,100 yuan myself, and I didn’t have much money, so why not find a good person and happily agree to it. If you make people unhappy, why bother!
I would also be angry about this. The premise for me to contribute money is to be filial to my mother, not to mention that my life is not very well-off. I really feel that I have been tricked.
Fortunately, my brother does not live with my mother. He paid for her to install an air conditioner. He is reluctant to turn it on only when the weather is very hot. He usually blows the fan and only turns on the air conditioner at night when he goes to bed. The old man really favored his son and grandson. He gave them money and things, but then turned around and gave them to his son. There was nothing he could do.
If I were me I would never buy it for an old man! I bought it for her and she didn’t want it, which made me very angry! I spent my own money to buy some anger! Let the old lady keep the heat as long as she wants. I don’t want to buy an air conditioner for her!
I rarely care about my parents' affairs, but this kind of thing often happens. You feel sorry for your parents, and the parents are willing to do everything for their son, but in the end it doesn't work out.
This is nothing. Elderly people don’t like to use air conditioners. They install them in their nephew’s room and can go there at any time. The nephew is sweet-tongued and prefers his aunt.
If the elders in the family are not honest, the final outcome will be that they will not have a good old age and their children will turn against each other. A family must have a good old man, a sensible old man. Happy old age and sisterly unity.
Why should you be angry? If you give it to the old man, it belongs to her. She can control it how she wants. It was originally about filial piety, but such noise only caused more conflicts. My mother is an 80-year-old farmer, and our sisters all gave us the money. She saved up 10,000 yuan and gave it to my nephew in one fell swoop. I still buy the things she needs [face covering].
I personally think it’s because you didn’t handle the matter well. It is true that your starting point is to let your parents enjoy the air conditioner, but the elderly cannot blow the air conditioner at all, and they feel uncomfortable when the air conditioner is turned on for a long time. You think it is good, but it may not be good to others. Maybe you still take it for granted and hope to be praised by others. You are very filial, how wrong you are!
This feeling really makes people feel unhappy. It’s not about the amount of money, it’s just that what my mother and sister-in-law did makes me feel aggrieved. I can’t say more, it’s really spending money to make people angry.
In fact, after your sister-in-law installs the air conditioner, she will give you the money directly, so there won’t be so much to worry about. You buy it for the old man because it is your intention. The old man may be used to being thrifty all his life and is reluctant to use it. Now it's mainly your sister-in-law's problem.
It seems that I have met a good sister-in-law! I have been married for ten years and have no children. I often stay at my parents’ house. My sister-in-law installed an air conditioner in my room because she was afraid that I would get too hot!
kept doing the same thing and took apart the air conditioner for his own use. He not only educated himself, but also educated his sister-in-law.
When I came home the day before yesterday, my mother said that other people’s sons came back once or twice a month, and they couldn’t take care of their father. In fact, the frequency of coming home was similar to that of me, and I never came home empty-handed. I can't go home often because of work. But try to give the best within your capabilities, and whether you accept it or not depends on your own feelings.
I am not filial. My parents have pension money, and my sister-in-law is a scheming person. I only spend money for my husband and children, but my parents and parents-in-law don’t give it to me if they want it or not.
As a daughter, everyone has this kind of grievance. It is better not to interfere in such things in the future. The elderly are indeed not used to using air conditioners. She will be very filial if she does not feel wronged about daily living expenses.
don’t be angry! Install it in your mother's room, and your mother will temporarily move it to her nephew's room, you know.
I feel sorry for you. Sometimes you will find that it is not worth the effort you put in.
Don't be angry. You have spent money to honor your parents. Your mother would rather give it to her grandson to enjoy. It is more comfortable than using it for herself. Now, the purpose has been achieved.
As a daughter, giving things to the elderly makes the elderly happy. The elderly themselves are reluctant to eat them. Their sons and grandsons are happier eating them than they themselves are. If you are unhappy because of this, your good things will disappear immediately. Why do you think so hard about it? . What do you think about
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I also bought an air conditioner for my mother a few years ago. I think I bought it for 2400. Later, my mother took turns living in her children's homes. My brother dismantled the air conditioner in my hometown and installed it in his room. Now my mother is living in my hometown again. It’s hot every day, the temperature is 40 degrees in Chongqing, and I’m embarrassed to ask my brother to buy one for my mother. What should I do?
