Cheating men all have a mouth that loves both their original spouse and their mistress, but in fact they love no one but themselves.
It’s just that after the first wife heard the cheating man say he loved her, she felt that the cheating man could still be saved, and the marriage could still be saved.
not only did she not divorce, she also didn’t separate from her mistress, and she just quietly waited for the cheating man to take the initiative to come back one day. Home.
The same goes for mistresses. When the cheating man says he loves her the most, she believes him and is willing to be the third party all the time.
feels that cheating men will divorce them sooner or later and marry them. If the men don’t divorce, it’s the cheating man’s trouble.
But the reality is that what a cheating man wants is the thought and state of his first wife and his mistress.
Both of them feel that the cheating man loves them and will give up the other one for themselves sooner or later, and they are both waiting.
No one takes the initiative to quit, and at the same time, in order not to embarrass the cheating man, no one takes the initiative to stir up trouble.
The cheating man coaxed and cheated on both sides, and began a chic threesome life.
In an extramarital affair case that Lan Fang handled before, the original wife and the mistress were both trying to protect the cheating man.
When the original wife came for consultation, her husband had been cheating on her for more than seven years.
The reason why she came to seek help after seven years of cheating was because her children were getting older and understood more.
She knew her father After the affair, the child exploded first because Ms. Lang, the original wife, was kept in the dark.
secretly told Ms. Lang. Unexpectedly, Ms. Lang already knew about it, but she never solved it.
The child could not understand Ms. Lang's behavior and said some unpleasant words to Ms. Lang.
However, the child's words also woke up Ms. Lang, and she decided to really start to solve the extramarital affair.
Ms. Lang and her husband have been married for seventeen years, and their child is already in high school at the age of sixteen.
Her husband was called away by his mistress on their tenth wedding anniversary.
Ms. Lang sent the child to a cram school. I had nothing to do, so I went shopping with my friends.
As a result, I happened to meet a cheating man who was shopping hand in hand with my mistress, and the extramarital affair was revealed.
After the extramarital affair was discovered, Ms. Lang also made a fuss at first, accusing the cheating man of irresponsible betrayal.
But her husband was eloquent and eloquent, and forcefully said that his cheating was out of necessity.
Ms. Lang believed that he still loved his original wife and their family the most.
In the end, Ms. Lang made an agreement with the cheating man to give the cheating man one month to break up with his mistress.
A month later, the cheating man said he was done with his mistress, and Ms. Lang actually believed her.
Later, Ms. Lang discovered again that the cheating man once again said that he loved Ms. Lang the most, and promised to break up after a while, and it continued for seven years.
Many people don’t understand why Ms. Lang is constantly cheated on, and then continues to believe the cheating man’s lies.
The answer is simple, because Ms. Lang does not want a divorce, she wants to continue the marriage.
The cheating man also understands Ms. Lang’s psychology, so he constantly gives Ms. Lang hope, making Ms. Lang feel that he will return to his family sooner or later.
Every time after his cheating was discovered, he always treated Ms. Lang well and promised to break off the relationship, and he did calm down for a period of time.
Ms. Lang was coaxed by the cheating man and always believed that the cheating man would come back on his own initiative, so she continued the marriage without caring about the extramarital affair.
If the child hadn't known about it, the child would have woken her up and she was still immersed in the dream that the cheating man would return to the family sooner or later.
The original wife would have spent her whole life in a threesome and would never have thought about solving the problem.
So how to solve Ms. Lang’s extramarital affair? In fact, it is not difficult to solve.
A cheating man not only cheats on his first wife, but he also cheats on his mistress, who is not very smart either.
A mistress who has been a mistress for seven years has never given birth to a child, and she has never even made a fuss about becoming a leader.
It can be seen that the cheating man coaxes the mistress very well. The mistress is also immersed in fantasy, thinking that the cheating man will divorce the mistress sooner or later.
So what we have to do is to let the cheating man expose the mistress’s beautiful fantasy with his own hands and make the mistress start a fight.
Most men deal with two women, and they continue to have extramarital affairs.
This is because neither woman is looking for trouble, and he doesn't feel tired after dealing with each other.
If the first wife makes all kinds of troubles, the mistress starts to make trouble, and the cheating man is tired of dealing with it, he will want to end the extramarital affair.
Men cheat for pleasure, and maintaining threesomes is for long-term enjoyment.
When an extramarital affair turns into torture and a threesome is left with endless unsolvable troubles, will a man still want to continue?
Moreover, if the original wife and the mistress get into trouble at the same time, the cheating man wants to end the extramarital affair.
He will definitely give up his mistress first because marriage involves too many interests.
Ending a marriage also means dividing property, fighting for custody, the collapse of the social circle, etc.
To end the extramarital affair is to cut off the relationship with the mistress and end the relationship with the mistress.
Therefore, if a cheating man must choose between his original wife and his mistress, the mistress must be the one who is abandoned.
But there is no need for the first wife to choose you instead of the mistress because of the cheating man, just to be complacent and think that the cheating man loves you more?
No, the basis for a man's choice is never whether he loves his original wife or his mistress more, but who he chooses is more in line with his own interests.
In the final analysis, a cheating man doesn’t love anyone, he only loves himself.
Lan Fang wants to say some truths that the original spouses don’t want to hear. Good advice is hard on the ears but helps the deeds. I hope the original spouses will listen.
I have come into contact with too many first wives like Ms. Lang. When they found out that their husbands were cheating on them, they came to complain in tears.
They accused the men of betrayal, cursed the mistresses for their immorality, and then told them about the pain of being cheated on.
After they say this, they will not ask you how to solve the problem, they just want to hear your comfort.
They don't want to solve the problem at all, even if they occasionally have the idea of solving the problem.
As long as the cheating man coaxes her, the first wife will believe what the cheating man said and continue to wait for the cheating man to return.
It can be said that half of the original wife's dilemma comes from the cheating man and the mistress, and half is the result of the original wife's own inaction.
Extramarital affairs are not that difficult to deal with. What is really difficult is how to give the original partner the fighting spirit to resolve the extramarital affair.
First spouses who are trapped in a threesome, if you don’t want to save yourself, how can others save you?
Finally, if you encounter cheating and don’t know what to do, you can follow Lan Fang and chat about your situation via private message.
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