Marriage and love relationships are very special human relationships, and their quality is closely related to the mental health level of each lover. It can even be said that mental health determines the happiness of marriage and love.
In the old days, Chinese people liked to use birth and horoscopes to match and predict marriage and love. In fact, this was an evaluation of psychological level. Nowadays, many young people like to use blood type analysis, horoscope commentaries, tarot cards, etc. This is actually a deformation of psychological analysis. Nowadays, psychology has become more and more popular. Most young people have some knowledge and understanding of psychology, and they have gradually begun to try to use psychological levels to evaluate lovers and manage marriages.
Individuals with high levels of mental health will have longer-lasting relationships, higher satisfaction and subjective well-being in their married life, and their lovers will be more able to bring out the positive factors in their personality, improve their self-efficacy and sense of value, and will be more likely to forgive each other. harmful behaviors and harmonious relationships with each other.
As for individuals with a low level of mental health, not only will their study and work be affected, but their quality of life will also be poor. They are more likely to experience frustration in marriage and love, and will be affected by more serious negative factors when there are conflicts in marriage and love, and even worse. Patients may also develop violent tendencies, or engage in self-abuse and suicide~
So, what psychological evaluation indicators will affect the relationship between marriage and love?
So, in a marriage relationship, how is the emotional intelligence between lovers expressed?
People with low EQ are more willing and prefer to stay with people with high EQ. People with high EQ only like to stay with people with high EQ, and people with low EQ are not willing to stay with people with low EQ.
To put it simply: People who accept reality can get along with people who accept reality. People who accept reality can tolerate people who do not accept reality, and will create conditions for people who do not accept reality to continue to live in dreams. But people who don't accept reality can never be with people who don't accept reality.
Everyone should know that the reason why you live comfortably is because someone has taken on the discomfort that should have been yours. So whether it’s emotional intelligence or accepting reality, it’s better to figure it out first. If you have a poor foundation and a weak foundation, no matter how you dream about the beauty of marriage and love, it will be rootless ~
In a marriage and love relationship, individuals with high self-esteem affirm themselves, love themselves more, trust their own ability in marriage and love, and at the same time have the ability to love others and reveal themselves. With high levels of love, you have more trust in your lover, can treat your marriage partner positively, obtain a romantic love and marriage relationship, and experience a higher level of marriage and love satisfaction and subjective happiness.
Individuals with high self-esteem will also have positive self-evaluation, optimism and self-confidence, self-esteem, are more inclined to like and appreciate themselves in interpersonal relationships, and have relatively high interpersonal satisfaction.
Marriage and love relationships are important and special interpersonal relationships. Individuals with high self-esteem have a high degree of self-acceptance and are more likely to feel the care and respect of their marriage partners. They are prone to make positive evaluations of intimate relationships between the sexes and experience higher satisfaction in marriage and love.
Individuals with low self-esteem lack self-confidence and are afraid of rejection. They respond negatively and have an indifferent attitude in the process of marriage and love, reducing intimacy and low satisfaction in marriage and love. Individuals with low respect also often doubt their own abilities, have a low degree of self-acceptance, and are prone to doubt their partner's emotions and dedication. Their lack of self-confidence seriously affects the relationship, so they are less satisfied with the relationship.
Individuals with low self-esteem also lack self-confidence and often protect themselves in marriage and love, and are unable to make a commitment to marriage and love. Therefore, their attitude towards marriage and love is relatively negative, which is not conducive to the resolution of conflicts in marriage and love.
Attitudes affect behavior, and the level of your lover's self-esteem will directly affect the management of the relationship between the two.Individuals with a positive attitude toward marriage will have more intimate behaviors, a higher level of self-disclosure, experience more positive emotions, reasonably view conflicts in marriage and love, and be able to actively handle them, thus having higher levels of satisfaction in marriage and love. On the contrary, even if they are forced to be together, they will still be uncomfortable or discordant. The evaluation of self-esteem level is also very important for marriage and love relationships, which determines the interaction pattern between lovers.
People with internal control usually attribute the results of actions and events to their own efforts and abilities. Individuals with a dominant internal control style will do their best to use their talents when faced with problems that arise in study and work, in order to achieve success through their own efforts. Internal control is positively correlated with self-confidence, sense of meaning in life, etc. Individuals with an internal control style have a higher sense of meaning in life than individuals with an external control style.
There is a significant positive correlation between internal control and satisfaction in marriage and love. Individuals with high internal control will experience higher satisfaction in the process of marriage and love. People with an internal control style are more active, active, and have more positive emotions when interacting with their love partners. They can deal with various life events freely and flexibly. Therefore, they will maintain a harmonious and stable love and marriage relationship with their lover, and their relationship satisfaction will also be improved. higher.
People with external control tend to attribute the results of actions or events to the help and luck of others, overemphasizing the importance of the external environment. External locus of control can be subdivided into powerful others and opportunities, that is, individuals with external locus of control are more likely to believe that the results of behavior are influenced by others or luck. Moreover, external control is also related to the occurrence of negative emotions such as anxiety, depression, and stress.
Whether it is internal control or external control, because the satisfaction of marriage and love is determined by both expectations and actual results. The more the actual results exceed the expectations, the higher the other party's satisfaction will be. Once you know the pattern of each other's psychological locus of control, you will have more understanding and correct correspondence. Therefore, in a relationship, lovers can do more things that exceed each other's expectations to increase each other's satisfaction and make the relationship more harmonious.
As psychology becomes more and more popular in China, both parties in a marriage should also spend time learning more psychological knowledge, improve their psychological cognition, and improve and strengthen their mental health. Psychology illuminates life, and psychology can warm emotions.
Having a good mental health level will not only make you better able to face and deal with some problems in marriage and love, but also bring you and the other party more satisfaction in your marriage and love, thereby managing the relationship between the two well and achieving success. A beautiful relationship and marriage.