What's so embarrassing about this? I can only say that your brother is not filial at all, and he doesn't care about your mother at all. I don’t believe he doesn’t even have more than 2,000 yuan?
When my eldest sister and I go out to buy anything, we always rush to pay for it. In March, there was something wrong with the speakers on my father-in-law’s TV. My eldest sister said that I would buy a new TV for my father. We would go watch the TV together and negotiate the price. Later, my eldest aunt directly scanned the QR code to pay without giving me a chance to pay. Our family gets along very well and is very close, and we will not have any conflicts over a small amount of money. My eldest aunt gave us money and gifts, so I bought clothes and shoes for my husband and nephew. I used to run my own clothing business. I always had good-looking clothes and matched them with my eldest aunt. I sent them to the same city quickly. My eldest aunt has better conditions than us. When my father-in-law was hospitalized and my family came to visit me, my eldest aunt paid for all the meals. One or two thousand for a meal was very generous. Oh, by the way, my father-in-law’s monthly pension is quite high, and I, my sister-in-law and eldest aunt, pay for most of the shopping. Therefore, our family does not care about money. I am not the kind of sister-in-law who likes to take advantage of others. No one should spend money on me. Many things depend on what I want to do. Family harmony is stronger than anything else. In my mother-in-law's family, there is no such thing as a married girl being an outsider. The girl is still the sweetheart of her parents.
On my mother's 60th birthday, my sister and I just started working and didn't have much money, so we bought a woolen coat for my mother together. Unexpectedly, we took it home and made my mother angry. We picked up the clothes. He threw it out, saying that we were wasting money, and scolded her to death. At that time, my sister and I shed tears of grievance, and from now on we will no longer buy gifts for my mother [crying].
If your sister-in-law doesn’t reimburse you for the money for the air conditioner, take the air conditioner back for your own use, and return your mother’s money to him. Next time, stay less involved in your family’s affairs. It’s useless for you to feel sorry for your mother. The old man still favors his son.
Although my parents are the only daughter. What a headache. If you take them out to eat or buy things, you will be scolded. They say I spend money indiscriminately. Then you have to bring your own water and bread when you go out to play. I was so angry that I didn’t want to deal with them. Then he said that so-and-so’s children were unfilial and would not take their parents out to play, eat or buy anything. Even if you take them out, you won’t buy anything for the elderly. I really don't know what they want. They envy the rich and filial sons and daughters of other elderly people, and they also want to compare with others. I also feel that your financial ability is not good, and I cannot bear to spend too much money on you and increase your burden. Just understand.
You are still young and cannot understand the hearts of your parents. Your parents are afraid that you will spend money, which is why you behave like this. If you tell your parents how much you earn in a month, your parents will be able to enjoy it safely if they are well-off.
My nephew was sick and he lent me 2,000 yuan from thousands of miles away. The whole family thought of borrowing from me. When I borrowed the money, he said he would give it to me, and then he said he would give it to me when I get married... and then he didn't say he would pay me back. My nephew is 15 years old today [cover face] [cover face] [cover face face], see clearly, and never talk about money from now on. Spending a little money to see a person clearly is worth it. Also, if you observe the details of that person through these things, there are big problems with his character in all aspects...
If your sister-in-law doesn't give you the money for the air conditioner, take it back and use it for yourself, and take your mother's money. Give it back to him, and next time, stay out of your mother's family's affairs. There is no point in feeling sorry for your mother. The old man still favors his son. Is
such a deadlock for one thousand yuan? Just have less contact from now on.
needs to be calculated once and for all. The best way to stop losses is to show your attitude. In the future, you will be honest and you will not dare to manipulate others so casually.
