When we were young, we always thought that when two people get married, it must be because of love.
Because we love each other, we want to be together, and we want to be with each other for the rest of our lives.
When we grow up, we will find that true love is never easy to meet. Even if we are lucky enough to meet someone we like very much, we may not always be able to love each other until the day we get married.
Too many women never meet such a person, and the same goes for too many men. Although we cannot meet
, we will also find that many men and women still enter into marriage one after another.
At the wedding, each other seemed quite happy. Later, they actually started a family and had children.
It seems that everything is perfect, and there seems to be deep love between each other. But most of the time, when a man chooses a woman, it is not actually because of love, but just for some other reasons and different reasons. the goal of.
was forced into marriage and got married as a last resort just for the sake of getting married.
Everyone is an independent existence, but everyone also has various relationships behind them.
For a man, when he reaches a certain age and is still single, the voices of his parents urging marriage will be really powerful. They will not only urge, but even force him to find someone to get married quickly.
Faced with this kind of urging, many men really can't resist it, and then they look at the people around them getting married one after another. Unknowingly, they also have the idea that it's time for them to get married, and they shouldn't wait any longer. .
After having this idea, he will really start to put his marriage on the agenda, and look for someone to marry by his side. It doesn’t have to be how much he likes it, as long as the other person is willing, as long as everything is okay suitable.
At that time, he would have a feeling that it was just for marriage anyway. No matter who the person was, it didn't really matter. If the other person could be slightly better in all aspects, then it would be more worthwhile.
So, one day, he met someone he found acceptable. Even if he didn't love him, he would start to take the initiative, start pursuing, and let the relationship be finalized. After the relationship was confirmed, he would start making arrangements for marriage. thing.
allows me to get married as soon as possible, become married, have an explanation to my parents, and also have an explanation to myself.
In order to have children, complete the task of passing on the family line.
Even now, many people still have a strong desire to pass on blood.
always feels that life is incomplete without children. I always feel that if I don’t have one or two children, my family will be cut off. This is very inappropriate and I will be sorry for many generations of my family.
Therefore, in order for their parents to have grandchildren and for them to really have children, many men really want to get married.
Even if the woman doesn't like her, even if the mother of the child doesn't take her seriously, as long as the other person is willing to get married and have children, she can marry her home, live with her under the same roof, and live together.
It can be said that marrying a woman is, to a large extent, just treating her as a tool.
In this case, if he can live a good life in the future, then he has made money. Even if his life will not be very good, it will only be very bad, he will not have too many emotions, and he has no intentions anyway. How much to look forward to.
Moreover, even if he has a child, he may not actually care too much. He only thinks that having a child is enough. As for accompanying the child and the child's education, he does not want to get involved too much. He only hopes that women can Responsible.
It's best if you don't have to worry too much and don't have to pay too much, so that your children can grow up.
Find someone to share the pressure with, the other person will be beneficial to you.
Some people often say that women are realistic, but many men are also very realistic.
Even when it comes to finding a partner, he cares more about what the other person can bring to him than whether he likes it or not, and what he can gain from this relationship.
It seems that a woman is relatively virtuous and can take good care of him, making him feel that it is worthwhile. It is like a woman who has a good family background and can help him so that he does not have to work so hard and can directly save himself from struggling for several years. .
As long as a woman cannot bring him anything and will only drag him down, he will not consider it. Only when he marries a woman and the other party can really bring him something more substantial, will he be more willing.
Life is not easy. From time to time, he will feel stressed and feel that he is working hard.
In this case, if someone helps him share some of the burden, it can make him less hard-working, bring him some resources, and provide him with warmth. After weighing the balance, he will of course be more excited and feel that it is worth it.
Love is like this. Many feelings are not so pure and will be mixed with many things.
The more pragmatic a man is, the clearer he is. He will not always trap himself in so-called love, but will only find someone who can benefit him more and be more beneficial to him.
Being able to get married for love is really a very good thing.
It’s just that it’s really rare.
The older you get and the more you have experienced too many people and things, the harder it is to find that kind of relationship, because you have changed and it is difficult to be moved again, because you have become more realistic. Will consider more.
It is indeed a pity that you cannot stay with someone because of love, but this is the truth of most relationships.
To be honest, even if you get married not because of love, but because of something else, in many cases, it doesn't matter.
The key point is that if you decide to get married, it is best not to act indifferent and just enjoy the good things of the other person. You must know how to choose, treat the other person well, live a good life, and manage the relationship well.
If you can do this, even if you don't love each other very much at the beginning, it will be a good marriage. If you can't do this, even if you love each other at the beginning, the relationship will probably not be very good.
text/Tan Meng
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