University classmate Chen Lin is still divorced. We have been in contact since graduation. We are good friends with a very good relationship. I only learned the news in the past few days. Chen Lin is different from others. He is a son-in-law and married for seven. Years, the child is six years old. Although it is his child, the child’s surname is not his surname. Perhaps this is the greatest sorrow of the son-in-law who has no choice.
Why did my friend choose to be the door-to-door son-in-law? At first I didn't understand, because the woman Li Ping was from a poor family and her father was disabled, and belonged to a destitute family.
In my cognition, the man will be the door-to-door son-in-law only if the woman has a wealthy family background and is the only child. The family of his girlfriend Li Ping has nothing to do with this, and the poor are even poorer than the average family.
Her father had an accident more than ten years ago. It was a kind of paralysis of lower limbs and completely lost the ability to work. (My friend told me what happened, but I didn’t pay attention to it before.) He needed long-term medicine and the whole family relied on him. My mother did some odd jobs to earn money, and basically couldn't make ends meet.
But my friend still chooses to be the door-to-door son-in-law, because his three girlfriends and sisters and two sisters are married away. She is the youngest daughter in the family. She wants her husband to live in his home so that she can take care of her father and also give The family earns some money, because his father needs someone to serve him and cannot be left unattended for a long time. If she gets married, her mother can't take care of the family alone.
At that time, a few of us said, what did you do in such a family? You go to help the poor. Your father stays in bed for a long time and takes medicine for a long time. After you pass, you have to subsidize their family and become a son-in-law. , What is the picture?
Chen Lin was surrounded by love at the time, because my child was there, and his girlfriend was still missing. Later, after a friend introduced him, he met Li Ping. After meeting, he looked for Li Ping and thought Li Ping was The woman she was looking for in this life was actually not bad Li Ping. After I first met, I recognized her. If it weren't for being a son-in-law, Li Ping would actually be a good choice.
Chen Lin’s parents disagree
When Chen Lin told his parents,Chen Lin’s parents were angry. The college students who worked so hard to cultivate are commonplace in marrying a wife and having children after work, but he chose to be the son-in-law. Although Chen Lin’s two brothers have a younger brother, they have no family yet. Speaking of the point where you have to be your son-in-law.
And the woman's father is still paralyzed in bed, and his parents are also saying that after is married, love alone is not enough. You don't need to spend money on food and drink? The way their family is, you are the only labor force in their family when you go, and all the burdens of life will fall on you. Can you bear it?
We firmly oppose this marriage. If you and Li Ping go out alone, we can still support it, but you are a veritable son-in-law who lived in someone’s house in the past. We disagree.
Chen Lin and his parents were very stiff. After the quarrel, the parents compromised. They said that what parents do to their children is for your future. Even if you don't listen, don't regret it in the future.
So Chen Lin and Li Ping got married. They just had a banquet at the woman’s house. Only Chen Lin’s parents passed by. No other relatives passed by. Chen Lin’s hometown just notified relatives and went to the restaurant to make a reservation. table.
Chen Lin realized the cruelty of life
Chen Lin’s monthly salary was more than 6,000 yuan, and his wife was more than 4,000 yuan. The money was actually fine for the two of them to live a small life, but in the second month of his marriage, Li Ping’s father was admitted to the ICU. It may be the cause of bedridden for a long time. He suffered a stroke. He was hospitalized for more than ten days and spent more than 100,000 yuan. The young couple had no deposits. Only when they swiped a credit card of 50,000 to 60,000, they had enough medical expenses. Her mother couldn’t control her father alone. Li Ping had to quit her job and assist her mother to take care of her father. He paid back two periods. Chen Lin had to take care of his father when he came home from work. In this way, he has been looking after him for half a year. His husband is almost recovered, trembling, at least he can eat by himself, but the old man is very temperamental. The reason for being in bed for time is that it’s easy to get angry anyway, and even the smallest things may provoke him.The mother-in-law is also selfish and stingy.
After half a year of marriage, his wife became pregnant. Chen Lin was very happy. Although she worked hard every day to make money, she could see her wife’s belly grow bigger day by day, and her happy mouth could not close together. But after the child was born, both parties had Because of the contradiction,
Chen Lin wants his child's surname Chen, Li Ping's family has to let the child's surname Li . Chen Lin said that I came to be the door-to-door son-in-law because I have a good relationship with Li Ping and think where I will be after marriage. It's all the same. Second, he is a little girl, and you old people need to take care of him, so I came, and I feel sorry for Li Ping.
But Li Ping’s family said, Chen Lin, Chen Lin, you came here to be the son-in-law, you directly married our Li Ping, you didn’t spend a penny, why didn’t you let you spend a penny, didn’t let you buy a house? Let you take care of us as a door-to-door son-in-law, otherwise it's so simple.
Chen Lin's anger is not light, but there is no way. What people say is the fact, life is like this. Everyone thinks differently. You think you are here to help. Money to marry a wife is to let you come here to be your son-in-law, and to provide them with old age.
