Stop internal friction, 6 ways to learn to start loving yourself

Some time ago, I often heard and often saw the term "internal friction". To be honest, I still didn't understand its meaning very well, so I searched for its explanation and found out that I was actually caught, but I didn't know how to use it before. What kind of word to describe the state I was in at that time, and now I know it clearly, it is actually a kind of "internal friction".

"Internal friction" simply means having trouble with oneself. Oneself always bullies oneself. It is a kind of psychological pressure, which is accompanied by all kinds of anxiety and anxiety. Each of us is unique, so in the days to come, love yourself more, stop internal friction, and life will definitely become better and better. How can stop "internal friction", these 6 methods may help you!

1. Refusing to compare with others

We always see the bright and beautiful life of others, Then I was envious. In fact, when everyone's life has a feather, it just didn't show it. Behind the “brightness and beauty” on any social network platform is the most real life state. So, don’t compare your own difference with others’ good, but believe that you also have your own advantages.

2. Don't ask yourself to improve

Have low requirements on yourself and may easily be evaluated by people around you as "unenterprising", but in many cases, asking yourself too high is not necessarily a good thing.

Always set standards beyond your own ability. If you fail to meet the requirements several times, you will definitely feel disappointed. Everyone has different talents, and sometimes you may not be able to do what others can do. It can be done, , so after you have a clear understanding of yourself, you can make suitable requirements to yourself!

3. Don't set the flag lightly

When someone likes to set it at the beginning of the year flag,Some people like to set the flag at the beginning of the month, Anyway, please remember not to set too many flags easily, otherwise you will fall into a deep sense of self-blame.

For example: some people are used to going to bed late, but they set up the flag of going to bed early. The strict implementation of this flag is only two days a month. At this time, it is easy to feel self-blame. Change the goal to bed 5 minutes early every day, step by step, but it is easier to achieve the goal.

IV. Learn to comfort yourself

I have always belonged to the kind of person who has a very strong "self-healing" ability. If I encounter problems in life or work, I usually don't talk to others, but give myself to myself The comfort of more positive energy.

Life is so good, you shouldn't waste time because of some trivial things. Torture yourself is very painful, and it can’t solve the problem, So, learn to comfort yourself and tell yourself that it’s okay.

5. Lower expectations

Many times, the more you look forward to one thing, the easier it is to be disappointed. At this time, the inner drama is often "I am not good enough, so Does he not like me?" "Is my ability too bad, so I can't do this job well?"

Disappointment is actually a normal life. Everyone will have such a disappointing experience, , be yourself , Lower expectations for people and things, but there will be unexpected surprises.

6. Learn to understand yourself

In fact, it is very difficult to know yourself, especially when self-evaluation, it is especially easy to be subjective, so that the evaluation lacks objectivity.Authenticity.

At this time, you may wish to invite family and friends to evaluate yourself so as to understand your own strengths and weaknesses. The key to continuous growth is to start to learn to understand yourself, discover your strengths, and accept your own disagreements. Perfect!

Focusing on your own growth is far more worthwhile than looking up on others. Everyone is the result of natural selection, so no one should look down on anyone. Please believe that being born with me is useful. Life is short and I refuse internal friction. I hope you and I can find the medicine to regain my blood, and know that I must love myself!

I am He Xiaohe, and I focus on sharing my personal growth and life insights. I believe that a little bit of progress will be produced every day. The power, thank you for your praise and attention, let us work hard together!