Many times we cannot use the name of a family to hurt each other, or to take advantage of each other. Just like the man in the article, you said that she is your wife. We are a family member, and then you can sell someone else’s house to treat your mother’s illness? You have to l

Many times we cannot use the name of a family to hurt each other, or to take advantage of each other. Just like the man in the article, you said that she is your wife. We are a family member, and then you can sell someone else’s house to treat your mother’s illness? You have to live in that house, it's not yours but someone else's.

Have you ever treated someone like this? Do you treat them as a family? When you have a house, you treat others like this, if they lose everything. Will you divorce your wife? I hope this case can make all men pay attention. Let's take a look at this matter together. The fully paid 1.2 million yuan wedding house, but the husband wanted to sell it to his mother for medical treatment. The husband said: "We are a family," and I: "Get out."

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34-year-old Ms. Li:

Many people say that I am wrong and should not impulsively choose divorce. Once divorced, I will definitely regret it. Especially my mother, my mother told me the same thing. My mother called me and said to me on the phone, we know that you want to divorce your husband, but why can't we not divorce if we want to divorce?

Not only for yourself, but also for this family. If you divorce your husband, I can be sure that you will be the one regretting it in the future. If you don't get divorced, you will at least still have a family. How will you live after the divorce? Have you ever thought about what will happen after the divorce?

You are old, you will be 35 soon. If you divorce your husband, can you still marry again? Will you live your whole life alone? You don’t even know how hard it is to live alone. I raised you alone, so you don’t know how you live.

Growing up, you didn’t have a father by your side. Do you feel like something is missing? What if you also divorced your husband. It is very likely that you will be like this in the future, so for the sake of this family and yourself, don't get divorced if you can avoid it.

I told my mother that I didn’t want a divorce. I have no choice at all. Do you think I would divorce my husband if I had the choice? It’s my husband who has gone too far. There is no place for me in my husband’s heart. My mother was left speechless by me.

So today I will talk about this matter, and everyone can help me comment on it. Shouldn't I choose divorce when faced with this matter? If I don't get divorced, how will I live in the future? How will I be responsible for myself and my mother in the future? Before I got married, I demolished it and paid about 1.5 million yuan in compensation.

Then my mother gave me 1.2 million. I used the full amount of 1.2 million to buy a wedding house. It is impossible for my husband to afford a house based on his ability. Although he has more than 8,000 yuan a month, he is basically living on paycheck to paycheck. If I just wait for my husband to buy a house, I probably won’t be able to do it in this life. I don't want to live with my parents-in-law.

That’s why I asked my mother to give me money to buy a house. With this house, after we get married, I can move out with my husband and enjoy our world together. My husband also reminded me of this. My husband told me that your home has been demolished and you are an only child. Sooner or later, the money will be left to you. So why not use the money to buy a house now? Houses will only get more expensive.

And we will live together after we get married, so there is no use keeping your mother’s money. All that money will be given to you from now on. Now use it to buy a house. We have a place to live, don’t you think? I was stunned at what my husband said. At that time, I didn’t want to live with my parents-in-law.

Then I told my mother about this, and my mother agreed, so I bought my own house. We got married when we had a house. It wasn't long after the marriage. The mother-in-law fell ill. If I go to work alone after falling ill, my husband will go back to take care of my mother-in-law. My husband told me that my mother’s situation is very serious and you need to help with this matter.

Then I told my husband, don’t worry, I will definitely help if I can. After all, we are all a family, and I will never ignore this matter. Then my husband said to me, as long as you say this, my mother has already spent hundreds of thousands, and all the money that can be used in the family has been used up. Now I hope you can help me. If you don't help me, my mother will probably die because of this matter.

what? How could something be so serious? My husband didn't tell me what illness he had, so he asked me for money for treatment. I told my husband that I didn’t have much money. Most of the money was used to buy a house and then renovate it. The money for the house was given by my mother, the money for decoration was given by me, and the money for buying furniture was given by you. Where is the money in our lobby now?

After hearing what I said, my husband helplessly told me that I had already thought of a way, we have money. Didn’t you just say that? The house belongs to us, or we just sell it. Although I said I have suffered a loss, we are a family. That person is your mother-in-law.

is my mother. I absolutely can't let him do things. My mother has been so good to me since I was a child. Now that my mother is like this, can I give up? We can buy the house again after it is gone. But again my mother is gone. We can't get it back no matter how much money we have, so let's just sell the house and then we will have money to treat my mother's illness.

I have already told my brother about this. My brother will take people over to view the house in a moment, and then you can open the door for them. The price still needs to be negotiated. I don’t know how much it will cost, but I want to sell the house as soon as possible.

My mother can't wait... Do you agree with this? I told my husband, why don’t you discuss such a big matter with me in advance? How can I agree? My mother has no place to live. If I sell the house, how will I provide for my mother in her old age?

