Nowadays, the first date of single men and women is called blind date, which has become a hot topic of the times. It is also the most direct way for men and women of marriageable age to choose a spouse.
I have to say that blind dates can help both parties get to the point and understand each other, but it is difficult to help them develop feelings.
Because the blind date process can quickly match, but it is only based on a preliminary understanding between the two parties. The disadvantage is that many blind dates will be more materialistic.
This is one of the reasons why more and more young people resist blind dates.
However, parents who are eager for success only focus on whether their children can get married, but ignore whether their children are happy.
Because we are not sure what kind of person we will meet and what will happen around the corner of a blind date.
The blind date meal cost 1,680 yuan. When the man sent the bill to the girl and then sent 8 characters on WeChat, the girl froze in place.
Mr. Li’s self-report
After graduating from college, I joined a new media company and worked for four years. After a lot of suffering, he climbed from a brainless intern to the title of department chair, owning his own house and car.
Because I have been developing my career over the years, I have neglected my personal marriage issues, so I am not in a hurry for success. I just want to be happy, but the two old people far away in my hometown are very anxious.
would urge me to go home quickly whenever I was on vacation, and then I would be faced with a swarm of aunts and uncles visiting me, organizing groups to introduce me to blind dates.
At that time, a cousin of my aunt’s family told me that there was a girl in the blind date group she formed. She had very high standards for finding a boyfriend and was at least 1.8 meters tall. She gave her my contact information.
When I first met this girl, I felt that she was about 1.72 meters tall, and she exuded the aura of an office clerk. Judging from the photos, her facial features were reasonable, but her figure was a highlight.
tried to send her a message, but there was no response for a long time, and she didn't get a response until half a day later. From then on, it became the norm. Every time she wanted to give up, she took the initiative to send a message, so we agreed to meet.
The blind date event also meets the requirements of most people. The location is in a mid-to-high-end restaurant.
That day was a weekend, and the time was set at 3 p.m., but she was still nearly an hour late. The first thing she said after arriving was, "It's been a long time."
When ordering, girls are very smart and can He said that he was not merciful at all, and whatever was more expensive was the price. Then he opened a bottle of red wine without asking me what I wanted.
Although she drinks occasionally on weekdays, she didn't even ask for the most basic advice, which made me feel a little unhappy.
The whole dining process can be roughly divided into the following two different stages. At the beginning, I focused on my family situation.
talks about parents, brothers and sisters, and the language is full of inquiries about material things.
Although we chatted through WeChat before meeting, we were constantly rude and rude during our first meeting, which really made me feel very uncomfortable. The second stage of development after the basic situation of
was even worse. The girl directly turned the topic to material things. For example, those colleagues in
company were in good condition, what brand did they usually drive, what was their housing condition like, and what kind of materials they used. What brand of bags and watches, and what is your lifestyle? While
was talking about this, she was very excited and I couldn't say anything at all. From what I observed, she didn't seem to be looking for a boyfriend, but rather a father, which made whatever good impression I had on her disappear.
After she had eaten and drank enough, I found an excuse to interrupt her and went to the cashier to pay, hoping to end this suffering as soon as possible.
The total consumption is 1680 yuan, and the price of the bottle of wine alone is 880 yuan. In my current situation, let alone the small county in my hometown, even in the big city where I work, I can pay for this kind of consumption. .
But the girl's behavior made me feel resentful. I believe that with her current mentality, if we continue to be together, she will only push further in the future.
Frankly speaking, I didn't like this meal very much, and more importantly I didn't want to be such a fool, so I had to say something.
I directly transferred 880 yuan to her, and added eight more words, "We are AA, half of me."
I didn't care about her frozen expression, nor did I care about her follow-up actions. He drove straight home and deleted her contact WeChat.
Although my cousin also scolded me later, I think since I don’t decide to continue development, there is nothing wrong with doing so.
Originally I thought this episode would come to an end, but I never thought that just seven or eight days later, I received another friend application from her.
I didn't plan to add it originally, but I was still curious about why she would add me, so I agreed to apply.
Unexpectedly, her first sentence was to sadly ask me why I deleted her, which made her very sad. I didn’t understand the situation for a while, so I chose to remain silent. Unexpectedly, she directly mentioned the last date and said that I just wanted to See if you can tolerate her.
In short, it’s just a lot of clichés. Seeing that I still don’t respond, just delete it if you want. I won’t delete her anyway.
Speaking of acting genius, she really has this kind of talent. This is my emotion. In the end, I decided not to have any contact with her, so I blocked her directly.
To be honest, I didn’t feel uncomfortable. After all, I wasn’t married yet and I didn’t want to just pick up a daughter to raise.
Conclusion:
On the road to finding an ideal partner, it’s not that no one resists blind dates, nor does it mean that no one rejects blind dates. Some people even resent this kind of blind dates, but there are always people who hope to get true love in blind dates.
But among people on blind dates, some people still choose to bow their heads after trying countless times. This is the reality. But there are also blind date warriors who, after meeting dozens of times, still linger on the road of blind date, unyielding and not taking it easy. Say give up.
But no matter what, one thing will never change, that is, in addition to your basic qualities, you must also be able to reflect your own value.
Moving forward, you can test the other party, retreat, and reflect on yourself. After all, only strength can qualify you to stay or choose.
"If you are wonderful, God will arrange it for you." The type of person you are will determine the type of partner you will attract. If you continue to become excellent, I believe your unknown partner will also change. Got to be excellent.
