Sister Yayi, I have been a good girl since I was a child, and I am quite beautiful. My parents’ friends introduced me to my current husband, a second-generation rich man, when I was a sophomore in college. After I graduated, I joined a foreign company with a monthly salary of 10,

Sister Yayi, I have been a good girl since I was a child, and I am quite beautiful. A friend of my parents introduced me to my current husband, a second-generation rich man, when I was a sophomore in college.

After I graduated, I joined a foreign company with a monthly salary of 10,000.

htmlAt the age of 122, I will get married.

My mother-in-law urged me to have a baby, so I resigned from my job after giving birth and took care of the baby myself. I am introverted and will not please my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law often deliberately attacks me because I do not have a high dowry.

I have conflicts with my husband. He will run away from home and live at his mother's house. Recently, he asked me to get out because of some minor child matter and insisted on getting a divorce.

My husband has wanted a divorce for a long time. My parents-in-law did not persuade me to make peace. My husband is a mama's boy, and it seems that the divorce is the result of their family discussion, and they are waiting for my approval.

I can’t let go of my children. Children are my life, but my parents are worried that if they get divorced and take the children, it will ruin my life.

I am 25 years old. Sister Yayi, can you give me some advice on how to deal with this situation? Although my mother-in-law's family is very rich, they have never given me any financial rights. They only reimburse my husband and me for the grandson's expenses.

My husband doesn’t have a job. He is very ambitious on weekdays. He hangs out with his friends all day long and doesn’t take care of his children. He seems really irresponsible. I endured it, and sometimes I even had to coax him. Apart from taking care of the children, I have no source of income of my own in this family, so I have to endure it.

Sister Yayi, I have no faith. I can’t stand this kind of suffering for the rest of my life, but I’m not willing to give in. What should I do?

Short and short

Yayi said that

female reader Short and short has insufficient social experience, has never seen the ugliness of human nature, and her parents are too innocent. In a marriage that shares the same yoke with the merchant family, the two native families are becoming more and more incompatible, and good people are bullied by others. This is a living example.

Actually, this marriage is not a dead end. The main reason is that Gao Gao's cognitive ability is limited and needs to be improved urgently.

You have to look at yourself again - you are not a resentful wife, nor an abandoned wife, nor a dog fed by your youth, you are a winner. So, change your perception and you can win regardless of divorce or not. The key points are as follows:

First, firmly disagree with the divorce. If the man wants a divorce, let them sue and go through the legal process.

Divorce is becoming more and more difficult these days. Just sorting out the divorce number, cooling-off period , receiving counseling, and coordination can take a year. Going to court will be a protracted battle. As time goes by, you can find evidence that your husband is cheating. With the evidence in hand, you can divide more of the family property. The businessman calculated that it was such a loss, so we had to part ways.

Second, if the man wants to give you money to persuade you to divorce, you need twice the amount of his family’s property in cash. For example, 30 million, 50 million in cash, pay attention to cash, cash, cash . The purpose of

is to prevent them from taking it out.

If a man commits violence to force you to divorce, you can leave evidence and call the police at the slightest sign. You can also roll around with your hair disheveled, let the neighbors see it, and let the community security guard come, causing you to lose all face.

Since ancient times, those who wear shoes are afraid of those who are barefoot, and those who do business are afraid of losing face. Once they find out that their daughter-in-law is not a soft persimmon, they don't dare to manipulate her at will.

Third, the most cruel trick is also the last resort: resolutely not giving up custody of the child.

Give up all the activities of taking care of the baby first, and let your mother-in-law and husband fully experience your daily workload. Having taken care of them themselves, they know that this is not a problem that can be solved with an extra nanny's salary.

Resolutely do not want custody of the child - let your husband's family know that the child is not your weakness and you will not be coerced for this.

They will test you and question whether you are a responsible mother? Are you maternal?

My attitude should be frank - who forced the rabbit to bite? Who wants me to cleanse myself and leave the house?

I will leave it here - I don’t want custody of my children. I will let my children grow up in your home, develop a relationship with you, and inherit the most of your family property in the future. You should study the " Civil Code " carefully. Mother is more valuable than son, and I am the winner who laughs in the end.

Yayi teaches you to attack strategically at this stage, with the goal of long-term harmony + no divorce + winning respect as a couple. Use one year of chaos to exchange for peace and stability for the rest of your life.

is experienced and knows what I am talking about.

