Boys are the least able to resist this set of girls

"Bear, tell you a secret, I have a favorite boy !"

in the message, girl can't wait to use all the beautiful words on the boy she likes:

is very gentle and writes Good-looking, very responsible for doing things, very sunny when smiling...

"However, this is the first time I like someone, and I am not sure if he has a good opinion of and for me, so I don't know what to do at all, and I don't know. Should actively pursue ..."

"Bear, my bestie, please come and help me." Children , then -

of course not to be missed, of course, to actively pursue it!

In addition, I will tell you quietly that in the eyes of boys, active girls often have a very special charm:

does not hide their feelings, especially is brave ; Candid, very real.

All in all, the most irresistible thing for boys is such an active girl!

However, girls, please don't read this, and hurriedly go to tonight to confess ;

is "active" rather than "impulsive". If we want to capture the heart of the person we like, we also need to first Just put more thought into it~

No, Xiong brings you a love book today, hoping to bring you some inspiration and help;

The name of the book is "Love Psychology : We Should How to Cultivate Love. Yucheng Yu, the author of

, is a well-known psychological counseling expert in Japan.

In this book, the author describes a lot of practical tips and tricks to help us capture the hearts of those we like and gain love ;

Xiong also extracted 8 love methods from the book, To all girls who want to actively pursue love~

(of course boys are also applicable!)

I hope everyone can "take the initiative", don't let love leave regrets~

Method 1:

more Create and opportunities with people you like.

For most girls, "shy" is their first reaction when they meet someone they like.

blushed for a moment and couldn't stop smiling;

's heart was pounding, but he only dared to bury his head low;

didn't dare to look back secretly until 's counterpart was far away...

The bear certainly understands this kind of deer The sweet mood of bumping, however, the bear still has to remind the girls:

is only concerned with being shy, and it is impossible to draw closer to each other! The author of

also said that in the process of becoming intimate, it is very important to meet several times;

"Because after getting familiar with each other, the vigilance will become better and more relaxed, so it is easier to have good feelings."

Therefore, the author suggests that girls, as long as they have someone they like, they must create more opportunities to meet.

When he was playing basketball, he generously gave him a bottle of water;

bravely sat next to him during his self-study;

took the initiative to create some encounters and greeted enthusiastically...

may still be shy, You may blush and be speechless, but even so, you must look into each other's eyes bravely.

's eyes can convey the most sincere thoughts. Even the most obtuse boy can understand it.

Many of us live in masks.

Especially girls, often disguise themselves as strong, or well-behaved , or publicity.

Bears of course know that this is a kind of self-protection of girls;

But the author suggests that if we are facing the person we like, we might as well remove this disguise:

Let the person we like see us It is easier to narrow the distance between and compared to the different and more real side in daily life.

is for example:

is usually strong, but shows her tenderness to those she likes;

is usually well-behaved, but shows her bravery to those she likes;

is usually flamboyant, but shows her softness to those she likes. The author of

said that the contrast of before and after is more likely to arouse the good impression of boys:

"Hey, she is such a person."
"It is completely different from her usual." She seems to be a little more cute~"

Xiong also feels that the real charm that girls exude when they are true to themselves is the most irresistible charm for boys~

Method 3:

appropriate to talk about troubles.

"I have to be a little positive in front of him!"

"Telling him about his troubles is annoying."

" Don't let him think I'm weak and annoying! "

In the face of the person they like, girls often do like the above, for fear of causing trouble for the other party, so they avoid talking about all troubles.

But in fact, girls don't have to be so brave~

The author also said that men Children, most of them pay attention to their own value and have strong self-esteem;

Therefore, it is the best way to express your trust when you talk to them about your troubles.

However, the author also reminds us that we should also consider the mood of the other party when we talk about our troubles. , pay attention to the way of talking;

Instead of complaining and complaining, it is better to talk calmly.

