The most helpless thing in life is that you cannot choose your parents. No matter how little your parents value you, you must repay your kindness. Your parents can be unkind to you, but you cannot be unjust.
No matter how selfish, partial, narrow-minded and ruthless your parents are, you must honor them. The most wrong sentence in the world is that there are no bad parents in the world. But parents are also human beings, and they will make mistakes. It’s just that parents don’t admit their mistakes and don’t let others talk about them.
Everyone says repay kindness with kindness, so how to repay kindness with kindness? Having to laugh it off after being hurt by your parents is undoubtedly a huge pain for children who have been left out for a long time.
Children can understand the difficulties of their parents, but can parents in turn understand the hardships of their children? Parents' favoritism makes their children suffer a lot but cannot speak out. Parents' favoritism directly drives away filial children.
01. His wife helped her natal family in poverty after marriage
Lin Dong and his wife have been married for 8 years, but he turned a blind eye and watched his wife help her natal family in poverty for 8 years. Lin Dong also tried to persuade his wife with good words, but his wife always had her own theory and went her own way.
In the end, Lin Dong was forced to take away his salary card and only gave his wife 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses. As for his wife’s salary, Lin Dong has never seen it. Every time my wife's salary is paid, she gets a call from her parents-in-law.
We have seen each other so many times that Lin Dong has become accustomed to it. Otherwise, the couple will always have a lot of troubles over the matter of subsidizing their mother's family. The children will cry and the family will be in chaos, and there will be no peace at home.
When they were in love, Lin Dong saw that his wife would send her salary back every month to honor her parents. At that time, he thought that his wife was very filial and sensible, and she would definitely respect his parents in the future.
As a result, it is true that the wife should be filial to her parents, but she has never been filial to his parents. Because every time she talks about this matter, my wife will confidently say that your parents have retirement wages and do not need our filial piety.
02. The mother-in-law was hospitalized and asked the son-in-law to pay 100,000 for medical expenses.
The wife was so confident that Lin Dong almost divorced his wife. But looking at the two young children, Lin Dong finally tolerated it. After all, except for supporting her natal family, the wife has done pretty well in other aspects. If it wasn't for the last resort, Lin Dong wouldn't want to divorce and cause his wife and children to break up.
However, some people are like this. If you give them face, they won’t take it. Instead, they will go even further. In the fifth year when my mother-in-law helped her brother-in-law take care of the children, she fell ill and was hospitalized due to long-term fatigue.
When my mother-in-law fell ill, the doctor immediately announced that she was seriously ill and needed immediate surgery. After receiving a call from his father-in-law, Lin Dong and his wife rushed to the hospital. As a result, more than an hour after arriving at the hospital, my brother-in-law and his wife arrived late. When
met her daughter and son-in-law, her mother-in-law began to complain and unambiguously asked Lin Dong to pay 100,000 for medical expenses first. Lin Dong was a little depressed by his mother-in-law's instructions. Aren't both my brother-in-law and his wife here? Why did you just ask him to pay?
Seeing that Lin Dong did not move, his wife became anxious and urged him to pay the fee quickly so that her mother could have the operation as soon as possible. Lin Dong was a little angry. He looked at his brother-in-law, but his brother-in-law glanced away and refused to talk about money at all.
03. Son-in-law takes away daughter: Give your son a million in demolition money and ask him to provide for him in old age.
Seeing his brother-in-law’s attitude of not caring about this matter, Lin Dong knew that he was being tricked by his mother-in-law again. But this time, he didn't want to compromise anymore. He proposed that the two siblings should share the expenses equally, each paying 50,000, so that the pressure on everyone would not be too great.
As soon as Lin Dong finished speaking, his mother-in-law refused fiercely, saying how could the siblings be divided equally? You have a high salary and good economic conditions, while your brother and sister-in-law have a low salary, and there are seniors and juniors, so you can pay for the 100,000 yuan alone, don't put any burden on your brother-in-law.
His mother-in-law's partial protection made Lin Dong couldn't help but sneer.When his mother-in-law's house was demolished and the money was divided, the mother-in-law told him and his wife that a married daughter was not qualified to come back to compete with her brother for property, and we didn't know that our daughter and son-in-law would provide for her in her old age.
So the house and the millions of demolition funds that the mother-in-law received from the demolition were all given to her brother-in-law, and the wife received nothing. Although his wife was a little angry, she didn't dare to stand up for herself and could only endure it.
is not his own, and Lin Dong will not take the initiative to ask for it. But the mother-in-law is sick, and the brother-in-law who received the house and demolition money should not take the initiative to bear the medical expenses? After all, parents-in-law expect their sons to provide for themselves in old age, not their daughters and sons-in-law.
Lin Dong didn't say anything, just took his wife away and said to his mother-in-law: You give your son millions of demolition funds, find him to provide for him in old age, and let him fulfill his filial piety. This is his obligation and duty. After saying that, regardless of his wife's struggles, Lin Dong took his wife and left the hospital without looking back.
As for the follow-up, no matter how his parents-in-law begged his wife for money, Lin Dong did not compromise. Because he knew very well that his wife’s salary had long been spent by her parents. If his wife wants to continue to subsidize her parents, she can only ask him for money. But facing his eccentric parents-in-law, Lin Dong couldn't convince himself to take over everything.
Today’s topic:
Do you think Lin Dong did the right thing by doing nothing to his mother-in-law?
Pinxia explanation: Analyze marriage emotions and teach you to understand human nature!
