I saw a post on a certain website: Who are the boys and girls who are reduced to blind dates? There are very few replies under
, so it is not a popular post. When I first saw it, I didn't think it was anything. But if you look closely, it's deeply ironic.
Is blind date really that bad? Considering the current low marriage rate and fast-paced life, blind date is really just a very common phenomenon.
Going on a blind date does not mean that these boys and girls are low-income and have been eliminated. Another possibility is that these boys and girls have higher requirements and are more disillusioned with married life.
Some young people are very resistant to blind dates. They believe that this form of blind dates will lead both parties not to focus on feelings, but to focus on whether the other party's conditions meet the standards they expect.
A girl I know firmly refused to go on a blind date. She said that going on a blind date would make her feel like a commodity.
In fact, the so-called life is to face reality. When you are unable to rely on yourself to achieve the goals you expect, you need to use some means, such as blind dates, to promote the achievement of your goals.
There is nothing to criticize. As long as you value feelings in your heart, even a marriage that is the result of a blind date can be wrapped in love.
As for what kind of person is sitting across the blind date table, whether you will choose him or not depends on whether your eyes are bright and whether you can see through his character.
The benefits of blind date are obvious: know yourself and your enemy, save time, and have clear goals.
It is much more practical than those love words about finding a needle in a haystack, and those love words that talk about loving and drinking water.
Of course, if you can rely on your own "encounter" to manage a relationship well before reaching the step of blind date, that is also commendable. However, this does not become a reason for you to look down on blind dates.
’s friend Qiao Na (pseudonym) got a sweet marriage through a blind date. At first, she was against the blind date.
The boy who was on a blind date with Qiao Na fell in love with Qiao Na at first sight after seeing the photo. But Qiaona always refused to go on a blind date. This was a match that her parents found through old friends and old connections, and they found a well-matched match. At the time, Qiaona felt that going on a blind date was a sign of her lack of charm.
Qiaona had also experienced blind date introductions before. Those QQ and WeChat messages she passively added, she either deliberately chatted to death, or she treated the men attentively and coldly. The introducer
told the boy that Qiao Na was against the blind date, so the boy designed a romantic plot for the two to meet by chance. As the contact gradually deepened, Qiao Na also fell in love with this boy.
The two people are also very sweet in the process of falling in love. They have similar views and know how to care for each other and accommodate each other. The boy later told Qiao Na that he was the blind date who was rejected before being introduced.
Qiao Na cherishes her current married life, and is very glad that she did not miss this "blind date" or her husband.
Many fates happen inadvertently. Before your relationship is settled, there is nothing wrong with boys and girls looking at each other more often, and not being in love but polite.
Everyone has a romantic self-setting for love, so many young people are resistant to blind dates at first, but as they grow older, experience more, and gain more knowledge, they slowly begin to accept blind dates.
Blind date is actually just a way for two people to meet. And its advantage is that the other half is screened by the parents, and the height, education, work, temperament, and family conditions are all matching.
Those feelings that parents oppose are too unhappy. Being young is both a capital and a disadvantage, especially for girls who are in love, it is too easy to be blinded.
As Lin Huiyin said: "Everyone knows that there is no banquet in the world that lasts forever, but they still promise eternity."
Those eternities must be based on survival, life, and the harmony of three views.
Of course, it is undeniable that there are drawbacks to blind dates.But no matter which cultural system it is in, whether this kind of abuse will ferment depends more on the parties themselves.
Before deciding whether to go on a blind date, you only need to ask yourself two questions:
- If you miss the right date because you refused to go on a blind date, will you regret it?
- If you agree with each other and decide to continue developing, will you deny the love between you because it is a relationship that comes from a blind date?
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