Whenever topics such as teenage depression and suicide come up, many elders always jump out and say:
"I was beaten by my father with a hoe back then. I was beaten all over the mountains and fields, which was not a good thing. It's not like the children of today. It's hard to say You can't say it, you can't scold me. "
" I'm going to jump into the river just because I said it. How can I be worthy of your parents? "
Why do parents who have been taught with sticks and scolded since childhood not have any psychological problems? Woolen cloth? Is it really because the flowers in the greenhouse cannot withstand the wind and frost?
My university psychology teacher once said: Those who are sent to see a doctor are basically those with the mildest illness in their family.
Since ancient times, the right to speak has been in the hands of those in power. Parents think that if their children have problems, there must be problems with their children, and they believe that they themselves must be normal.
When a normal child is born in a sick family, then the most normal one becomes the most abnormal one.
A colleague said that many of them look down on college students, because everyone who has gone to college is extremely cold-blooded, and they are not as humane as those with low education. He also said that the female college students in that village were very materialistic and easy to cheat on her. As soon as they heard that she was a college student from their village, no one dared to marry her.
I think that no matter what the specific situation is, the words "family scandals should not be publicized" do not seem to exist in their world. Which man would let everyone in the country know about his wife's cheating? The cheater himself? Cheating husband? Or the family of the cheater?
Who likes to publicize their own scandal? Also concluded that female college students are prone to cheating?
We feel that many of our parents' behaviors are wrong since we were young. We resist with all our might, but we unconsciously pass them on!
No one exists independently. Behind them is a family, a small social group.
If more aspects could be taken into account when encountering anything, wouldn't there be so many children being dragged to see a psychologist by their parents? Will there not be so many children who despise their own lives? Will there be a lot less family conflicts?
