Recently, a parent posted a message online asking for help:
Their child participated in the interview of Anhui Public Security Vocational College and was eliminated in the last physical fitness test 12 seconds apart. The child couldn't accept it and almost had to be sent to the hospital. This result may be due to not getting a good rest the night before. I hope someone can help me, help my child, and give my child a chance to retake the exam.
The parent also said, "This police academy has been the hope of the whole family for many years." The child failed to pass the exam because he was "incompetent". He cried all day long at home and was very heartbroken. I hope someone can provide the phone number of Anhui Public Security Vocational College. Parents "want to make a call." It probably means that I want to plead with the school and give the child a chance to retake the exam.
Many people fail the college entrance examination every year, but this is the first time I have seen a parent like this who tries to get his child to "take the exam again" by sending a message asking for help or calling the school for admission.
Netizens almost gave a one-sided opposition to this parent's "help".
Netizens left messages one after another:
---There are so many failed students across the country every year, how many days and nights, who can help them?
---It's funny. You didn't have a good rest at night and asked to retake the exam. He ate too much before the exam and asked to retake the exam. She said that I was in a bad mood and had to retake the exam even if I didn't do well. Just don’t take the exam, just come and cry, and whoever cries the best will get a higher score.
---12 seconds less is already a lot, okay, my brother failed the college entrance examination that year with just 1 point less...
---If this works, everyone should cry, there is no need to take the exam, who cares? If you can cry, let’s see who can cry well and who can cry sadly. Parents are also “talents”~
---I hope someone can help me, help my child... I am only 50 million short of buying a car in Haidian District, Beijing. I got a room in the school district...
---As soon as my son finished the college entrance examination that year, I took him to training every day and strictly followed the physical test items. During the actual physical test, the child worked even harder and passed easily. It's obviously you parents who don't care and don't plan ahead.
---I can only suggest this: If this school is your child’s long-cherished wish, then repeat it for a year!
Why did this parent’s request for help receive almost overwhelming opposition? According to analysis, there are three main reasons:
First, she challenged the bottom line of fairness in the college entrance examination. Everyone knows that the college entrance examination is currently the fairest channel for civilians to advance, so everyone is very concerned about the fairness of the college entrance examination and firmly opposes any illegal operations or black-box operations. If you are late, you will not be able to enter the examination room; if you cheat, you will be awarded zero points; if you are less than 0.5 points, you will not be able to go online; if you are less than 0.5 seconds, you will not be able to meet the standard. It has become everyone's consensus on the rules. This parent's child's physical fitness test was 12 seconds off. No matter what the reason was, the result of "not up to standard" could not be changed. And this parent just because his whole family could not accept this result, he tried to accommodate it in various ways, hoping to get extra Give the opportunity to retake the exam. If this is possible, then it is estimated that almost all failed students across the country "cannot accept" the result of failure, and should all be given the opportunity to retake the exam. So what’s the point of such a college entrance examination?
Second, she pinned her hopes on taking shortcuts. For children who fail in the college entrance examination, the vast majority of parents lead their children to summarize experiences and lessons, actively remedy the gaps, and encourage their children to repeat the exam and take the exam again. Especially if the child has a "special liking" for a certain school, it is even more important to take advantage of the situation and turn the child's love into the motivation to study hard, regroup and start again, and get the results a year later. However, this parent focused on "Can anyone help us?" and "I want to call the school." He hoped that by being miserable, he could get a shortcut to "take the exam again." This idea can be said to be very naive and unacceptable to most people.
Third, her way of guiding her children is inappropriate. knew that the child needed to take a physical fitness test, but she did not guide the child to make adequate training preparations, resulting in a 12-second difference in performance. When the child's performance was not up to standard, she did not lead the child to face it correctly, but attributed the reason to "not getting a good rest the night before" ( This also shows that one is not fully prepared), and hopes to take shortcuts to get a chance to take the exam again; after failing in an exam, the child cannot accept "almost being sent to the hospital", and the parents themselves cannot accept "crying all day long", as if they only need to encounter setbacks The whole family will collapse. Therefore, some netizens commented: It is precisely because of such parents that there are such children. The biggest problem with
is that the parent does not seem to be aware of her own problems, so she confidently asks for help and asks "can anyone help me?"
Currently, it is the time when the results of the college entrance examination and the high school entrance examination are released. There are those who have been named on the gold list, and there are also those who have lost their names to Sun Shan. Leading children to correctly view success and failure, especially to correctly deal with failure in the college entrance examination, is an important lesson that parents must experience. But no matter how we look at it and deal with it, respecting the rules and respecting fairness should be the basic principles. From netizens’ comments on this matter, we can also see everyone’s expectations and maintenance of rules and fairness. This is a kind of social progress worthy of praise.
One failure does not determine life. Find out the reasons, face them positively, improve them, continue to work hard under the rules, and get the results that are justifiable, genuine, and of high quality. This is the right way and the great road.
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