My mother gave birth to two sons and two daughters, both of whom were filial.One year, my husband went to my mother's house to take a nap in the summer. My parents gave my husband a room with air conditioning (which I bought) for him to rest. The two of them were in another room without air conditioning, swinging a cattail leaf fan. My husband said he was very happy. I was so ashamed that I asked someone to install an air conditioner in another room that afternoon. I told me about it when I came back. I praised him so much that I was very satisfied that my husband was like this.
You just can’t think about it, and the money you spent has added trouble to yourself. If you think about it from another angle, you have already bought an air conditioner for your mother, and you have fulfilled your filial piety (karma has brought you blessings). At the same time, you understand that your mother is diligent and frugal in her life. You have been saving for a lifetime, but she is reluctant to spend money even if it is for her children. Whether it is true or false, my brothers and sisters have kept your blessings. Thank her. In fact, some people and things are better understood psychologically. There is no need to say it out, that can only be Just make yourself unhappy. Happiness is just one day, and unhappiness is just one day. Why not live happily every day? My personal opinion, don’t criticize if you don’t like it.
Is it for my own good fortune to buy things for my mother? I feel sorry for her that she bought it because of the scorching heat. Now she has spent money and has no use. Who wouldn’t be angry?
It’s not a calculation. You feel sorry for your mother, and your mother feels sorry for her grandson. Moreover, your brother and sister-in-law live with your mother, so they must tolerate each other in life. The air conditioner is installed in the grandson’s room, and the old man goes into the air-conditioned room if he feels hot. It’s just right. It also enhances the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. You are spending money for your mother, as long as your mother misses you.
What’s awesome is that the air conditioner is installed in my nephew’s house, and I have to call someone to pay for the installation fee. It’s really disgusting! I understand you. My mother also has this kind of personality. Every time I buy something, she has to choose from thousands of things. For example, my mother has arthritis and I buy her summer short-sleeves. When I buy short-sleeves, she says not to buy them randomly, because it doesn’t suit her. . She wanted something with a collar and something that could protect her elbows and ankles. I said it could only be long-sleeved and couldn't be worn in the summer. Well, I couldn’t help it. I was really blind. I spent a lot of money to find a long-sleeved but very light and breathable one. I could barely wear it in the summer. She also said that I don’t know how to buy anything. How can I buy it in the summer? A long-sleeved one. Isn't it hot? If you don't buy something well, don't buy blindly. Later, I bought various styles not to mention. Finally, I found a silk one with a tie, short sleeves, and cool. She said it would be too wasteful to buy any silk one, and then she wore the old lady clothes she made every day, as well as the T-shirts that I had eliminated. shirts and vests. Our body shapes are different. My vest can just fit into my trousers and is obviously a bit longer. well. The main reason for the older generation is that they don’t want to spend their children’s money. I am an only child, and my mother is doing her best for me, but every time after shopping she gets scolded without saying a word of kindness. I am so angry that I don’t even want to talk to her for several days. But isn’t that the case with an only child? I forget about it after a few days, and I want to buy something for her.
Don't be angry, I do this kind of thing all the time. Two years ago, my mother's TV broke, and my brother didn't care. (I married far away) so he transferred 1,500 yuan to my mother and asked her to call her I went to buy a TV with my cousin. She didn’t want to trouble others, so she gave the money to my brother to buy it. My brother added a few hundred yuan and bought a new one to hang in his living room, which he used for nearly ten years. My mother dismantled the old TV and installed a [black cable] [black cable]. What else can I do? There is no need to quarrel, just do your own filial piety!
Anyone with brothers in the family will feel this way after they get married. Before marriage, I lived frugally for many years to make money to build a house for my family. Now I don’t even have a place to live. I pack a lot of stuff during the holidays, and also need to pay for it. Looking at my sister-in-law's face, I'm not in the mood to buy anything now. I just give her money and don't eat at my parents' house anymore. I called my mother in the hospital after I gave birth. My mother said, why is your mother-in-law here with me? She thought she was married off. My daughter belongs to someone else. She doesn't care about anything. She only invited my son over for dinner when he was 9 days old, and she treats her like a relative. Now that my son is four and a half years old, my mother has never bought him a single piece of clothing. She said her grandchildren are all No matter how good it is, it’s best to be close to his grandma. Regarding matters related to my natal family, my mother wants us to be active when it comes to contributing money and effort, but we can’t say anything. For a married daughter like me, just live a good life. My natal family will treat it as ordinary relatives. Just come and go.
