editor: Qingchen
"What to eat today" - a kind of torture from the soul. Everyone has faced this kind of difficult-to-choose moment more or less. When you ask someone, or hope that the other person will give a satisfactory answer. The answer may be "Don't ask me, I have difficulty choosing or ". Haha, a beautiful roundhouse kick, and the ball is thrown to you again.
In fact, similar problems like this are not only manifested in eating, but also often appear hesitant when shopping and going out for fun. Therefore, we often habitually call it "difficulty in choosing".
What is "difficulty in choosing"?
is choice phobia , also known as choice difficulty. Choosing fear is obviously a lack of self-confidence and evasion of responsibility, a lack of self-reliance, and a fear of failure. People suffering from this disease will find it extremely difficult when faced with choices and cannot make a satisfactory choice normally. When they have to make a decision among several choices, they will panic, panic, and even sweat profusely. In the end, they still cannot make a choice, leading to confusion about the choice. produce some degree of fear.
This sounds very worrying. I just casually asked "What are we going to eat today", but why do we "lack self-reliance and fear of failure"? Why are you so "paniced and even sweating"? Think about it carefully, every time you open a takeout app, the reason why it is difficult to choose is because there are too many delicious foods, and subconsciously "I" want to eat them all, or I am tired of the food around me and just don't like eating everything; shopping It's the same when it comes to life. It's not the difficulty of choosing, but the problem of "wanting to buy everything" or "not having enough money." The difficulty of choosing is just our excuse and excuse. How can it become a mental illness?
I believe that when many people see this, they do not think that they really have "difficulty in choosing", because in daily work and life, especially at a crossroads in life, when faced with choices big and small, We don’t have any barriers to choice, let alone mental illness!
However, since most people have this "common problem", in addition to "too lazy to think about it, want to eat, want to buy, and don't have enough money", are there other reasons at play?
According to Qu Shan, deputy chief physician of the Department of Psychiatry at Peking University People's Hospital, there is no such disease as choice difficulty in medicine. It should be a nickname people give to this type of problem. It manifests itself in the difficulty of making choices about things in life, such as what clothes to buy. , shoes, where to travel and other life events are very shaky and entangled. This phenomenon is easy to occur with dependent personality .
A dependent personality may need others to provide excessive advice and protection in daily life. Without the advice and decision-making of others, it is difficult for oneself to make decisions in life. This situation is a personality characteristic and is not good or bad.
If this situation has a significant impact on life and leads to adverse consequences, it is recommended to seek psychological consultation or psychotherapy. People with such problems may have defects in their self-confidence or self-identity. They should do some psychological work on how to build self-confidence, how to understand themselves, how to avoid over-reliance on others, and how to draw clear interpersonal boundaries, which may be of great help.
Through the introduction of experts, we also saw the "watershed" of the problem: the difficulty in choosing leads to adverse consequences. In addition to the "fear, panic, and even sweating" mentioned above, people with choice phobia feel entangled, embarrassed, hesitant, and confused about what to choose. They may be indecisive before several choices, but they always Being unable to make a final decision, which is time-consuming and energy-consuming, not only makes you anxious and helpless, but sometimes also makes people around you feel irritable, and even suffers from psychological problems such as depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder. Therefore, we cannot draw any conclusions based on just one sentence, one thing, or one phenomenon.
However, even if we do not have such "mental illness", we still need to avoid "over-entanglement". For example, it is not advisable to hesitate for a long time about the most ordinary little things in life.
Reference source:
1. Popular Science China·Science Encyclopedia entry "Phobia of Choice"
2. Youlai Doctor "What to Do with Difficulty Choosing"
3. One Psychology "Difficulty Choosing | Have you thought about what to eat today? 》