So after his son was born, his surname was Li. The child called Li Ping’s parents as grandparents. Chen Lin’s parents knew about this, and they also had a fight with Chen Lin, saying he was useless.
Chen Lin wanted to take the children back to his parents’ house for the New Year in advance, but Li Ping refused to let him. After the New Year, he had to go back to visit relatives after the second day of the New Year. That’s how, after several times, Chen Lin finally broke out because of the New Year incident. Chen Lin’s parents were unwilling. This time they had a quarrel with Li Ping’s parents, saying that I took my child back to my own home for the New Year. Where are my relatives and spend the New Year here every year. Of course my parents do too. I hope I will lead my wife and children to celebrate the New Year at my house.
The two elderly people have been married for so many years, and no one cares about them. They let their children call themselves grandparents.
The explosion of contradictions
A few years later,Brother Chen Lin is about to buy a house. As an older brother, he naturally wanted to help his younger brother, so he told Li Ping and his family to give his brother 20,000 yuan. The reason for the lack of money for a long time, every year Chen Lin gave his parents two thousand yuan will be talked about by their family for a long time, let alone this time it was twenty thousand yuan.
It was a pity that Li Ping found out later. He accidentally saw Chen Lin's chat records and discovered that he had transferred 20,000 yuan to his younger brother.
Because Li Ping often changes jobs, and none of the jobs lasts more than a year, so the salary has not been high, three or four thousand yuan, because his father is really in poor health, and often goes to the hospital, either this is sick, or that is not I feel comfortable. The money spent in the hospital a year costs 40,000 to 50,000. The key is that after his father was laid off and bought out in the 1990s, he had no insurance. Everything needed to be paid for medical treatment. In short, the family has never had any money, so he can save one or two a year Wan is amazing.
So Li Ping's family began to criticize Chen Lin, saying that our family has passed this way, and you gave your brother 20,000 yuan. Do you think you are rich? If you have money, come and give me 20,000 yuan. If you don't have money, don't pretend to be big money.
You need to know that after you recruit, the money in this family is not your own money, and it is half of Li Ping's. If you don't discuss it with the whole family, you can make your own decision and transfer it out at once. Million, what big money to recharge.
Chen Lin was very angry after hearing what they said. For several years, he has worked hard and resented this family, but no matter what he does, he can't influence them? Why can't they accept him as a son-in-law from the beginning to the end? When something happened, he was in the front and helped the family for no reason, and Li Ping also obeyed his parents' opinions, and didn't pay much attention to it.
Chen Lin said: Dad, Mom, I know that our family spends a lot of money, but my brother bought a house, my parents may also live in the future, since I came here, my parents have almost always relied on My brother, as an older brother, I feel very sorry for my younger brother and my parents. As the elder of the family, I didn’t set an example for my younger brother.
Brother bought a house. I think I paid 20,000 yuan, which is not enough, but I only have This ability,That's my own brother. I have a monthly salary of more than 6,000. Most of my money is subsidized to our family. Did I say anything? I only give two thousand to my parents during the holidays a year. Are you still not satisfied?
Li Ping's parents said, you are a door-to-door son-in-law, do you know? Why didn't you correct your position? After you come here, you will be the same as the one who got married. You can't handle the money yourself.
Chen Lin's heart is cold
Chen Lin gradually feels that he is very tired, such a life can not see the head at a glance, there is no hope at all, one year? Three years? Five years? Or ten years? Even longer.
Faced with such a family every day, without warmth, his wife Li Ping stood with her parents and felt that she did not take care of the family wholeheartedly. Of course Chen Lin could not do Li Ping's. After all, Li Ping was their biological daughter. His parents are all he has, and Chen Lin has his own biological parents, and his in-laws are only half of him.
But Chen Lin has done a great job in the past few years. He has almost no complaints. Now he is tired, so Chen Lin likes to work overtime. He does not return home until late after get off work. What is unexpected is that he sometimes comes home. He also needs to cook and stir fry.
In this way, the contradiction between each other is getting bigger and bigger, the two sides always quarrel because of a small matter. Ever since Li Ping’s parents called out to let him get out of the house, Chen Lin made up his mind to divorce,
Li Ping did not hold back for the divorce. Maybe she was tired because she always obeyed her parents. After the two parties signed the divorce agreement, they got divorced on the 1st of this month.
It is a pity that Chen Lin got divorced after being a door-to-door son-in-law for seven years. He told me that he really regretted not listening to his parents. He really regretted it.
The marriage of a door-to-door son-in-law and a woman are actually different. The door-to-door son-in-law and a woman marry are two different things. When a woman marries, other people will not say anything, and relatives and friends will not look down on you. There is no pressure from public opinion.It also requires a car and a house, and the requirement not to live with in-laws after marriage,
But it’s not the same for men to come home. There can’t be so many requirements. Friends at home, relatives, and the wife’s family, relatives and friends, More or less, they look down on the son-in-law, because they think you have no abilities and money, so they come to the door. They just saw that you didn't pay the bride price for getting married, but didn't see how much you paid for the family.
Visiting son-in-law is not easy, please cherish their son-in-law.
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