I don’t know if you have noticed it, but now there are more and more older leftover men and women around us. What they discuss the most is blind dates, and what they complain about the most is that each blind date is worse than the last. So what is the reason that makes everyone

I don’t know if you have noticed it, but now there are more and more older leftover men and women around us. What they discuss the most is blind dates, and what they complain about the most is that each blind date is worse than the last. So what is the reason that makes everyone think this way?

Nowadays, many older leftover women have been brainwashed by some poisonous chicken soup. They overestimate themselves when choosing a mate, so they refuse to lower their requirements when looking for a partner. They feel that there will always be a better and more perfect person waiting for them behind, so they always After going around in circles, it took a few years to realize that as I got older, my ideas and conditions in all aspects had not improved, or even regressed.

For example, if a woman is older, past her prime childbearing age or looks old, or if a man is old and still has nothing to achieve, some of these people are still imagining meeting a partner who meets their expectations in all aspects. They confidently and firmly believe that only such a person can be worthy of them.

But even if there are such people, people will not easily choose ordinary or even mediocre ones. It's a pity that they can't recognize themselves, but the people around you, matchmakers, introducers, etc. can see it more clearly than you, so most of the people you introduce are in line with your current actual situation.

As you grow older, the range of choices available to you has become smaller and smaller. You no longer have enough time and capital to wait and choose. And many times, it's not that the blind date you meet is wrong, but that you imagine yourself to be too perfect and have too harsh requirements on your partner, which leads to this psychological gap. Excellent people have no worries about finding a partner, so if you feel that the partner you meet is not good, then take a good look at yourself and improve yourself in all aspects, so that you have the capital and opportunity to choose a better person