With the rapid development of society and the advent of the Internet era, The pressure on young people is getting greater and greater . Faced with a series of problems such as housing loans, car loans, and children's education, it is becoming more and more realistic for young people to start a family and start a business. Now, so far, the indicators for young people are no longer housing, cars and job . There is also an unexpected new standard: Whether parents have pensions.
Will parents be looked down upon by their children? The answer may be different from what you think
. To be honest, regardless of whether parents have pensions or not, the quality of life in their later years is generally very different.
. Parents have pensions, which are more popular among children
Youyou go to kindergarten. Youyou's parents enrolled their children in an interest class, and the cost was more than 10,000 yuan. Therefore, Youyou parents use the weekend to go to their children's grandparents' house, hoping that their parents can get some money to sponsor their children's interest class fees.
Grandpa Youyou generously replied: I only have one grandson, this grandson, we will leave all the pensions we can spend for our grandson.
This is a very realistic problem for . If parents have pensions, but the parents of this generation are relatively frugal and the pensions are not spent, they will use the pensions to compensate for and post to their children. Therefore, those parents with pensions will be more popular with their children. Even if their parents’ pension is not enough to subsidize their children, at least they won’t ask their children for money every day.
. The elderly are more carefree
Just like the cultural center mentioned above, it must be a life that only the rich and leisure elderly people can enjoy . If the elderly have pensions, the quality of life will be better, and there is no need to rush to live. The neighbor’s uncle went out to work this year and the children were getting married.
Aunt helps the eldest daughter take care of the child, but the young couple's family has no children for the time being. Because there is no pension and there is not much savings on hand, if you don’t go out to work and earn some pocket money, you have to ask your children for money. The neighbor uncle said: I can earn some money when I work, but I still have some energy. At least I don't need to ask my kids for money every day. Many families in the community are elderly people who take care of their children. For those with pensions, older couples basically take care of their children together, one responsible for picking up and dropping off the children to elementary school and the other cooking. This is easier. For those who do not have pensions, women have a responsibility to help their children take care of their children, while men find another job to earn money to support their families.
. Affecting the marriage of children
Make new friends through blind dates, you will find that both parties will set to set their own conditions first.
Both men and women will depend on each other's financial situation, which is not only their own, but also many of them also depend on their parents. If parents have pensions, such families are usually "popular" because such families are less stressful, while those families with parents do not have pensions will be ranked behind.
. Parents do not have pensions, and children are under "double pressure", so their attitude is naturally very poor
Maybe, many people think that it is too realistic for us to say this. However, we live in this real society, life pressure is too great . How long has it been since we met our parents? How long has it been since I didn’t sleep all night because of overtime? No matter how good the relationship is, there is no time to maintain it.Therefore, if parents have pensions, can give children some help , and children will take the time to respect their parents .
After all, when parents do not have pensions, the children are under "double pressure", and their attitude is naturally very poor. The first pressure was that my parents were not able to help me. The second pressure is to support parents who do not have pensions. economic pressure is very high.
. The elderly can master these methods to improve parent-child relationships in their later years
) Don’t interfere too much in the family affairs of children
If children have become independent and have their own ideas and life , parents should not interfere in their work, family, people with different ideas and ideas, it is easy for to cause conflicts .
Even if children need help from their parents to take care of their children , the elderly can only be responsible for the younger generation food, clothing, housing and transportation . They should still listen to the younger generation on various educational issues.
) Own property and properly help the child
facing interests and money , even biological parents and brothers will quarrel: if parents give all their property to the child, or spend most of their property on children , they will not only face the risk of being spent, but also if they want to spend money on anything in the future, they also have to look at the face of children . However, they have a very tight grasp of money. If they do not help their children when they are in trouble, they can also easily develop resentment in , resulting in the breakdown of the parent-child relationship.
The more appropriate way is to have money yourself and help them when their children are in trouble.
) Listen to the children correctly
Many families will quarrel because their parents are too stubborn. For example, parents must spend a lot of money on health care products, invest or not trust their own children . Although we all understand that older parents want to maintain dignity in front of their children, there is no need to be too stubborn. adheres to the old concept , affects the parent-child relationship, and eventually they may be harmed or deceived by .
Last summary: It is difficult to have money when you are young, and it is even more difficult when you are old. Therefore, the elderly have pensions, but there is no pension in their later years. They have two kinds of lives. When you are young, you should plan for your old age. Don't be careless and work hard. If you think it doesn't matter without a pension, that's a wrong idea. Only when you have pensions when you are old can you have dignity, makes life easier .
On the other hand, we should also remind young people that filial piety is the first priority. Regardless of whether parents have pensions or not, it is natural to support the elderly. Filial piety to parents is also natural, it is the child's obligation. Although money is important, it cannot be used as a measure of family relationships. All parents in the world love the most selflessly their children !
