In today's China, it is usually married men who consider the relationship with their boss or friends to be the most important;
while married women tend to instinctively put the relationship with their children first;
People who are deeply influenced by traditional culture , will also put the relationship with their parents first.
Conflicts often occur between couples because of their different concerns about the relationship.
For example, a wife complains about her husband: He doesn’t care about things at home, but he only knows how to make a name for himself and live happily outside; he doesn’t care about my feelings or the upbringing of his children... he doesn’t care.
My husband often says, if I don’t have a good relationship with my boss and don’t have the care of my brothers, how can I get a foothold in society.
When a man is busy with his career, he is running a territory. In essence, he is fulfilling his destiny of survival and reproduction. This seems to be true.
Women are busy with the family, but they are also managing the territory and cultivating better offspring. In essence, they are fulfilling their destiny of reproduction, which seems right.
As a result, both husband and wife insisted on their own opinions, and neither of them accepted it. They accused each other, and then they both complained about their injustice, making the life that could have been a good life miserable.
What is the problem?
The problem lies in the fact that both of them have reversed the order of various interpersonal relationships and focused on one at the expense of the other.
If two people put the husband-wife relationship first, and take into account other relationships on the basis of mutual understanding, all conflicts will be easily resolved. Is
so magical?
Of course there is, because it is in line with the way of heaven and everything will go smoothly.
If you put it simply, this is actually easy to understand.
Children are naturally the first victims of disharmony between husband and wife; both parents will also be frustrated and embarrassed; their work status will inevitably be adversely affected.
The husband may unknowingly lose some opportunities with his boss and friends because of his scruples; the wife may also affect her work status because she involves too much energy...
It can be seen that a bad relationship between husband and wife will directly affect other relationships. Quality may even cause " kicking the cat effect " and cause disaster.
For example, a bus driver drove a bus full of passengers off a cliff because he was angry with his wife.