My husband said helplessly, didn’t I just say that? This is only temporary and we will have money before long. Wouldn’t it be better for us to buy a house when we have money in the future? At that time, you can be responsible for your mother. Now it is just a temporary sale of the house to pay for my mother's medical treatment. Do you want to watch my mother throw her life away here?

can obviously be saved. Why not sell the house? What about my mother? Are you so cruel? Are you so heartless? Yes, my mother is not very nice to you. But no matter what, she is still your mother-in-law and my mother. We are all a family.

Although we are a family, we cannot give up on each other. Let it be like this. Whatever happens to you in the future, I will not give up on you, and my mother will not ignore you. That's it, let's just settle the matter of the house. What I can promise you is that when I have money in the future, I will definitely buy you a house. When the time comes, we will buy a bigger, more beautiful and better one.

I refused. I told my husband, when will you wait until you have money? Although this person is your mother and my mother-in-law. But you don’t have to ask me to sell the house. The house is not yours, so you definitely won’t feel bad. The house is mine and I don't agree with this. Also, there are other options besides selling my house.

Just like selling your parents' old house. It would cost hundreds of thousands to sell your parents' old house. I don't believe that hundreds of thousands are not enough. In addition to selling your old house, there are two other ways. One way is to sell your car. Before you got married, you bought a car worth more than 600,000 yuan. How much did you borrow to buy this car?

Although it looks good to drive, the price of oil is so high now. You seldom drive it, right? Since you don't drive it much, why not sell the house? It's better to sell the car that you just bought because you don't drive it much. Sell ​​the house and your car for at least 1 million.Isn't one million enough?

Also, your mother not only has you as her son, she also has two sons, you have an older brother and a younger brother. No matter what, it is not your turn as the middle child to bear all the burden. You can let your elder brother and your younger brother share the responsibilities. Can you bear everything by yourself?

If that's the case. Isn't that unfair? It’s not just my mother-in-law, but also their mother-in-law. I don't care, I don't agree with this. Hearing what I said, my husband got angry. My husband angrily told me that now is not the time to talk about this matter.

My brother and my younger brother have no money. Although they own a house, their house is still in need. The conditions here are better...so I have to help. If I don't help, how can the two of them help? I have to take the lead.

And I have made it very clear to them. Tell them not to worry about this anymore, and I'll figure it out. Where will my parents live if their old house is sold? In the future, my parents will still count on that old house to provide for their retirement. Therefore, old houses can never be sold. Then I can’t sell my luxury car. As a man, you can live without a home.

But you absolutely cannot live without a luxury car. I feel so shameless when I go out, but with this car I can have face even when I go out. And didn’t you like to take my car out for a ride in the past? If we sell the car. How are you going to go for a ride in the future? Once again I interrupted my husband.

I told my husband, what time is it now, and we don’t even have a place to live, and you still told me to keep a car. What do you want this car for? Which is more important, your mother or this car? My husband angrily told me, don’t compare my car with my mother, but compare your house with my mother. My mother must be important. So you have to sell your house.

I couldn't bear it anymore. I told my husband that if I had no choice, I would agree to sell the house. The question is why should I sell my house when there are so many options? Is this unfair to me? If this is the case, I will not agree to sell the house unless you make some compensation or write me an IOU.

Otherwise I would not have sold the house. My house was purchased for 1.2 million. More than 200,000 yuan was spent on decoration. At the very least, you have to write me an IOU of 1.5 million. And promised to return the money to me within 5 years. And it’s not just your mother, your brother, your brother wants to pay me back. You three brothers must collect 1.5 million and pay it back to me.

Otherwise I would not agree to sell the house. My husband told me, does he not want to live with me? If you don't want to live with me, then get divorced. There is no need to watch my mother do nothing to save her... My husband has said so, how can I still act like this? Get a divorce.

That’s how things are. Faced with this matter, shouldn’t we choose divorce? What would you do if it were you? Shouldn't I choose divorce? Am I really wrong? The house is everything to me. If I sell the house, how can I still be responsible for myself and my mother?

Conclusion:

I am really helpless when facing this matter. If it were me, I would choose divorce. To put it bluntly, your husband doesn’t want to live with you at all. What you don’t need is just a house. That’s all. Today I’m telling you that it’s my mother’s business, asking you to sell the house. There may be other reasons tomorrow and I will kick you away. To put it bluntly, your husband doesn't love you.

Since your husband doesn't love you, there's no need to get over it with him. So there's nothing wrong with your choice of divorce, but I just don't know why you stayed with him in the first place. Now I know who he is. Then get a divorce, which can be considered a timely stop loss for you.

If you don’t get divorced, you will have no choice but to live in the future.Just like you said, if you have no choice, you can help. The problem is that your husband obviously has other choices, why must you suffer? So let’s get divorced. Your mother-in-law doesn’t love you and is not responsible for you.

Also, I would like to remind all men that you can help your parents, but you must do it within your ability. Never take advantage of each other in the name of being a family, let alone hurt each other in the name of a family. Otherwise, it will definitely be tragic in the end, just like the man in the article. Who can blame him? If you're to blame, blame this man.