Text|Mama Meiya
Many parents think that their children are the best gifts God has given them, so they hold them in the palm of their hands. Some children are 10 years old and have not washed their socks yet, but have helped the family to wash the dishes once. Parents think this is good for their children, but is this true?
Case:
Colleague Hibiscus's daughter has been pampered since childhood and has never done any physical work. Now 12 years old, although she looks beautiful and has good academic performance, she often makes her mother angry. Because she is completely unable to support her own children. She was unwilling to ask her daughter to help her with a bowl of rice, and said that her mother was too lazy to even serve the rice herself.
Hibiscus often complains to us that her child is too ignorant, and I hope she gets married sooner, so that the headache is not her. But she is also a little worried that after the child gets married, there will be a conflict with her mother-in-law because of her personality.
Ms. Yan's way of educating her children is completely different from that of Hibiscus. In her parenting philosophy, only lazy mothers can teach diligent children. So as long as the child can do it, she will never help the child. Now that the child is two years old, he can do everything by himself, especially diligent.
However, Ms. Yan was busy at work during this time, so she had to send the child to her grandmother's house. She was worried that grandma would spoil the child, so she often called back and asked what the child did today? The fear is that the child will not be able to do anything when he comes back.
In terms of parenting methods, Ms. Yan's approach is indeed better, and it is worth learning from every parent.
A good mothermust learn to be "lazy", mothers are lazy in these three things, children grow up to be promising I cried. However, this way of educating children is not correct, and parents should learn to be too lazy to lose their temper.
Sometimes the children's mistakes are the parents, and the children are led astray because of the parents' mistake in educating their children. Parents should also learn to reflect, learn to improve their parenting styles, and help their children make progress.
②It is very important to be too lazy to help children
, and it is also Ms. Yan's practice, which every parent should learn. Parents should not think that their children are still young and do not want them to do anything. Precisely because children are still young, we should nurture children so that they can learn to do things by themselves and develop independent abilities.
After all, every child will leave their parents and go to the world alone. We let them develop the ability to be independent, which will make it easier for children to adapt to the world. And getting things done alone is a fulfilling thing that makes kids proud.
③Too lazy to urge children
Many children like to procrastinate, shouting three times to eat, three times to sleep, and three times to go to the toilet. This situation makes parents very upset, so they inevitably urge their children in life to make them hurry up and hurry up. However, this method will make the child develop a habit, if the parents do not urge, the child will not be in a hurry.
In fact, we should learn to be too lazy to urge the child. When the child does not come to eat, we should not rush him.After all the meals are eaten, the child will realize the seriousness of the matter. When a child is dawdling when he goes to school, parents don't rush him, only when he is reprimanded by the teacher can the child be impressed. Sometimes not urging the child is more useful than urging.
Parenting classics: Many parents are studying parenting knowledge , hoping to help their children grow. In fact, parenting is very simple, as long as we become a lazy mother. Don't do everything for the child, as long as the child can do, we let him try. Don't always rush the child, this will have a consequence, the child will be upset, and the parents will also be upset. Are you a lazy mom in your life?
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