Hello everyone! Earlier we had an article on how to teach sensible children. In it, we talked about teaching and helping children set short-term goals and long-term goals. Today we will talk about how to set short-term and long-term goals for children.
Every parent hopes that their children can be admitted to a well-known university and have a good career in the future. Then our long-term goal is to be admitted to a well-known university. Setting goals in this way is not feasible. It takes too long to see the results too slowly, which is not conducive to cultivating and encouraging children. And we are here to discuss short-term goals and long-term goals, not for children to go to well-known universities in the future. It is to pay attention to how the child grows up to become confident, humble, patient, and independent. So how do we set long-term and short-term goals for our children?
We can set goals in the form of events. For example, in our daily life, when a child sees other people skating when he is 4 or 5 years old, he wants it, and he wants to skate too. We can use this as an example to set up a long-term goal and N short-term goals for him. The long-term goal is for him to learn to ride freely in 6 months. The short-term goal is to break down his learning roller skating , such as forward slipping, backward slipping, braking, slipping, etc. We can set these items as small goals separately. For this matter, we have set one big goal and four small goals, and it is considered complete. Now that the goal is confirmed, there must be rewards and penalties. This should also be brought to the fore. One is that he has completed it. Give him a certain reward, so that he has the joy of success and stronger self-confidence. And the punishment will bring a certain amount of pressure to him, and make him feel a certain tension and urgency.
The goal and punishment are all set, then we will start to execute. Let's take the positive sliding of the small goal as an example. For example, the first short-term goal is to learn free positive skating within one month. He has not been in contact before, and now he is new. Just like he was learning to walk at first, we have to teach him how to stand, how to walk, and how to protect himself while sliding.After teaching these basics, children will gradually become familiar with how to slide. In the course of sliding, you will inevitably encounter a fall. Sometimes it may not hurt, and sometimes you may cry when you fall. At this time, there will be many changes in the children's psychology. Some people start to be afraid of roller skating after a fall, saying that they don't want to learn anything, and they don't want to practice.
How do we deal with this situation? It is because of the child's temperament that we no longer learn. Still continue to encourage him to let him persevere. Here we chose the latter. One is to tell him the original goals, rewards and punishments we agreed with him, reminding him that this is the agreement we made before (you shouldn’t give up because of this setback, and don’t abide by us. Agreement between). After one is waiting for the child to stop crying and calm down, we can find the shining point of the child in the previous practice and praise the child first. Then analyze why the fall was so painful and what was wrong. How to avoid this situation, how to do it next time you will not fall again, or fall so painful. After analyzing with him, I encouraged him to try and practice slowly.
In the process of stumbling like this, he completed his first short-term goal. After getting the reward, when giving him the reward, ask him if you remember crying and saying that you don't want to learn the other day, the bright smile on the child's face. This setback is also a growth of his soul, and in this process of his growth, we need to accompany the child. When the child is frustrated or fails, we must comfort the child, help the child analyze the cause of the error, and encourage the child to try again. challenge.
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