"You see you are pregnant, and you will give birth sooner or later. If you don't give me any gift money now, you can still buy milk powder for your child in the future." In mid-September 2009, Ms. Gong, who had just graduated from college, followed her husband to have a baby. Xu

"Look, you are pregnant, and you will give birth sooner or later. If you don't give me any gift money now, you can still buy milk powder for your child in the future."

In mid-September 2009, Ms. Gong, who had just graduated from college, followed her husband Xiao Xu went to meet his parents.

At the beginning, Xiao Xu’s parents were very enthusiastic towards Ms. Gong and pulled her to ask questions.

But when Xiao Xu’s mother learned that Ms. Gong was pregnant, her attitude suddenly changed. Not only did she become picky about Ms. Gong, she also said that after she married her son Xiao Xu, they would not give her Betrothal gift.

After hearing this, Ms. Gong said nothing on the surface, but went to the hospital to abort the child the next day.

After Xiao Xu's parents learned about this incident, they were so angry that they came directly to the hospital to find her, claiming that they wanted Ms. Gong to compensate their grandson to their family.

Just when everyone thought that the marriage between Xiao Xu and Ms. Gong was over, news came that they were getting married. And, she gave birth to two children.

But what is unexpected is that not long after the two got married, they started arguing for divorce.

So, what is going on? Why did Ms. Gong marry Xiao Xu after she experienced an abortion? And why did the two people suddenly divorce after getting married?

Difficult Marriage Affairs

In September 2009, Ms. Gong, who had just graduated from college, followed her boyfriend Xiao Xu to his home as a guest.

As soon as Xiao Xu entered the door, Xiao Xu's parents greeted her warmly. After taking the things from Ms. Gong's hands, they pulled her to sit on the sofa and asked questions. During

, Xiao Xu’s mother kept asking about Ms. Gong’s family situation, and even asked about her parents’ financial situation and how many houses there were in the family.

This made Ms. Gong feel very uncomfortable. She tactfully told Xiao Xu's mother that she did not want to answer this question.

Xiao Xu's mother smiled awkwardly when she saw this, then picked up a piece of watermelon on the table and handed it to Ms. Gong and said, "Here, eat a piece of watermelon. This watermelon is very sweet. Try it quickly."

Ms. Gong hurriedly placed it He waved his hands and said, "Auntie, I can't eat watermelon."

Hearing this, Xiao Xu's parents and sister looked at her in confusion, not understanding why she would say such a thing.

At this time, Xiao Xu came over and took the watermelon from his mother's hand and said: "Mom, she is pregnant. The doctor said that pregnant women cannot eat watermelon."

When Xiao Xu's mother heard what her son said, she looked at it meaningfully. He glanced at Ms. Gong, then stood up and took the watermelon back to the kitchen.

When she came out, she looked like a different person and said to Ms. Gong: "Xiao Gong, since you are pregnant, then this child must be the blood of our Xu family and will be born."

Immediately afterwards, Xiao Xu's mother told Ms. Gong that she was now pregnant and the child would eventually be born.

In this case, why don't they hurry up and get the marriage certificate.

"After receiving the certificate, you can take good care of the baby at home and just give birth to the baby." After saying that, Xiao Xu's mother patted Ms. Gong's hand kindly.

"After receiving the certificate, I must be holding a wedding and a banquet. I am directly raising a baby. This cannot be justified." Ms. Gong said with a frown.

Ms. Gong's words made Xiao Xu's mother feel very unhappy, and said: "Oh, you are pregnant, why are you planning a wedding? By the way, our family will not give you a bride price."

At this time, Xiao Xu's sister echoed from the side and said: "Being pregnant before marriage, no matter what wedding, no matter what gift you give, it will not be shameful."

Hearing this, Ms. Gong's anger suddenly rose. She picked up her bag and said to her boyfriend Xiao Xu: "You'd better give me an explanation for this matter, otherwise, don't blame me for being too awesome." After saying this, Ms. Gong stood up and left.

When Xiao Xu saw this, he was about to chase after him when he was stopped by his mother and sister.

Xiao Xu's mother even said: "There is no need to chase her. When the time comes, she will come back crying and beg us."

"But she is pregnant, I have to go and check it out." With that, Xiao Xu The mother pushed away, preparing to chase her girlfriend.

