When you reach the age of marriage, you are urged to marry by your family every year. Have you been urged to marry by your family?

In 1993, I'm already a big boss. In recent years, every time it's a New Year's holiday, a family dinner is equivalent to a large-scale marriage urging scene. ?

The marriage registration in 2021 will hit a 36-year low, with only 7.63 million pairs, only 56% of that in 2013. That is to say, in less than 10 years, the marriage rate will be nearly halved. Since 2013, the number of registered marriages has been decreasing every year. What is the reason for the decreasing marriage rate?

Let’s talk about an astonishing set of data. Now the single population in my country has reached 240 million. This data is more than the combined population of Russia and the United Kingdom. And the data is increasing every year.

Why is getting married so hard these days? This question is a hot topic in our after-dinner chat. Some people attribute the reason to women. They believe that women are now highly educated, financially independent, and have high requirements for the other half. If they choose to pick them up, they will reach the age of older leftover women, and they will gradually become unwilling to get married. Others think that the current housing prices are too high, the cost of marriage is high, the cost of raising children is high, or the mother-in-law is sad, and the betrothal gift is too high. These are all correct.

Why is getting married so hard in this day and age? The following points are summarized:

First, people's subjective will for marriage is greatly reduced now. It can also be said that in an era of high urbanization, marriage is no longer a necessity in people's lives. In the past, when social security was not very complete, everyone felt that starting a family and starting a business, raising children and preventing old age was a matter of course. However, in modern cities, almost everyone has an endowment insurance. People will not be unable to retire because they have no children. Instead, raising children is the biggest expense.

Second, in the past, women were poorly educated and could not be financially independent, while men were low-living, without wives, unable to do laundry and cooking, so to speak, they couldn't even eat a hot meal. Now, there are takeaways for meals, housekeeping, cleaning, and basically all the services you want can be solved online. These highly developed network services,Services that can already replace partner caring for the home.

Third, it seems that the meaning of marriage is now reserved for people, and the only thing left is to meet emotional needs. But do you have to get married in order to satisfy your emotional needs? In the past, people lived a simple life with very few recreational activities, and they would feel lonely living alone. But now we are chasing dramas, online games, and online shopping. You can watch dramas all night, play games all night, and loneliness no longer exists. A video can be used to connect with friends and relatives. Gone are the days when you need to find a big living person to live with each other and live together. From this point of view, marriage has really reduced the function of emotional needs.

But in modern society, marriage may not be a necessity. As long as you can endure loneliness and become independent financially, then you can live alone. But if you can find a life partner, support each other in life, make progress together financially, and when you are not feeling well, someone will accompany you to the hospital, accompany you, and take care of you.