When you get married, pay less attention to your mother's family's affairs, especially in families with older brothers and younger brothers. It's all about calculations. You have to be filial to the elderly, and the elderly generally don't appreciate it. Or use your money to give to your sons and grandchildren. You are thankless for your money and effort, but the elderly are not. Get a good reputation.
At least your sister-in-law still lives with your mother, which is very rare. You have also saved a lot of things. Just thank your sister-in-law for her efforts! [Like][Like][Like].
Yes, my mother keeps saying that her daughter and son are not biased, but she is very honest in her approach. In fact, the daughter can be discarded.
My sister-in-law has a strong mother. She doesn't like serving him like the empress dowager. She also demands that you serve her like her, otherwise she will scream and scream. She looks great just because she has a lot of money. It's annoying to look at. Your home is in Xinjiang [I want to be quiet] [I want to be quiet]
We are in Wuhan, it is after 9 o'clock in the evening.
My husband and I were out of town. We bought a lot of things when we came home. My brother took them all away at my house, and his sister Bao Yuan took them away at my husband's house. The old man couldn't enjoy even a single scumbag. It's more convenient to give money. Anyway, the old man's money has been stolen by them long ago. Even the two hundred yuan New Year's money cannot afford to give to my grandson. In fact, the root cause is that the elderly are accustomed to it, so no one else is to blame.
My brother’s air conditioner, which they have been using for five years, was transferred to me by his wife for NT$500 less (it was kept in the original room for the younger brother to use), saying that it was purchased for NT$3,700 and kept for NT$3,200. Stuff the child's stroller or something in the closet that cannot be moved, so that no one can use it. My eldest brother didn't even know she did that.
The tip of the needle is not big, but it can hurt people the most.
The tongue is boneless, but it can hurt people the most.
There are many seemingly trivial things, but
is the last straw that crushes people.
Don't let your kindness become a flaw in your life.
The prerequisite for a good life,
is to first not wrong yourself, give it to you and yourself, and encourage each other.
Don’t take it seriously. I bought the fully automatic washing machine for my parents. They don’t use it because it wastes water. I would rather use a double-tub washing machine. The vacuum cleaner I bought will collect dust wherever I put it. Hey, I said I won’t do it again. I won’t buy anything for you.
is that some men lick the dog so much that they drag their parents along with them. The key point is that some parents are not able to handle it, and in the end they end up being peeed all over by the dog.
My situation is even worse than yours. I guess it’s the bias caused by our parents’ overemphasis on boys.
What's wrong with your parents getting along well with your daughter-in-law? Your parents haven't raised your daughter-in-law, so if you want your daughter-in-law to be filial, you have to pay a little bit. The same goes for the daughter who pays more, and the parents and daughter-in-law who get along better. The family does not need to worry too much.
I installed an air conditioner for my parents-in-law in my hometown. One year, my sister-in-law gave birth to her second child. She has been living in her parents' house since she got married and could not go back to her husband's house for a month a year. My father-in-law called my husband: You can buy another air conditioner. It's so hot that your son will need it when he comes back from summer vacation. Not to mention that the summer vacation has not yet started, even during the summer vacation, my son lives in an air-conditioned room with my father-in-law. My mother-in-law old cold legs is afraid of the cold, so I am afraid that I am a fool who knows who I am buying this air conditioner for, right? How much money has she saved by living in her parents' home for more than ten years? Do you want to plot against your brother and sister-in-law even for an air conditioner?
I think filial piety, not only filial piety, but more importantly obedience, follow the old man’s wishes and don’t impose your own will on the old man. To be honest, the old man can’t stand the coldness of the air conditioner, the biting cold, but the old man is willing to give it to his grandson, she Be happy, just be happy, we are all one family, don't worry too much, everything will be happy if your family is harmonious.