But when Xiao Xu picked up the keys and was about to go out, his father stopped him and did not allow him to chase Ms. Gong.

Father told Xiao Xu that it was not a decent thing for Ms. Gong to become pregnant before marriage, and Ms. Gong’s family would definitely lose face.

After a few months, Ms. Gong’s belly grew bigger, and their family no longer had to pay for the bride price.

After hearing what his father said, Xiao Xu also felt that it made sense, so he put down the key and went back.

At the same time, Ms. Gong has been waiting for her boyfriend to give her an explanation after returning home.

However, after waiting for a long time, 's boyfriend not only didn't come to see her, he didn't even make a phone call. Not to mention visiting the pregnant Ms. Gong.

Seeing her belly getting bigger and bigger, Ms. Gong also understood what her boyfriend’s family was thinking. They were forcing herself to compromise.

Ms. Gong picked up her phone and sent a text message to her boyfriend, telling him that since their family's attitude was like this, she didn't have to think about other things and would abort the child tomorrow.

Originally, Ms. Gong thought that her boyfriend would come looking for her after seeing the text message.

But what she didn't expect was that her boyfriend not only didn't reply, but even showed the text message to her parents, mocking Ms. Gong for not having the courage to go to the hospital.

Ms. Gong watched her message sink into silence, and her heart felt completely cold. The next morning, she went to the hospital for an abortion.

On the way to the hospital, Ms. Gong also called her boyfriend and asked him if he wanted the child.

"Yes, we definitely want it. Adults want it, and children want it too." Xiao Xu said to Ms. Gong on the phone.

"Since you want it, why don't you express your attitude? I told you when I was two or three months pregnant. It's been more than a month and you've ignored me. How can I trust you?" Ms. Gong yelled at Xiao Xu angrily.

The two of them were arguing on the phone.

In the end, Ms. Gong hung up the phone and chose to abort the child.

After the operation, Ms. Gong asked her brother to send a message to her boyfriend Xiao Xu, telling him that she was in the hospital and that the child was gone.

The next morning, Xiao Xu and his father rushed to the hospital in a hurry.

As soon as he saw Ms. Gong, Xiao Xu's father stepped forward and asked: "Where is the child? Did you really abort my grandson?"

"Yes, take it away." Ms. Gong lay on the bed and said to Xiao Xu and his son The two said.

Hearing this, Xiao Xu's father collapsed. He turned around and left without even a word of comfort.

When Xiao Xu saw his father leaving, he followed him.

When Ms. Gong’s mother came back from fetching water and saw this scene, she pointed at the noses of Xiao Xu and his son and cursed her. She also advised her daughter not to continue to associate with this kind of family.

A few days later, little Xu came to visit Ms. Gong with something and begged Ms. Gong not to leave him. At the same time, she also promised Ms. Gong that she would take good care of her and love her in the future.

Xiao Xu is Ms. Gong’s first boyfriend. The two have been in love since they were in college, and they are each other’s first love.

In the end, with Xiao Xu's assurance, Ms. Gong chose to forgive him and agreed to marry him.

After marriage, her husband became addicted to gambling

After Ms. Gong and Xiao Xu got married, the relationship between the two was restored, and Xiao Xu also began to work harder.

Ms. Gong is at home, helping him with other things at home.

Soon after, Ms. Gong gave birth to two more children for Xiao Xu, which made their lives happy.

But at this time, Ms. Gong discovered something unusual about her husband Xiao Xu.

Ms. Gong discovered that her husband had been holding his mobile phone to chat recently. Every time she came near, he would immediately hide the mobile phone for fear of being seen.

Not only that, every night, my husband would always find various reasons to go out.

Faced with her husband's abnormal behavior, Ms. Gong's first reaction was that he was cheating on her.

When she thought of this, Ms. Gong felt a little angry. She gave birth to two children for him and helped him with housework at home, but her husband actually had someone else outside her back.

Ms. Gong became more and more angry as she thought about it, so she followed Xiao Xu when he went out at night to prepare for a showdown with him.

However, the final result surprised Ms. Gong.

My own husband, Xiao Xu, did not have an affair, but started gambling and became addicted to gambling.

Moreover, I still owe a large sum of money.

The two had a big fight over this matter, and then fell into a cold war.

