Have you heard of such outrageous things?
The wife works hard at home to accompany the elderly and take care of the children, but she can only get 5,000 yuan a month for family expenses;
the mistress does nothing, but the cheating man is willing to buy several houses for her and keeps transferring money to her Enjoy a life without worries about food and clothing.
Do you think the man who cheated on you is some kind of wealthy businessman and second generation?
is not. He is just doing some business on his own. He has just worked hard for many years and has accumulated some savings. Everyone must have heard of the case of
. It was an incident that sparked a lot of discussion on the Internet not long ago.
Coincidentally, Ms. Zhao, who once came to Jiaxin to solve her extramarital affair, also had such an experience, but it was not known to everyone.
Ms. Zhao and her husband have been married for 20 years in a free love relationship. They have two daughters together. When
got married, the family conditions of both parties were not very good. In order to make a living, the two went to the local capital city to open a small restaurant together after marriage.
Although the two of them are busy, their lives are getting better and better. They originally planned to settle down in a big city, but the elderly on both sides began to have bad health and couldn't live without people around them.
Ms. Zhao can only go back to take care of the elderly and raise her children. Once the business here stabilizes, she will leave it to her husband to take care of it, and pay living expenses back on time every month.
At the beginning, the living expenses were only 2,000 yuan. Later, as the business became more and more stable, Ms. Zhao's husband gradually began to increase the amount, until it reached 5,000 yuan.
Although Ms. Zhao was happy, she was worried that her husband was under too much pressure. She would lightly blame her a few words every time.
said that the family had enough money, so he could save as much as he could, and that if he worked hard to save enough money, he would be able to save as soon as possible. Buy a big house there and bring your family there to settle down.
Here Ms. Zhao is still dreaming of settling down in a big city with her family, but over there Ms. Zhao’s husband secretly found a mistress and bought her a house.
discovered that the mistress took advantage of her children's summer vacation to visit her husband with her children, and found that her husband's place did not look like a permanent residence.
The clerk in the store behind asked her, why don't you go to live at home? What are you doing here?
She also wondered where her home came from. The rented house was their home. Later she understood through some clues.
My husband has a mistress outside, and that home is also his home with someone else!
It turns out that in the fourth year after she returned, her husband met a female college student who had just graduated. She was very young and beautiful, and she often ate at their place.
At that time, she had just graduated from school and lived nearby. She was looking for a job every day, but because of her lack of academic qualifications, she was always having trouble, so she would complain to Ms. Zhao’s husband. After
got to know each other, they spent most of their time in their restaurant every day, getting closer and closer to Ms. Zhao’s husband, and eventually it developed into an extramarital affair.
Ms. Zhao’s husband is more than ten years older than her mistress. He dotes on her like a child. He leaves the restaurant to other staff members every day and accompanies her to play and buy everywhere.
Later, I heard that the mistress kept complaining about the high rent and inconvenience of renting a house outside, and asked Ms. Zhao’s husband to buy a house of their own.
When Ms. Zhao bought a house, her husband was afraid that Ms. Zhao would find out about his purchase, so he registered the house under the mistress and bought her a car.
When Ms. Zhao knew all this, she was stunned: she gave up her career to raise children for him, and went back to take care of her children. She lived frugally just to realize the dream of having the whole family together.
Why did my husband turn around and spend money on a mistress who didn’t pay anything! Why can’t all my hard work over the years be worth a mistress!
In fact, when Ms. Zhao found Jiaxin, she had already found a lawyer and was preparing to sue the cheating man and the mistress. After all, they were using marital property.
I just really can’t figure out why my husband wants to find a mistress outside and spend the money he earns on the mistress when he considers his family wholeheartedly.
In fact, Jiaxin can understand Ms. Zhao's accusation, but it has to be said that it is very common for cheating men to spend the money saved by their original wives on their mistresses, which is very common in extramarital affairs.
First of all, crying children have candy.
Since the interests of the first wife and the cheating man are tied together, and they are lifelong partners with their husbands, they think more about their shared future.
So many times, for the sake of family responsibilities and feelings, they usually prefer to live frugally.
But the mistress is different. There is no marriage contract between the mistress and the cheating man, and there is no family responsibility or pressure. They only need to satisfy their own desires.
In order to achieve their own goals, they will act coquettishly and coax others. When they get what they want, they will behave like little women to coax cheating men.
satisfies cheating men’s vanity and macho feelings, making cheating men willing to spend money on mistresses.
Secondly, the cheating man takes his original wife’s contribution as a matter of course.
In this case, Ms. Zhao devoted herself to her family. Her husband increased the household income, but she still felt it was a waste.
She thinks this is her virtuous and considerate attitude, but for cheating men, this is a sign of ease. If you don’t need the money, someone will naturally use it. When
is used on a mistress, the cheating man can get a sense of satisfaction. The mistress spends money to dress herself up as beautiful as a flower, which can also satisfy his vanity.
Third, the cheating man feels that his original wife will never leave him.
The highest probability of a man cheating is never in the first few years of marriage, but the longer the two live together, the higher the probability of cheating.
Due to the passage of time, there was no passion between the two of them, and love turned into family affection. The two of them have become accustomed to each other's existence.
Just like the first wife doesn’t understand why a man can cheat on her after being married for many years, the cheating man understands that precisely because of being married for many years, his wife will not leave him even if he cheats on her.
Moreover, the original wife has no job and no ability to make money. She has always relied on herself to support herself, and she cannot do without him at all.
So he can be reluctant to part with his original wife, but he will definitely be generous to his mistress.
Regarding this situation, in fact, the original wife in the case, Ms. Zhao, did the right thing. Taking up legal weapons to recover everything that belongs to the original wife is the greatest respect for marriage.
Many times, the original wife's blind tolerance is another kind of weakness, and all she gets in return is the arrogance of the cheating man and the mistress.
Only by showing your own attitude, wanting what you want, and using good methods can you get what you want.
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