Sometimes I feel that it is one thing to take the initiative to give something, but it is another thing to ask for it, not to mention asking for it in a roundabout way, which makes me feel uncomfortable.
When my own sister was a child, she didn’t feel that she was going around the corner.
If the old man says no, just take it back by yourself. Don’t think it’s because the old man is stubborn. There is a reason for the old man to be stubborn. Your mother said she wants your sister-in-law to refund your money, just ask her directly! do not be shy.
is something you just can’t figure out! Since the air conditioner was given to your mother, she has the final say on who installs it.Do you usually give money to your mother? Looking at the situation, she also spent it on her grandson. Do you care? It's your business whether to give it or not. What your mother does is her business. Why should you get angry and offend others. You can only control yourself by doing less, talking less, and making troubles. In this way, you can save money, effort, and worry.
Old people all have similar ideas. My mother’s house was being renovated, and she asked her to leave a room for me. I paid for the decoration, and also bought an air conditioner and TV, but I didn’t sleep much. My brother and his sister-in-law wanted to move back with my parents. Yes, their house is reserved for the mother-in-law. They moved my room back to my niece and my niece lived in it because she didn't have an air conditioner or TV installed during her vacation. My mother said I wouldn’t be able to come back more than a few times a year anyway. The big TV I bought for my mother's room was also moved to my brother's room. Open your eyes, close your eyes! They are all relatives. After all, my brother-in-law and his wife are pretty good to me. Now every time I go back, I have to worry about where to sleep [covers face].
Although I am also a sister-in-law, of course my two sisters-in-law are not so willing to give up to her parents! Everything in my family that his parents want to enjoy is paid for by the two of us. My sister-in-law is the kind of person who just comes back and enjoys it... This matter is very simple. Just tell your sister-in-law and ask her to give you 1,100 yuan. After all, you can't give this money for nothing. Forget your mother's 1,300, just treat it as if she bought it for her grandson. Of course you will be angry at being schemed against. You have to think about how to recover the losses. The best way~
I don't agree with you. Same thing. When I give the same thing to my sister-in-law, I will also buy one for my mother. It doesn’t matter what food I buy. I just buy food for my sister-in-law and nephew. My sister-in-law likes durian, so I take her to buy one for each of us. Anyway, I never care about this. My mother is also a very frugal person, even if she spends dozens of dollars, she will still give it to me. When my sister-in-law had no money to buy a mobile phone, she asked me to borrow a thousand dollars, so I directly gave it to her and refused to let her pay it back. Of course, I would change it later. Even my sister-in-law will buy things for me when she comes.
People have weird ways of thinking when they are old. I bought mosquito nets for each of my parents' beds. There were many mosquitoes in my house on the first floor, and my parents were unwilling to hang the mosquito nets and light a lot of mosquito coils. I went home to help my mother. My father firmly disagrees with hanging the mosquito net. My mother took down the mosquito net not long after. I bought it for 3 hundred yuan, and I have been hanging the mosquito net myself.
When my grandma was living at my aunt's house, I bought two bags of apples. The big bag of crisp apples was given to my aunt, and the small bag of more expensive soft apples was specially for my grandma to eat. I specifically told my aunt that she forgot to give it to her daughter who she recognized as living in quarantine. I didn’t care and asked my aunt to get it back. From then on, whenever I gave me milk, it no longer went through my aunt's hands. My husband and grandma love to drink nutrition express but they wouldn't buy it. I went back and bought a box and the old lady was very happy. She is ninety and doesn't drink any time. She only drinks one every few days to satisfy the old lady. My husband’s fifth aunt always hides things behind her words, and we can’t afford it if she’s used to it! Oh my God, what has she bought? Grandma only got a box of drinks from me, and I was basically away from home.
From now on, spend less money on your nephews, so that they can understand what it means to take advantage and suffer big losses. When you are calm, tell your brother and sister-in-law how they were deceived, so that everyone can understand that when buying things for your mother in the future, do not give money directly or go through anyone else's hands.
