Everything happens according to some natural laws. It is expected that I have reached this point today. Mr. Zhang and I met when we were on a business trip in Xiamen in 2017. At that time, he was tall and thin, giving people a sense of down-to-earth and shrewdness. For me, this is probably the only thing that attracts me about Mr. Zhang, so we officially started holding hands after two months of knowing each other. In the beginning, everything went on as scheduled as a normal couple. We stayed together every weekend, received gifts and flowers on every holiday, and received good mornings from him every morning. At the beginning of 2019, we also officially entered the palace of marriage. , the nightmare also quietly laid its foundation.
A sudden epidemic in 2020 broke the tranquility of the world and disrupted life, and my family was no exception. Wearing masks, disinfecting, staying at home, watching TV, and checking mobile phones to keep track of the epidemic have become things that must be done every day. Occasionally doing housework, changing the positions of things that are pleasing to the eye, and also changing the positions of things that are not pleasing to the eye. I remember that the air conditioner in the living room was moved from the balcony to the door of the kitchen. Little did I know that this move also developed Mr. Zhang’s special hobby of peeping. Because my family lives on the fifth floor, Mr. Zhang usually has the habit of playing mahjong for entertainment. What I didn’t know was that Mr. Zhang actually developed an admiration for his playing partner while playing mahjong. However, that person also happened to live there. It's on the third floor diagonally opposite my living room. Mr. Zhang originally did not smoke. When the epidemic first came, I occasionally found some cigarette ashes and butts scattered on the edge of the window. I could also see Mr. Zhang standing on the window sill smoking a cigarette. I asked him about it, and the reply he got was that he was under too much pressure and was in a bad mood. As someone who lives together, I can understand this, so I didn't pay too much attention to him, and occasionally comforted Mr. Zhang.
Until one day I found a blurry picture in Mr. Zhang’s mobile photo album, but I could clearly see that the photo was located diagonally across from my balcony. Occasionally, after zooming in, I could vaguely see a Woman's arms. I suddenly realized something, and I knew exactly whose hand this hand belonged to, because I basically knew his poker friends, and I also knew who lived diagonally across the street. On that day, I had a devastating quarrel with him. Although Mr. Zhang did not admit it, it was easy to see from some behaviors and habits that he was indeed spying on others.
The position of smoking, the direction of eyes, and the time period of smoking are all very regular. It’s scary to think about it! Oh my God! Because of this incident, I was depressed all the time and didn't say a word to Mr. Zhang. However, he neither expressed his position to comfort me nor cared too much about my personal feelings. He just kept talking to me at the same time as before. points, even the same eyes looking in the same direction. Originally longing for comfort, I had mixed feelings in my heart. Who are these people and what are they doing? Originally, I was quite depressed due to the epidemic, but I had to encounter this incident. Later, I also thought that it might not be his fault. It was me who was thinking wildly. Mr. Zhang could not help but accidentally saw it. It was because he was not paying attention to his mobile phone. Got it. It’s not that I overthink it, it’s true, he is spying on others and even has their contact information! In fact, for people like me who have a low psychological endurance, I really can't stand Mr. Zhang's behavior. Maybe an occasional mistake will be over, but this kind of behavior is obviously a lack of personality and spirit. of jailbreak.
Since then, my married life with Mr. Zhang has been full of quarrels. We were not like this before. Not to mention that our love has increased and we are still as peaceful as ever. Even trivial things would lead to big quarrels. My temper became more and more irritable, and Mr. Zhang became more and more reluctant to go home. Yes, there was a problem in our relationship, and I tried to solve the problem, but in the end there was no good way. My friends also asked, and I looked it up on the Internet, but in the end it was still like this, quarreling as always, and sometimes even It disturbs the neighbors and causes them to be dissatisfied.
Later, I accidentally came across the emotional teaching of Wei La Psychology on the Internet. I read it over and over again from beginning to end. After analyzing everything that happened between me and Mr. Zhang, I finally realized that it was me who appeared. A huge problem. Although the reasons and events for each quarrel were different, the most fundamental reason was that I held onto Mr. Zhang to spy on him. Yes, if I want to feel relieved, I have to forget some bad things in the past, but I didn't do it. Before marrying Mr. Zhang, I also understood that life after marriage would definitely be dull, but this dullness can be broken by two people. I have been working hard to do what I should do, but often neglected it. the other person’s feelings. Maybe Mr. Zhang also wanted to break this dullness, but he couldn't find a better way!
Although Mr. Zhang and I have gone our separate ways now, I have truly learned and realized from this relationship that it is easy to fall in love but difficult to stay together. If you want your married life to be rich and smooth, it is not just about each person performing his or her own duties. What is more important to stay together is the understanding between the two parties and self-reflection. Think about other people's problems from different angles and understand the difficulties of the other person. The more tense your love life is, the more you have to stay calm. Flustered emotions will only make the lives of both parties worse and worse! At the end, I would like to remind all my friends, if you have encountered similar emotional problems or marriage problems, you can read the emotional articles of Wei La Psychology. Having fun alone is not as good as having fun with everyone. I share it with everyone in the hope that there will be no problems. Guys can get help!
