When I woke up in the morning, something happened that made me feel very bad and I felt angry.
My heart beats faster, and I can't calm down for a long time, and I can't calm down to do anything.
Originally, I would spend my morning time reading and practicing writing, but now I can only sort out my emotions first.
The inability to complete the set schedule creates a certain sense of anxiety and may also affect the entire day's work.
Being angry makes me less patient with some things. Normally I may be very patient, but now I am getting more and more angry.
feels that many things are going against me.
For example: At this time, when I hear a sentence from my parents, I will feel that they are talking about me and criticizing me, but this is not the case.
This is because I have less patience, a more negative view of things, and a lower mood.
01 What's going on?
got up at 5:30 in the morning and prepared to read on the table in the hall as usual.
At this time, I saw my father-in-law sleeping on the sofa in the living room, snoring.
I didn't want to wake him up, so I didn't turn on the light, but it was still dark that day, so I couldn't read without turning on the light.
Although I didn't mind it, my mood was still a little affected because I was a little frustrated in wanting to read and write.
I continued to read "Hua and Hua Zhengdao" by the light of the computer, looking for points in the book that I felt inspired and that I particularly wanted to write about.
At this time, the time was almost 6 o'clock.
I heard a noise in the bedroom and saw my eldest daughter coming out of the bedroom, returning to her room, and sleeping with her mother.
Last night, because her mother had a high fever was ill, in order to prevent the infection of the two sisters, her mother slept alone in the eldest daughter's room.
I was sleeping in the bedroom with my two daughters.
Usually, both sisters have a mother and like to sleep with her. The eldest daughter subconsciously goes to her mother when she wakes up in the morning.
The younger daughter was left alone in the bedroom.
I'm a little worried. If my little daughter wakes up and makes a noise, I won't be able to do my own thing.
As a result, I was afraid of what would happen. After a while, the little daughter started crying in the bedroom and called her mother loudly.
I ran over and comforted her, saying that mom was next door, don’t cry, just keep sleeping.
The little daughter didn't listen, she just cried and wanted to go to her mother.
I said that my mother has a fever and a cold. It will be contagious in the past. My sister has stronger resistance, so you can't pass.
I asked whether it would be good for grandma to come over and sleep with you, but I don’t agree.
I got angry and thought, why are you so disobedient? Why can't you be reasonable?
became more and more angry, so he said something louder and left her alone.
At this time, her mother heard the crying and came over, and the little daughter stopped crying.
02 Why am I angry?
I am angry because I feel that my daughter is disobedient and does not listen to my reasoning.
Because I am not a very rough father, I can reason, and I usually pay attention to some knowledge about parenting.
I know that children at this stage cannot listen to reason, and the effect of reasoning is very limited.
She followed her own instinct, which was the feeling of closeness and security with her mother, so when she found herself alone in the morning, she felt unsafe and cried for her mother.
This is a very normal emotional reaction.
In addition, I originally slept with my sister and father, but now they are all missing, so I am very scared, which is normal.
Now that I know this, why am I still angry?
I was angry because I was afraid that I would not be able to complete my assigned work, which caused me to feel anxious. This emotion was amplified by my daughter's crying, and turned into anger and anger.
I don’t think too much about my daughter’s emotions.
03 How can I improve this?
Now that you know the reason for being angry, there is no need to be angry and think about how to view this matter more positively.
1) When encountering something like this in the future, you should consider it from the perspective of the other person, rather than thinking about yourself first, because this is a manifestation of selfishness.
Only by calming my daughter's emotions and solving her insecurities can I do my own thing quietly.
2) Secondly, it is not enough to just know that reasoning is useless. It does not achieve the unity of knowledge and action. Although
knew this truth, he still failed to do it when the time came. Knowing but not doing is equal to unknown.
3) Again, I understand that being angry can only increase the internal friction of myself and the family, and there are too many disadvantages.
You should continue to cultivate your mind, adjust your response to things, and become calmer and wiser.
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