Mommy’s heart has long been unable to accommodate you. Do you have nothing at all? It’s better not to do things that move yourself but not others. If you do things that will make you sad and morally unworthy [cover your face], I’m just as stupid as you are. Now I understand. Just ask for it. Is my little family no good? Who help us. Both parents thought we were rich.
Let’s think about it differently. If you see a (family) person clearly at 1100, you can save a lot in the future. Isn’t this great? Under normal circumstances, for the elderly, their daughter is a guest when she gets married, and the children and grandchildren of other people's family are their family.
Before buying something, think about whether the elderly need it. Generally, the elderly cannot use air conditioners because their health does not allow it. My brother also installed one in my mother’s house, but she didn’t use it. She didn’t turn it on until my niece and nephew came back. She said the air conditioner was uncomfortable.
I also made my mother half-infuriated. I was the one who provided the money and effort, but she could call me cruel and heartless for a trivial matter. I was devastated.Why are you becoming more and more unreasonable as you get older?
Hey, it’s the same. My mother is like this too. She was afraid that my grandma would be hot, so she bought her an air conditioner. The result was great. They installed it in my brother’s room upstairs. My grandma and the others sleep downstairs, never upstairs. ...So, you taste it carefully.
It’s okay to love your nephew. It’s less than three thousand yuan, and the nephew is also a descendant of her mother’s family. I think it’s pretty good. My parents are used to being frugal, so let her do it!
It may be that your family is in good condition, or it may be that you are partial to your younger son. I think your mother is willing to install your nephew's house. If you are rich, it is difficult to buy it. If you are willing, just buy it for more than 1,000 as a lesson. You can't do things without doing things, and you will be exhausted. No use. If you remain silent, they may feel sorry for you. If you object fiercely, money will be spent and people will be offended. Learn your lesson and recite it silently three times in your heart, my biological mother, my biological mother, my own biological mother [呲呲].
Seeing this reminds me of an incident at my eldest sister’s house. My niece is a filial child. She bought sea cucumber for her parents. She thought that her parents would eat one sea cucumber every day to replenish their health, so she said she would eat it first and then buy it for you. As a result, my eldest sister gave her son's scallions and fried sea cucumbers, and the whole meal was completed. My niece was so angry that I couldn't even bear to eat it for you. In the end, I fried it and finished it in one meal. It was a waste of my daughter's filial piety.
My sister-in-law used my mobile phone to register an account while my parents-in-law had something to do. My second-married daughter-in-law thought she was asking him to do something, so she started borrowing money every three days. First, two cigarettes worth 2,000 yuan, and then another 3,000 yuan was not paid back. I borrowed 2,000 Landlords and immediately found a lawyer myself. My sister-in-law also came and asked me to borrow money. Now I feel angry and want to get the three thousand back, but my mother says forget it.
My mother-in-law had something to do, and my uncle was a good talker (he was my husband’s brother-in-law, and he was married for the second time). I originally planned to ask him to help, but before the matter was settled, he came to borrow money again and again, saying it was to fight the landlord. My husband’s sister also came to borrow money, and the whole family came to borrow money in batches. My sister-in-law also used my ID card phone number to register other accounts while I was busy. Do you understand?
Doesn’t the air conditioner include installation when purchased? Why the 300 installation fee? The location of
is not ideal, like extending the pipe or something.
There is a charge for drilling holes, extending pipes, and working at heights.
100 Just ask for it. Even if you don't give it, they still owe you. They will bow down when they see you in the future. My cousin defrauded me of 300 yuan more than ten years ago and refused to pay it back (I had no money at that time, so I helped her with the money I spent to make ends meet). I didn’t say a word to her, only told other people, and acted very angry. Someone always spread the word. , dare not see me. Now that I have money, she doesn't care who borrows it from me, so I feel relaxed. My cousin is cheating money everywhere to get by. Why don't you install it yourself? My husband installed the air conditioner for my mother-in-law. They bought it back home. I watched it installed. It is not good for the elderly to use air conditioners because they are prone to wind. A ceiling fan is enough.