Marriage, everyone hopes to meet a good match and be a little bird. If a woman encounters a family with erroneous views and a slanderous master, if a woman wants to defend her marriage, she needs thunderous tactics, a shrewish style, a businessman's mindset, and her acting skills must be online.

It is definitely not the best policy to just tolerate it.

The battle to defend marriage includes pain, quarrels, open mouths, testing each other's bottom line, losing face, becoming the person you hate the most, and then finding ways to give the other person a step forward and get the rights you want... everything. Similar to our business negotiations.

Those who pick goods are the sellers.

The two of you are torn apart until both of you feel pain. Only after the negotiation with swords and swords is halfway through, the other party can re-evaluate, calculate, and change strategies.

At this time, you need to find a "peacemaker".

He can be your original introducer, your relative, or a relative of your parents-in-law. Anyway, if he is a wise man with money, power and fame.

"Heshilao" will calculate the losses of divorce for your husband's family. Of course, this includes the cost of raising their children and the cost of dividing the family property in the name of your children in the future.

"Peacemaker" Let me calculate the cost for your husband to raise a child and start a second marriage family, and then hint that you are still young and beautiful, and there are a lot of keyboard heroes in the marriage and love market.

Of course, he will severely criticize you in front of your husband's family - you are disrespectful to your parents-in-law, do not know how to be considerate and grateful to your mother-in-law, cannot control your husband, and do not fulfill the twenty-four filial piety.

each played fifty boards, and everyone was comfortable.

You take advantage of the opportunity to apologize to your mother-in-law and admit your mistake. You take the opportunity to make a three-part agreement and make it clear that your husband went out to eat, drink and have fun with his girlfriend. In front of outsiders, ask your mother-in-law whether she should take care of it and how to punish her. It is best to ask your husband to write a guarantee letter.

My mother-in-law is the Queen Mother, so we won’t touch her. Try to protect your mother-in-law's face in front of outsiders.

My husband is the one who gets hit in the end, gets beaten by both sides, runs around, and pays a heavy price.

Praise your mother-in-law highly, and you will be the winner in this battle to defend your marriage if you touch your husband's lifeblood.

You have to learn to negotiate and make conditions.

You need to work up a good mood, scold your husband in front of the "peacemaker", and tell him how difficult it is for you to continue living with such a bastard and what kind of support you need as a prerequisite.

First, let your mother-in-law's family take on the responsibility of raising the child and bear all the child's expenses. You go out to find a job, become financially independent as soon as possible, and make money.

Second, the husband must break off the relationship with his girlfriend outside. He cannot set a password on his mobile phone and is subject to inspection at any time.

Third, all the financial support your mother-in-law gives to the small family will be transferred to your account, making you the person in charge of the money.

Fourth, ask your husband to buy you gifts to apologize. Look for expensive and value-preserving ones, such as gold, diamonds, houses, cars, etc.If you can't afford it, let him sell the car to buy it. Anyway, it will make him pay until it hurts.

Fifth, require him to receive paid marriage counseling with you, find a good life counselor, and cooperate with you in the whole process of spiritual healing.

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After an earth-shaking battle to defend your marriage, I estimate that you will touch the bottom line of your husband's family and see the checks and balances of interests, and you will become more mature.

If your husband’s family is deeply hurt, they will know the value of abandoning you, and they will also be able to figure out how to keep you who understands justice. At least they can control their son and not be lawless.

What do you have to lose?

Except for losing a little love and love, in other aspects, girl, you are the winner.

You are young and beautiful. You have graduated from college. Your childbirth is over. You have returned to the workplace and found your own beauty. I estimate that your husband will kneel down and lick you for the rest of his life.

Even if your husband continues to play outside, you still have a tightrope in your hand. From time to time, beat your mother-in-law and ask her to check the post. Whether you want to check the post to catch monsters depends on your mood. Once you find out something is wrong, make your husband pay until it hurts - he will be afraid of you, afraid that you will make trouble, and afraid that you will make it difficult for him to stand up in front of outsiders.

For the spoiled rich second generation, Yayi sincerely feels that He is afraid of you = true love.

is difficult, it is quite difficult.

The difficulties of wealthy families lie in the dark.

It is better to face the difficulties than to be kicked out and become a miserable and hard-working single mother, causing the children to lose their future industry.

Winning the battle to defend marriage is the safest way.

Yayi wishes you the best. The earlier you find your faith, the earlier you find your true soul lover, you will be much more calm and happy.