After some time, Xiao Xu took the initiative to admit his mistake to his wife, Ms. Gong, and wrote a letter of guarantee that he would not gamble again in the future.

In addition, Xiao Xu’s family and sister were interceding for him. Ms. Gong forgave him for the sake of her two children.

What Ms. Gong never expected was that her husband would start gambling again soon after.

even secretly opened Ms. Gong’s mobile phone in the middle of the night while she was sleeping and transferred the money from her account. And also deleted the reminder text message.

In addition, Xiao Xu also sold the project they had discussed for a long time to someone else without telling Ms. Gong.

Seeing her husband's unrepentant look, Ms. Gong couldn't bear it anymore and filed for divorce from him.

Ms. Gong’s parents and younger brother also agreed with her decision.

Regarding his wife's divorce proposal, Xiao Xu also swore to his wife that he would never gamble again.

However, Ms. Gong, who had been deceived too many times, no longer wanted to believe his words and still insisted on getting a divorce.

For this reason, both parties also went to court.

But at the end, there is still no result.

In desperation, Xiao Xu's parents found the local TV station, hoping that they could help them persuade their daughter-in-law not to divorce their son.

When she came to the studio of the TV station, Ms. Gong said very firmly: "Divorce, I will divorce him no matter what. It will not change, it will definitely be divorced."

But as soon as Xiao Xu heard this He said that he wanted to leave the show and left, and at the same time he said a harsh word: "It's impossible to divorce, wait until half a year later."

The staff present came forward and pulled Xiao Xu, and persuaded him to have a good chat with his wife After a while, maybe you can save the relationship.

Under the persuasion of the staff, Xiao Xu returned to his position.

"Ms. Gong, why do you insist on divorcing Mr. Xu? What kind of misunderstandings and conflicts you have between you may be mentioned on the spot today, and we will all help you together." The mediator said to the two people.

Upon seeing this, Ms. Gong told all the things about her husband’s gambling many times and his persistence despite repeated admonitions.

Upon seeing this, the mediators present shook their heads and sighed, thinking that Xiao Xu's behavior violated the law and was completely a crime.

Just when everyone was pointing the finger at Xiao Xu, her sister suddenly appeared on the scene, said that the reason why her brother gambled was because he was under too much pressure.

Sister Xiao Xu told everyone present that since her brother and Ms. Gong got married, Ms. Gong has been staying at home and not going out to work, and her brother has to bear all the family expenses.

Not only that, once her brother fails to transfer the money to Ms. Gong in time, Ms. Gong will get angry at her brother.

As soon as she heard this, Ms. Gong's anger and grievance rose instantly. She cried and said: "Why don't I go out to work? Don't you know the reason? Not long after we got married, they forced me to have a baby. I gave birth." After having two children, he persuaded me to take good care of the children at home. Does the child’s milk powder cost free? Does the child’s food and clothing cost free of charge?”

All the grievances in Ms. Gong’s heart were expressed at that moment.

Not only that, Ms. Gong also said that when her father learned that her husband owed gambling debts outside, he also gave him 50,000 yuan to pay off the debts.

What Ms. Gong didn't expect was that after her husband paid off his gambling debt, he refused to admit that it was the money lent to him by his father.

even smashed a small square table belonging to Ms. Gong’s father.

After hearing what Ms. Gong said, the mediator asked Xiao Xu: "Mr. Xu, is what your wife said true?"

"It is true, but at that time they forced me to pay back the money and asked me to pay back the money." The money will be returned within three days. I don’t have any money, so how can I pay it back?” Xiao Xu said matter-of-factly.

After hearing what Xiao Xu said, Ms. Gong’s brother couldn’t bear it anymore. He said that his family was not like this.

"At that time, we lent him the money in the hope that he could live a good life with my sister. Who knew that he was a dog that couldn't change his habit of eating shit, so he went gambling after getting the money." Ms. Gong's brother said through gritted teeth.

"So, you feel that your good intentions have been let down, right?" the mediator asked.

"Yes, so we were very angry at that time. It wasn't until three o'clock in the morning, almost four o'clock, that he would write the IOU." Ms. Gong's brother said angrily.

Mediator Bai Yanyi After listening to Ms. Gong’s brother’s story, he said to Xiao Xu: “Xiao Xu, your fault accounts for a large part of this matter. What we are saying is that although my father-in-law’s actions are not It’s wrong, but it’s excusable. Think about it, what would you do if your daughter was bullied?”