The old man didn't live with him, and he didn't seem to live alone. Where to install the air conditioner was a matter for discussion between the two of them who lived together. When a woman gets married, she only belongs to the same family as her husband and children. My brother-in-law’s family is someone else’s, so don’t stretch your hands too far, as it will be a thankless task!
Forget it, all the things I bought for my parents, as long as my sister-in-law liked them, were moved away. My father’s sister-in-law blocked me, and my brother couldn’t contact me more than a few times throughout the year.
Don’t worry too much about your nephew, as long as she is filial to your mother! I am the eldest aunt, and I pay a lot of money for my parents when they are sick. I usually spend 5,000 to 6,000 a year to buy fruits and medicine for my parents, and I send red envelopes to my nieces and nephews during the solar terms.
My sister-in-law knows that you posted this matter on the headlines and regrets it so much. Besides, your mother doesn't have air conditioning. If you communicate with her properly, maybe the air conditioning is installed in her room.
advises you not to be angry. The money has gone out and you have to come back. If you are angry and your body is bad, you will be in trouble with both people and money. After all, it is for your own mother. You have come to your heart. It is your mother's fault if you don't accept it. Money is hard to buy: I am willing. "Think openly. As the saying goes: filial piety moves heaven and earth; there are gods in your head, as long as you have a clear conscience.What's wrong with
? When your daughter gets married, you are an outsider everywhere. As long as the old man is not without food, you can just give him some money during the New Year and holidays, and buy clothes in daily life. The more you do, the more angry you will be.
In what age, there are no air conditioners in our homes [face covering]. Since my home is not fully furnished, I still want to kiss you. She is a good daughter, but think about it, many old people are unwilling to use air conditioners. It doesn't matter if you put it in your nephew's room. Just put it there and don't say anything more. It is better not to retaliate against someone who has offended him. When you are a sister-in-law, you go back to your parents' home and do more and talk less to persuade them to get along.
Don’t think about it, even if your mother asked you to install an air conditioner, and you go out and say that your daughter installed an air conditioner for herself, if others say something, why doesn’t your son install it? Is it unfilial? You are provoking a contradiction. As a daughter, it is enough to buy some food and clothing for her parents. Don't get involved in family matters, especially if the brother-in-law and his wife are difficult to talk to. The same experience, both abhorrent and repulsive. If you think about it, parents are always partial, especially their son. My sister-in-law and sister-in-law have always been rakes to dig out money for myself.
If you bring mom to your home for the summer, you won't have these troubles.
If you are angry, let me tell you that our family is even weirder. I installed a water heater for my semi-paralyzed in-laws, but my sister-in-law directly installed it in her bathroom. She said that her parents-in-law didn’t know how to use it and were afraid of being electrocuted and wasting water. I was speechless! You are still your own mother and sister-in-law, think about it and feel at peace!
Two days ago, my wife suddenly sent a video in the afternoon saying that she had gone to her parents' house. She was worried that something might happen and immediately called to inquire. It turned out that the mother-in-law's tricycle broke down. When my wife found out, she immediately bought a new one worth more than 4,000 yuan and gave it to her. The broken one was also bought by my wife. The mother-in-law refused and asked for money, so of course she refused! A daughter spends her money at her parents’ house, and when she earns money, she stays at her husband’s house. It’s normal to occasionally buy things for her parents! From the phone call, I heard that although the mother-in-law complained about spending money indiscriminately and using the old ones in various ways, she was indeed very happy! That’s enough, she’s happy and so are we!
I gave money to my mother, but my mother turned around and secretly gave it to my sister. During the Chinese New Year, she gave 200 to my children and 500 to my sister’s children. There were too many things like this and I would lose my temper, but I still bought her things, and my relatives just responded like that. If you don't care about things, keep in touch less. Don't be so fussy about it. I don't think it's a big deal. Just treat it as a device for your nephew. If your mother is willing to install it in the future, buy another one. It's not particularly expensive. It is said that in this era without air conditioning, it is indeed a bit backward. I bought the
air conditioner for my mother, but my mother was not willing to install it, so she installed it for her nephew, who is also my nephew. I paid 1,100 yuan myself, and I didn’t have much money, so why not find a good person and happily agree to it. If you make people unhappy, why bother!
