text/Hao Pregnant Sister
Yesterday, I watched the "first generation internet celebrity top streamer Zhang Dayi engagement" after gossiping, and my friend said with infinite emotion, "I really envy these rich people, unlike us who are running around for a few taels of silver all day long."
Maybe it's because people's emotions are easy to generalize, and my friend immediately said, "Do you say, will your child feel inferior because the house at home is dilapidated?" "
The topic is a bit far behind, but I still replied, "Will you know."
My friend was silent for a while and said, "It's definitely because I am like this. As long as I can remember, I lived in an old house with red bricks.
Although it is in the city center of a small city, it also has heating and real estate certificates, its appearance is particularly old. Especially with the continuous construction of new communities around it, the community where my family is located seems even more dilapidated. It's like an abandoned house without anyone living in.
At that time, I really hoped to live in a house with beautiful appearance, even if it's far away from the city center. However, my parents didn't have the slightest desire to change the house.
So, Every time someone asks me where I live, I feel embarrassed to say it, and I dare not invite my classmates to play at home. I even worry about whether the groom will dislike him when he gets married in the future.
Maybe it’s because of the vanity, but I really become very inferior. Because I have experienced this pain, after the child was born, I decisively bought a villa with one elevator and one household.
Although sometimes I regret it, after all, I have to pay the mortgage every month. But as long as I think about it, the child can live in a better environment, I immediately feel that I did nothing wrong. "
After hearing this from my friend, I instantly remembered a message from a netizen I had seen: From childhood to adulthood, I have lived in a relative's house, and I have no home at all. I am so humble that I dare to make friends.
Alas, all parents hope that their children can be warm and pure throughout their lives, and they will not give up love and freedom. Every child also desires to be confident and optimistic, like a little sun.
However, some people and things encountered in life will directly change the child's personality.
Maybe they are still very good, but the inferiority complex in their bones cannot be hidden. In them, there are often these three obvious characteristics:
Not confident, not opinion
The most typical manifestation of children with inferiority is lack of confidence. They cannot see what they have, but instead feel inferior because of various things, such as their height and appearance, their parents' careers, family conditions, academic performance, etc.
Due to lack of confidence, they are always timid and speak in a squint manner. I dare not express myself, nor do I want to express my thoughts. No matter what occasion, I wish I could hide myself.
They always feel that their conditions are not good enough and think that they do not deserve better. Therefore, many times, even if you are excellent and have strong abilities, you miss many opportunities because you are too inferior, even feelings.
It is easy to blame and feel guilty
Most children with inferiority complex are more sensitive. They will care extra about what others think and evaluate them, and are always worried that others look down on them.
and they always like to do intra-attribution . Because I always feel that I am not as good as others, I can't do anything well. Therefore, as long as you encounter conflicts and frictions, you will blame yourself for your mistakes and responsibilities. Thinking that it is your own incompetence and inability to achieve the project failure, etc.
Especially when facing feelings, even if the other party betrays them, they blame themselves for being not doing well enough and not doing well enough.
Like to be alone and don’t want to date others
Children with inferiority are often introverted and like to be alone. However, deep down in their hearts, they actually desire friendship and a sense of belonging to the class.
But because of fear of being rejected and deep down, they always feel that others don’t like them. They are often passive, will not take the initiative, and are even unwilling to date others.
Especially when they are ridiculed by a classmate, they will resist all group activities and always want to stay away from the class.
Finally, I want to say that inferiority complex does not come from our shortcomings, but from our advantages that we do not have enough to fight against.
Everyone has different degrees of inferiority because we all want to make ourselves better and live a better life.
If you take inferiority complex as your elasticity, instead of always keeping your eyes on your own shortcomings, your life will jump higher and you will eventually discover a better self.