The mediator’s intention is to hope that Xiao Xu can realize that his wife’s family has treated him badly. Be tolerant of your own mistakes.

But unexpectedly, it made him a little aggrieved, and even said that things were not as simple as they thought.

Final ending

Xiao Xu said that in 2016, when his wife Ms. Gong was learning to drive at a driving school, she had a very close relationship with some male students. Moreover, I don’t go home at night.

Therefore, Xiao Xu believes that this is the real reason why his wife wants to divorce him.

"So you think Ms. Gong has found a new boyfriend, is that what you mean?" the mediator asked.

"Yes, it's because of this that she wants to divorce me." Xiao Xu said with certainty.

"Then did you find the evidence you wanted?" the mediator continued to ask.

Faced with this problem, Xiao Xu said intermittently: "The evidence has not been found yet. This is all my guess."

Ms. Gong, who was sitting aside, shook her head and sighed helplessly after hearing these words. She said At that time, I was living at my parents' house and taking care of my two children.

Moreover, I did not do what my husband said. My neighbors and the instructor at the driving school can prove it.

It was precisely because of her husband's various behaviors that Ms. Gong firmly decided to divorce.

On April 17, 2017, during the first court session between the two parties, the negotiation collapsed due to the issue of child custody.

In order to get a divorce, Ms. Gong decided to compromise on the custody of her child and agreed to give her son to Xiao Xu’s family to raise, while her daughter would be raised by herself.

But when the court convened again on April 25, Xiao Xu regretted it again.

In court, Xiao Xu said that the 500,000 arrears mentioned by Ms. Gong were not at all due to her gambling debts, but the living expenses of the two of them over the years.

Therefore, Xiao Xu asked Ms. Gong to bear half of the cost.

The two had a heated argument in court because of this incident.

What made Ms. Gong even more angry was that her mother-in-law actually told others that she knelt on the ground and begged them to let her marry into this family.

These words pierced Ms. Gong’s heart like a sharp knife and made her more determined to divorce. Upon seeing this, the

mediator took them to a room and enlightened them.

Ms. Gong said that she definitely wants a divorce, she will not change this. After the divorce, they would correct their mistakes individually.

Xiao Xu, on the other hand, firmly refused to divorce, and also said that the reason why his wife was anxious to divorce him was because she had a new boyfriend outside.

Even when the mediator told her that Ms. Gong divorced him because she was heartbroken by his gambling and other things.

Xiao Xu still didn't believe it. He was very sure that his wife, Ms. Gong, had someone outside.

"Your idea is wrong, you should correct it. You are gambling outside, which is not good for your wife and not good for your wife's family. This has broken her heart, do you understand?" The mediator was a little helpless. explained to Xiao Xu.

Under the persuasion of the mediator, the attitudes of Xiao Xu and Ms. Gong gradually changed.

Xiao Xu also said that he was unwilling to divorce his wife and would never gamble again, and apologized to his wife and family for his previous attitude. Upon seeing this, the mediator

took out an agreement they had drawn up in advance. hoped that they would give each other half a year to calm down.

If peaceful coexistence is still not possible in the future, both parties agree to break up peacefully.

But when the mediator said that Xiao Xu’s previous debts would be borne by himself, and he would return the 50,000 yuan owed to Ms. Gong’s father as required.

Xiao Xu directly interrupted the mediator and said: "I don't agree with this."

Hearing this, even the mediator felt a little confused and asked: "Why do you disagree with this?"

"Because I don't have it, I can't get the money now. If the two of us make money together to pay off this gambling debt, wouldn't it be faster?"

"Mr. Xu, I hope you understand one thing, gambling The debt is owed by you and should be paid by yourself. Don't bring this matter into your marriage. Your wife has no obligation to help you pay off this gambling debt," the mediator said to Xiao Xu angrily.

"If you don't talk about money in this agreement, I will definitely sign it."

At this point, the mediators present no longer want to say anything more. They already know Xiao Xu's thoughts very well.

A week after the mediation ended, Ms. Gong sent messages to several mediators saying that Xiao Xu did not send her any text messages after they returned home, and did not go to her parents' house to apologize and admit her mistake during the Dragon Boat Festival.

Therefore, Ms. Gong has made up her mind to end this marriage.