You must know that whether it is a boy or a girl, it is not a shame to have troubles, and there is no need to hide it;

As long as we find a suitable way to talk, we can not only shorten the distance between each other, but also make the impression we leave on each other more real and more candid~

Method 4:

Choose a comfortable dating location.

Want to catch It is also an essential process to live in the heart of the person you like and date two people alone.

Moreover, initiating a date is by no means the patent of boys, girls can also make invitations generously!

However, dating also has secrets to dating~

The author suggested that we should try to choose a comfortable environment when dating;

Like exquisite cafes, elegant music, delicious food, etc., all can create a good dating atmosphere , to help warm up feelings.

In addition, in addition to the date, the duration of the date is also very particular~

The author also said that we should try to control the duration of the date to about an hour and a half; Feelings, have more expectations for the next meeting.

Xiong also suggested that girls, at the end of the date, remember to say "I am really happy today" to the other party;

Expressing happiness generously can also make the other party happier~

Method 5:

Find yourself Similar to the other party's " similar to ".

I wonder if you have noticed that we have a good impression of a person, often because that person is somewhat similar to us.

Therefore, the author suggests that if we want to let the people we like open up to us, we might as well start by looking for "similarities"; Coincidentally, that's my favorite writer too!"

"I have a cat too!"

When we find these similarities, we will automatically get closer to each other, and the whole person can be in a better place Relaxed state~

Xiong thinks, this must not be difficult for girls who are careful by nature~

As long as you can keep in mind the details of your daily life and chat, you will naturally find a lot of resonance .

And when the "similarities" accumulate more and more, the other party will feel: "She and I seem to have a very good fate!" Boy~

Method 6:

Be careful about the little things.

People often say: "True love is in the details."

No matter how lavishly the other party talks about love, if the small details and small things are not done well, it will still leave us with an unreliable and unreliable impression.

Therefore, the author wants us to understand:

"It is easier to be loved by the other person if you pay attention to the little things." Do some trivial trivial things;

Instead of making a long phone call every week to chat with each other, it is better to send a few text messages every day... Give it to the other party;

This will make the other party feel more at ease and at ease, and it will be easier to grasp the other party's heart~

Method 7:

Please ask mutual friends to "assist".

After the above "active attack", Xiong thought, the distance between girls and the boys they like -

is probably only a thin layer of window paper~

At this time, the author suggested that girls Hey, it's time to ask some mutual friends to "assist":

"Especially in the state where we are still one step away from communicating, this can be an opportunity for the other party to make up their minds."

The so-called "assist", the author explained: " Just ask your mutual friends to say a few good words or compliments of you.""

" In my impression, she is super careful! "

" She is very good at taking care of people and is really caring..."

When hearing these praises, boys' goodwill towards girls will be further improved on the original basis, and their hearts will gradually become firmer.

I don't know. Before you know it, love has changed from a single arrow to a sweet double arrow~

Method 8:

Boldly say what you like.

However, no matter how "assist" your friends are, love is still a matter between two people. .

However, girls are often hesitant at the last step:

"Will it be bad for girls to confess..."

"Should I wait for him to speak first?" Cherish it..."

But the author reminds us that if you like it, if you don't say it, it will be a real loss;

"If you want the other party to like you, you have to say what you like."

However, confession can be It is not enough to simply say "I like you"; the author of

said that in order to improve the success rate of confession, choosing the timing of confession is very important.

For example:

Compared with in the morning or noon confessing , confessing in the evening or at night, it is more able to elicit the truth of the other party; Can make a lasting impression on each other.

Remember, if you like it, express it bravely. This is the most natural truth.

The girls who take the initiative to express their love are really brave, very cute, and very worthwhile~

said so many methods and principles of "girls should take the initiative", and finally, Xiong wants to share with you a saying that Xiong has always liked:

"On the road of my active pursuit of love, the best person I have chased is myself." Remember to take the initiative to love yourself, and don't let yourself be wronged.

After all, you must become your own protagonist first, then love will come at the right time and make life the icing on the cake.

Good night everyone~