Family environment is crucial to the healthy growth of children. Parents all hope that their children will be , and some things will go against their wishes. When the children grow up, not only will they not become the ideal appearance of their parents, but they will also be depressed. Only then will the parents feel regretful. dare not have any too high requirements for their children, as long as they are healthy.
The child's psychological development is not mature and cannot resist the continuous blows. Some words seem nothing to the parents, and blurt out, , but for children, it is fatal, it is sprinkling salt on the wound.
The key is that after the child reminds his parents, the parents don’t care and do whatever he wants. After a long time, some children become disgusted with school and even drop out of school. The parents regret it. If they had known this, they would not force their children.
There is this atmosphere in the family, which will make children depressed. Parents' emotional stability is the key to success in education:
. Only focus on children's learning, not on children themselves
Parents are very concerned about their children's grades. The children may have always had excellent grades in elementary school. But in junior high school and high school, it is difficult to learn , and they cannot be compared with each other. If the child does not adjust his learning methods and psychological emotions in time, he may not meet the standards of excellent grades.
Parents keep a close eye on their children. If they are a little behind in their grades, they are very nervous. They often criticize their children instead of encouragement. It seems that the child does not do well in the exam, which means they lose their parents' face. In the adolescence stage, children are emotionally unstable due to their age characteristics. They feel that their parents like grades, not themselves, and they are prone to depression over time.
Parents should adjust their mentality and emotions in a timely manner. It is more difficult for children to study. They should adjust their mentality and help their children solve current problems. encourages children, scientifically adjust their learning methods, and build confidence in overcoming difficulties.
Ask the teacher and the students around you to have the confidence to win, plus good psychological quality and learning methods, I believe that grades will slowly catch up. Good interaction and parent-child relationship between parents and children is very important and is a magic weapon to stabilize children's grades.
. Parents are emotionally unstable and often quarrel
Parents do not manage their emotions, have a hurry, have big quarrels every three days, and have small quarrels every two days, does not pay any attention to creating a good family atmosphere for their children. Just vent, the child is very hurt.
The child is young and needs enough care from his parents, but sometimes parents can't control their emotions and ignore their children. Children who grow up in this family atmosphere cannot leave their own family, cannot relieve their inner emotions and are prone to depression.
Every child hopes that parents will love each other. Whether the relationship between parents is harmonious is related to the healthy growth of the children, and will also affect the children's future view of marriage.
The family should be harmonious, say something carefully, say calmly, don’t hurt people, protect the children’s fragile hearts and have more sense of security.
. Parents often deny their children
Parents are afraid that their children will be proud and complacent, and often criticize and deny their children. They always compare their children with stronger children. As a result, they become less confident when they compare. children have no aura at all, and feel that everything is worse than others .
After the parents' repeated denials, the child loses his pride and loses confidence. He is not willing to communicate with his parents because he always gets negative comments . Perhaps this is not the real thought of the parents, but it really hurts the child and develops depression.
Parents should not worry about how strong other children are than our children, but look at their children's advantages and strengths. They all say that "children are good for themselves". It is the nature of parents to love children. Encourage and affirm their children more . As long as the children are proficient in the same technology or talent, all roads lead to Rome.
Children don’t like to compare with others the most. Do your own good and compare horizontally. See what progress the children have made today and yesterday . Where else should be improved? Let the children think about it themselves. Every child has self-esteem and ambition. The important thing is the process of hard work.
Management of emotions is an important art. Both parents and children teach the lesson of emotional management well . It does not mean that you must endure emotions. You can express your personal dissatisfaction and conduct good communication in both directions to better solve problems.
If parents and children quarrel, they find that the parent-child relationship is becoming stronger and stronger, and they cherish the current harmonious atmosphere more, is also an effective communication .
Family atmosphere is very important for children's growth. Both parents and children must learn to communicate well . Parents and children respect each other, say something well, maintain a good mood for each other, and maintain a good mood for parents. Stable emotional parents are the key to successful education. .
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