Introduction: What is marriage? It is two people joining hands for a lifetime, staying together until old age, and taking care of each other. Remarriage is no exception. I also want to have a companion to spend the rest of my life with, so that I will not be alone. Whether it is

Introduction:

What is marriage? It is two people joining hands for a lifetime, staying together until old age, and taking care of each other. Remarriage is no exception. I also want to have a companion to spend the rest of my life with, so that I will not be alone.

Whether it is a first marriage or a second marriage, two people need to work hard to manage it. It is best for two people to go hand in hand at the starting line, rather than pulling one behind the other on the track. Such a marriage will not last long. Who would be willing to make that sacrifice when one has to pay for one thing?

A real marriage needs to be honest with each other and work together to manage it. If there is only one person in the marriage, the outcome can be predicted quickly, just like Ms. Zhang’s marriage, they parted ways in less than three months.

The self-report of a 57-year-old retired female coach:

My name is Zhang Lan, I am 57 years old and I have just retired for a year and a half. I am a professional fitness coach. I have no pension, but I have a savings of 1.5 million, all of which I earned as a coach. I used to coach some female friends in a fitness institution and earn a salary of more than 20,000 yuan a month. I am a very frugal person, and the company usually takes care of the food, so I can't spend much money a month. Although my salary is so high, I have no children and my life is very unsatisfactory.

I am not a non-marriage person, I have been married. I married my ex-husband when I was 31 years old. I lived with him for three years, but he broke my heart and divorced me. At that time, my salary was not very high and my living conditions were very poor. I decided to work hard for three or four years before having a child. But my ex-husband is different. He wants to have children as soon as possible, but I am a person who plans my life very well. If some conditions cannot be met, I will not make decisions in advance.

My ex-husband quarreled with me many times because of my job. I am a coach and usually work from 3pm to 10:30pm, so I can’t take care of my family. My husband asked me to change jobs, but I don’t want to give up on myself. We had many fights over this, and our relationship gradually faded away. So my husband found a new love and kicked me out.

I was betrayed by my husband for no reason. I was very sad and sad. In the end, I took away the house without mercy and let him leave the house. From then on, I started working, but I never found a partner. When I turned 55, my company fired me. At this time, I didn’t want to continue working. I had a house and savings, which was enough to last me a lifetime.

used to be busy at work. When not at work, he would sleep or go out with his sisters to play, and he never felt bored at all. But after I retired, I had a lot of leisure time besides spending time on fitness. I didn’t want to continue working. I felt that life was boring. More importantly, I felt lonely for no reason at night.

Just half a year ago, I met a man who was three years older than me. I called him Brother Yang. Brother Yang has just retired and has a monthly pension of 5,000. He is also a person who loves to exercise. I met him once when I was running. An accident happened at that time, and we had the opportunity to get to know each other. Maybe it was because we were both single, but we quickly became friends. From then on, I often made appointments to go out for exercise. One time when I was out riding, it suddenly rained. Brother Yang gave me his raincoat without saying anything. I had a good impression of him at that time.

Later, Brother Yang confessed to me that he hoped I could live together with him. To be honest, at this age, I really need someone to accompany me, so I didn't think much about it. Instead, I felt that I could chat with Brother Yang and be happy together, so I immediately agreed to live with him.

We did not hold a wedding ceremony, but simply invited relatives and friends to have a meal after receiving the certificate. From then on, we started living together as two people. In the first month of our new life, we cooperated very well without any conflicts. Brother Yang has a son, but I am alone and have no children, so Brother Yang moved here to live with me.

I thought this life would be very happy, but after only three months, I couldn't stand it. I really couldn't meet Brother Yang's life requirements. When we first got together, we both agreed that I would be responsible for cooking and he would be responsible for cleaning. Our cooperation was fine in the first month, but we had an unpleasant incident because of one meal.I felt a little tired that day and didn't want to cook, so I decided to go to a restaurant, but Brother Yang asked me to pay the bill. His behavior made me very angry. In the end, I paid the bill. From that time on, we often had unhappiness over cooking and buying food. Brother Yang always asked me to worry about the living expenses, so I simply let him buy the food by himself. How much did it cost? Half of him, but he told me that he had to pay for errands when he went to buy groceries, so I had a quarrel with him.

Afterwards, the two of us had no tacit understanding of our lives. Brother Yang didn't care about me and only cared about himself. I tried to communicate with him, but he just ignored me. Every day at 6 o'clock in the afternoon, he asked me to cook a meal. At seven o'clock, he went for a walk alone. He came back at eight o'clock and had to go to bed before nine o'clock. Because he went to bed too early, I couldn't sleep at all. I wanted to watch TV by myself, but Brother Yang wouldn't let me watch, saying that I would disturb his sleep. I turned off the TV and did some exercises in the living room, keeping my voice low. No, in short, he and I were asked to rest at nine o'clock in the evening. We argued many times over this matter,

, etc. This didn't make me break up with him. The real reason for breaking up with him was that Brother Yang didn't even do the housework. , he didn’t worry about the family at all. He left all the shopping, cooking, and sweeping and mopping the floor to me alone. He didn’t even help with the electricity and gas bills. He basically followed his own pace of life every day. , regardless of my feelings.

We agreed to share the living expenses equally, but Brother Yang only paid a thousand yuan a month, which was not even enough to buy groceries, let alone other expenses. The key is that he doesn't help with anything. I tried to communicate with him, but he said, "The man takes care of the outside world, and the woman takes the role of the house." He said that it was normal for me to worry about these things. For him to say this, I had no hope at all. I really couldn't bear it, so I said to Brother Yang, "Let's break up and live our own lives. You are too selfish, and your life requirements are also very high. I can't satisfy you here. It takes two people to run a marriage, but you don't treat me as a wife at all. I take care of this family by myself. Instead, you get a thousand yuan, which is not even enough for food, but you enjoy the life of a landlord. So let’s separate, it’s better for everyone.”

Brother Yang turned to me and said, “Isn’t life like this? I’m old and can’t share life. As a wife, you are young and strong, so you shouldn’t bear more. What do you have to complain about when it comes to housework?" Seeing Brother Yang being so unreasonable, I said back to him: "You think too much, I'm not your nanny, and even a nanny doesn't have such a nanny. "The nanny has a salary of several thousand, and I still have to add money to it. Let's break up and let each of us live our own lives."

After this experience, I feel that you should not be too casual when looking for a partner, and you must carefully examine the other person. Otherwise, there is really no way to live together. Therefore, I advise everyone not to live with a macho man like Brother Yang. It is really tiring to live with such a person.

is written at the end:

Married life requires management. If one party is unwilling to pay but also enjoys it, then the marriage will come to an end. To manage a marriage, you need to be able to tolerate, understand, and help each other, and work together to improve your life, so that such a marriage will last long. Brother Yang in the

article is selfish and only cares about his own feelings. How can such a marriage continue? Even a partnership cannot last long. Therefore, if you meet such a person, you should evacuate quickly, otherwise you will definitely be hurt.

Finally, choosing a spouse for the second marriage is not the first marriage, and you can also cultivate feelings. However, at the age of retirement, it is difficult to cultivate feelings, so you should not get married easily if you cannot find like-minded people. In addition, you must be cautious when looking for a spouse. Keep your eyes open and don't ruin your originally happy life because of temporary passion.