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Behind the children with stable emotions, there is a pair of parents with stable emotions, and behind the children with out-of-control, there is a pair of parents with out-of-control.
Parents are the children's first teachers and the root cause of their children's emotional stability. All the problems of children come from their parents.
If you want to raise children with emotional stability, you must first become parents with emotional stability. Only in this way can your children be emotionally stable.
Today, Dabao said he wanted to draw. I said, when my brother went out to play, you were drawing, and she said it was okay, so she helped her take out the drawing.
Just after she drew one, the neighbor's younger brother and Erbao drew the painting dirty for her. At the beginning, she was still patient until Erbao scratched it again, and Dabao was completely angry and threw it away with the pen.
and I was very angry and started crying, and said, why did I get dirty with the painting? In short, I cried very sadly.
At this time, I knew that her emotions were in the lower level of brain, and it was useless to say anything, so I squatted beside her and made her cry, and I said you cry!
When a child is emotionally out of control, the most useless education is to reason with the child. If the child is in a state of out of control, he will forget whatever he says.
Your painting is dirty and you are very sad. Then you cry, it will be better if you cry. Dabao cried even louder after listening to me.
At this time, I took her home and held her in my arms. Do you like your paintings very much, right? You don't want them to get your painting dirty, do you?
Dabao nodded, and I said, my mother understands it very much. If anyone breaks my things and gets dirty, my mother will be as sad as you.
You are sad and can vent your dissatisfaction, but after venting, you have to think about how to do this next thing.
Just like that, I cried with Dabao for a while, Dabao cried for a while and stopped crying. I asked her if she was in a better mood, if it was stable.
Take a deep breath and exhale, exhale the unhappiness, and your emotions stabilize a little, and then continue to talk about what just happened.
Accept the child's bad emotions when his emotions are out of control
I said, you were sad just now, it is right to vent your emotions, but if you throw it away, do you think it is appropriate? Have you returned to your original state?
Dabao said no, I said yes, the problem of throwing things was also not solved, but I became even more angry. Then again, if my mother is angry.
also lost his temper and threw away everything. Do you think this is OK?
Dabao said no, I said, what should I do if I encounter something angry in the future? Dabao said that he could be angry and stomped his feet.
But you must protect the safety of yourself and the safety of people around you, and the safety of your items.
When a child’s emotions are out of control, parents should not use violence to fight violence, but should adopt a peaceful attitude and accept the child’s bad attitude and behavior.
is also a role model for children, allowing children to imitate and learn.
After lasting for a period of time, the child found that the parents handle things with a gentle attitude, and the child will be peaceful and stable.
The more the child's emotions are out of control,
The more stable the parents' emotions are
In the process of raising children, there are many times when children are disobedient, especially when we always want children to do things according to our ideas.
If children do not follow our ideas, we will be particularly angry, but no matter what the reason is, as parents, we must control our emotions.
Especially when children are out of control of their emotions, we must control our emotions even more.
instead of asking the child not to lose his temper here. When the child makes us angry, we yell and scold us. Do you think the child will listen?
obviously won't, she will only imitate the rage we repeat every day.
As the saying goes:
Words are not as good as teaching by example, and teaching by example is the best teacher for children.
So, from now on, strictly demand yourself, and when encountering problems, communicate with your child gently and firmly, instead of continuing to yell.
When your emotions are stable, you will find that your child has gradually learned to control his emotions, and at the same time he has become aware of how to manage emotions correctly.
As a parent, it is better to teach children how to manage their emotions. Emotional stability is the greatest wealth for children.
Parents are out of control of emotions
Children are prone to depression and irritability
Recently read "Mentalist Education", has a deep feeling. There is a little girl in the book who is deeply influenced by her mother's violent temper.
Emotionally suppressed and irritable, and even wanted to escape from their home and escape from the mother who made her suffer. Her mother also felt that she had a bad temper.
Educator Spencer once said:
Baria produces barbarism, benevolence produces benevolence, this is the truth.
always wants to change her temper, but after reading a lot of books, she understands a lot of truths, but when she sees her child doing something wrong.
was still furious in an instant, yelling and scolding at the child, and even attacking him, but after beating and scolding, he saw the child's disgusting eyes.
is particularly regretful, guilty, annoyed, and hated your behavior.
In life, there are actually many parents who will easily lose control of their emotions when they encounter things like the mother above. is especially busy and tired.
people have limited energy. When a person is busy and tired, but cannot get understanding and considerate, and the child is disobedient, it will explode in an instant.
So, when a person is busy and tired, don’t try to discipline his children, because discipline with emotions can easily lead to family wars.
When anger comes, don’t suppress your bad emotions.
admits that I am in pain. For example, I used to be as prone to emotional out of control as many mothers, but now, if I am very angry.
will not suppress or lose his temper like before, but will tell myself that I am angry, I am unhappy, or make myself cry.
When I started to face my emotions, my bad emotions were circulated, and I was no longer as prone to emotional out of control as before.
Psychological theory:
A person's emotions, most importantly, are to be seen.
When we feel and bad emotions in our hearts, we are seen and recognized, it is equivalent to being accepted and understood. Once human emotions are accepted and understood.
is like an impetuous heart, comforted and docked, and at the same time, it is circulated like water. Once the water is in a circulating state, there will be no stagnant water, and there will be no blockage.
Without blockage, there will be no blockage. Without blockage, there will be no problem. The same is true for people's emotions. Without blockage, there will be no outbreak due to depression.
at the end:
As a parent, if you love your children, start by controlling your emotions.
Emotional stability is the heaviest love parents give to their children, and it is also the source of children's strong sense of security and inner strength.
Only in this way can children have a happy childhood, and when they grow up, they will have good personality and character, and gain a happy life.
Author introduction:
Tongxi's mother talks about parenting. I am a second-child mother born in the 1990s who loves learning and growth. I like to record myself and my children in the way I write, and at the same time, I use stories to light up my life. My wish is to live my life in the way I like.
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