I would also be angry about this. The premise for me to contribute money is to be filial to my mother, not to mention that my life is not very well-off. I really feel that I have been tricked.
Fortunately, my brother does not live with my mother. He paid for her to install an air conditioner. He is reluctant to turn it on only when the weather is very hot. He usually blows the fan and only turns on the air conditioner at night when he goes to bed. The old man really favored his son and grandson. He gave them money and things, but then turned around and gave them to his son. There was nothing he could do.
If I were me I would never buy it for an old man! I bought it for her and she didn’t want it, which made me very angry! I spent my own money to buy some anger! Let the old lady keep the heat as long as she wants. I don’t want to buy an air conditioner for her!
I rarely care about my parents' affairs, but this kind of thing often happens. You feel sorry for your parents, and the parents are willing to do everything for their son, but in the end it doesn't work out.
This is nothing. Elderly people don’t like to use air conditioners. They install them in their nephew’s room and can go there at any time. The nephew is sweet-tongued and prefers his aunt.
If the elders in the family are not honest, the final outcome will be that they will not have a good old age and their children will turn against each other. A family must have a good old man, a sensible old man. Happy old age and sisterly unity.
Why should you be angry? If you give it to the old man, it belongs to her. She can control it how she wants. It was originally about filial piety, but such noise only caused more conflicts. My mother is an 80-year-old farmer, and our sisters all gave us the money. She saved up 10,000 yuan and gave it to my nephew in one fell swoop. I still buy the things she needs [face covering].
I personally think it’s because you didn’t handle the matter well. It is true that your starting point is to let your parents enjoy the air conditioner, but the elderly cannot blow the air conditioner at all, and they feel uncomfortable when the air conditioner is turned on for a long time. You think it is good, but it may not be good to others. Maybe you still take it for granted and hope to be praised by others. You are very filial, how wrong you are!
This feeling really makes people feel unhappy. It’s not about the amount of money, it’s just that what my mother and sister-in-law did makes me feel aggrieved. I can’t say more, it’s really spending money to make people angry.
In fact, after your sister-in-law installs the air conditioner, she will give you the money directly, so there won’t be so much to worry about. You buy it for the old man because it is your intention. The old man may be used to being thrifty all his life and is reluctant to use it. Now it's mainly your sister-in-law's problem.
It seems that I have met a good sister-in-law! I have been married for ten years and have no children. I often stay at my parents’ house. My sister-in-law installed an air conditioner in my room because she was afraid that I would get too hot!
kept doing the same thing and took apart the air conditioner for his own use. He not only educated himself, but also educated his sister-in-law.
When I came home the day before yesterday, my mother said that other people’s sons came back once or twice a month, and they couldn’t take care of their father. In fact, the frequency of coming home was similar to that of me, and I never came home empty-handed. I can't go home often because of work. But try to give the best within your capabilities, and whether you accept it or not depends on your own feelings.
I am not filial. My parents have pension money, and my sister-in-law is a scheming person. I only spend money for my husband and children, but my parents and parents-in-law don’t give it to me if they want it or not.
As a daughter, everyone has this kind of grievance. It is better not to interfere in such things in the future. The elderly are indeed not used to using air conditioners. She will be very filial if she does not feel wronged about daily living expenses.
don’t be angry! Install it in your mother's room, and your mother will temporarily move it to her nephew's room, you know.
I feel sorry for you. Sometimes you will find that it is not worth the effort you put in.
Don't be angry. You have spent money to honor your parents. Your mother would rather give it to her grandson to enjoy. It is more comfortable than using it for herself. Now, the purpose has been achieved.
As a daughter, giving things to the elderly makes the elderly happy. The elderly themselves are reluctant to eat them. Their sons and grandsons are happier eating them than they themselves are. If you are unhappy because of this, your good things will disappear immediately. Why do you think so hard about it? . What do you think about
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