#integration and synergy# is: If a very intelligent person disagrees with me, then the other person's opinion must have a mystery that I have not yet realized, and it is worth understanding. The most important thing when working with people is to pay attention to the different psychology, emotions and intelligence of different individuals, as well as the different worlds they see in their eyes. There is little benefit in communicating with people who have similar views. Only when you have differences can you gain something.
Synergy is the most advanced of all human activities, the true test and epitome of all other habits. Only by combining the four unique human talents (self-awareness, imagination, conscience, and independent will), supplemented by win-win motivation and empathic communication, can we achieve the highest level of integrated and synergistic effects.
Integrated synergy means that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts, which means that the relationship between the parts is also part of the whole, but it is not just a component, but the most stimulating, distributing, integrating and motivating part.
Integrated synergy can not only create miracles, but also stimulate the greatest potential of human beings, no matter how big the challenge is, they are not afraid. As ordinary people, we have more or less experienced "united efforts", such as a football match that inspired all the players, and united efforts to save lives and property losses in times of crisis. But these are usually seen as exceptions, even miracles, rather than the norm.
In fact, these miracles can happen often, even every day, but the premise is that you have the courage to take risks and learn from everyone's opinions. The essence of integrated synergy is to judge and respect differences and learn from each other's strengths to offset weaknesses. It allows everyone to truly realize themselves, have self-esteem and self-improvement, and have the opportunity to complete the mature process from dependence to independence to interdependence.
There are three levels of communication. Low-level communication stems from low trust and is characterized by people being wary of each other, taking steps to plan for the situation to worsen. The result can only be a loss or a win. The middle level is a mutually respectful communication method. In order to avoid conflicts, both parties remain polite, but they do not necessarily consider the other party and cannot be open and honest. This kind of communication still has a foothold in the independent period and even in an account-dependent environment, but it is not creative. The result is 1+1=1.5, and both parties suffer losses. The highest level is integrated and synergistic communication, which means opening your mind to accept all strange ideas while also contributing your own insights. The result is 1+1=8 or 16, or even 1600. This comes from the integration of high trust and comprehensive effectiveness, which can bring better solutions than the original ones. Every participant can realize this and devote themselves to this creativity. career.
This can help us find the third path to solve the problem when we encounter it. For example: a family's summer vacation arrangement. The father wants to take his two children to go fishing, while the mother is considering returning to her hometown to take care of her sick mother. At this time, the father said: "The child has been longing for a family vacation for a long time. He will definitely be unhappy if he goes to grandma's house and has nothing to do all day." The mother responded: "My mother has been sick for a long time. My sister always takes care of her at home. I don't know if she will be happy." How long can I stay with her? Besides, taking care of my mother is more important than fishing." At this time, the father became angry: "Then the child and the husband are more important than the mother, right?"
If the entanglement continues, there may be a compromise. The arrangement is that the father takes the children fishing, and the mother returns to her mother's house to take care of her. But my father probably won’t have too much fun fishing, and my mother may also be thinking about her children when taking care of her. This is 1+1=1.5, and both sides have losses. Either it is a win-lose model, or the father compromises or the mother compromises, no matter who it is, they will be unwilling to do so. Even years later, the incident would become a bone of contention and lead to family breakdown.
Let them work together to see if there is a third way. First, communicate frankly that the father wants to go on a family vacation, and the mother wants to go home to fulfill her filial piety and reduce the burden on her sister. Then be open-minded and accept every thought.My father said: "How about you go home early this week, hire a part-time worker to cook at home, and I will do more housework. Then you go home to take care of your mother for a week, and when the summer vacation comes, we can go fishing together? Or go fishing in the area near your mother's house?" , if the situation is better, can you take your mother out to relax together? "The perfect third path came out like this. No matter which one you choose, it is much better than compromising with each other. Even many years later, they will still be happy with this arrangement. Incessantly.
Looking for the #thirdway# requires stepping away from either/or thinking and achieving important paradigm shifts, with the results being vastly different. Respect the differences between people. When someone disagrees with your point of view, you have to try to find a third way of integration and synergy. Under normal circumstances, it always exists. If you insist on a win-win model and are willing to work hard By understanding each other, you can find a solution that satisfies everyone.
