Under what circumstances can psychological counseling be done? The answer is that any situation is OK.
Psychological counseling should actually be regarded as psychological "fitness" , rather than just psychological "fix" .
Perhaps the following 10 reasons are the reasons why you should try psychological counseling.
01 Relationship with others
means that you cannot live with others in life, but you cannot live without others.
I'm sure that for 20 years, the reason why every visitor came to consult was either because of the relationship problem itself, or because their physiology or other internal issues were affected by interpersonal relationships. For most people, relationships are the most important thing. If the relationship becomes bad, life will become bad.
Consultant is a relationship expert and is good at solving various relationship problems. Marriage, raising children, siblings, bosses, friendships, people who are both enemies and friends... consultants can help you solve it.
By the way, this is a field where psychological counseling is better than that of large pharmaceutical companies. Granted, drugs can help you think or feel better, but they won't teach you who or how to be in a relationship, how to deal with conflicts, or how to forgive.
Drug treatment is for symptoms, and psychological counseling is for problems.
02 Lack of connection with others
Although it is easy to connect through social media and apps, finding a companion seems as simple as buying furniture, many people think we are lonely than before. Why is this?
Many times, technology stabilizes our intimate relationships and helps us connect more frequently on various levels, but for some, technology has become a replacement for intimate relationships. For example, people you meet on dating software are very chemistry when chatting online, but they may not last for 5 minutes when they meet.
Psychological counseling is a 50-minute face-to-face exercise once a week. No matter what the question you are asking for, this regular exercise can improve your ability to connect with others.
03 Tiredness brought by work
Research shows that 70% of Americans are not satisfied with their work. However, most of them spend 1/4 to 1/2 of their time working, which means 70% are not satisfied with the main part of their identity.
So why are people with depression, anxiety and addiction everywhere? Isn’t it self-evident?
At some point, every psychological counselor (not just a career planning counselor) helps people explore their career choices, change their attitudes towards their jobs or colleagues, accept or change their environment.
For example, some visitors realize that they don’t really hate their work, they just like to complain about their work with their colleagues. For them, once they can connect with their colleagues through complaints together, work no longer feels like a burden.
04Anxiety caused by unemployment
In my job, I see too many people who have lost one job and can't find another job. They will suddenly find themselves at a low point in their self-esteem and start looking for a job frantically.
Although psychological counselors are not headhunters, and the cost of consultation is a consumption for gradually reducing resignation funds, , but many people find psychological counseling very helpful at this time. In the consultation room, you can get support without judgment and vent without consideration of consequences.
Many people also find that this time "between two jobs" is a good time to re-examine many aspects of themselves, from career path to self-care, and even the meaning of life.
Most psychological counselors' work contains many discussions on these aspects.
05 Poor physical condition
The connection between emotional health and physical health has changed from a myth to a fact a long time ago.
The most obvious thing is that when we face some experiences and feelings, we make some choices based on these feelings (such as emotional eating, medication/alcohol, inactivity, etc.), and our physical health will be affected.
Now, people with severe illnesses receive psychological counseling while undergoing physical, drug and nutritional interventions.
Overall health requires balance, and psychology is the key to this balance.
06 You feel "not bad", but you want to be better
Many people are still healthy, but they dream of living a healthy and long-lived life, hoping to live a long life. There are also people who yearn for peak in their chosen field, and despite the opportunity to be promoted, they are addicted to mediocrity.
As I said before, psychological counseling is not just about dealing with diseases, it can also remove unnecessary obstacles, expand limited cognition, and encourage healthy adventures. Through these, it makes an otherwise good life better.
For example, your "spider phobia" is cured does not mean that you have to stop consulting. You can also solve your "phobia of success".
07 Overwhelmed by emotions
Traught, sensitivity, loss, fear and anger, these feelings can sometimes make people feel incredibly huge, huge enough to seem uncontrollable.
Psychological counseling can help you understand this emotion, control it, and point out the deeper issues that arouse this reaction. Because when people are blinded by emotions, they may make some choices that they will regret, or say some hurtful words.
08 Can't feel emotions
There are many people suffering from the pain of being unable to perceive and express emotions.
They know they should feel sad, happy, angry or scared, but they can't do it.
Other people in their lives want to connect with them, but the lack of emotions makes it difficult for them to connect.
I gradually understand that being unable to perceive emotions may be the most debilitating force in a person's life. Some emotions cause people to hold grudges for years, suffer for months to avoid 10 minutes of conversation, or not to be truly in the present moment in meaningful moments.
Psychological counseling can help people overcome obstacles and perceive that important part of life. But be aware that this is not always a pleasant journey. There may be a reason these emotions are blocked.
09 For the person you love
If you are an altruist and focus on the good things you can do for the people around you, maybe you can start with yourself.
Will improving your communication, your boundaries, your sense of responsibility, your empathy and your intimate relationships affect those around you? Of course.
You can even lead by example to help others become curious about themselves and make a leap in their psychological counseling.
You are the "common factor" in all your relationships, and improving yourself will inevitably improve the life of everyone you meet.
10 For yourself
I hate but have to quote a famous saying that has been overexplanated: "An unexamined life is not worth living.” Socrates may be a bit cliché at this point, but his words have lasting power.
What are you doing with your life? Is it the best life you can live? Or are you suppressed by old hurts, relationships, character habits?
We only have so many opportunities to circle the sun, choose an excellent consultant, follow the tips, and make yourself fully devoted. This may be the most important thing in your life One of the good decisions.
This article is compiled, original link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-therapy/201412/top-10-reasons-try-therapy
Author: Ryan Howes PhD, ABPP
Translator: Simple PsychologyFangzhou
Editor: Yiyi, Dier
