"Are you still awake? Do you want to go for a walk?"
Frank asked Vivian.
Unchaste women and men who are not brave enough, love without physical contact, chatting, and walking slowly on the streets of New York late at night while others are asleep.
01. "They said to be a lady"
More than two thousand years ago, the sage Socrates put forward the proposition: "Know yourself."
The ancient Greeks carved it on the doorpost of the Temple of Delphi, as oracle.
Knowing yourself is easy to say, but it is not easy for women.
"Sex and the City" Miranda actor Cynthia Nixon collaborated with "Girls Girls Girls" magazine in the short film "" They said, be a lady! ", there is such a lyric:
"They said, be a lady.
Your skirt is too short and your shirt is too low; don’t show too much skin and leave something imaginary;
don’t be a witch, men cannot control themselves , Men have needs. Z1z
be sexy, be sexy; don’t be so provocative, this is what you asked for.
wear black, wear high heels, you dress too formal, you dress too low-key.
you look like Indulge yourself, don’t be too fat, don’t be too thin,
eat well, lose weight, don’t eat so much, don’t eat carbohydrates, don’t eat desserts. Go on a diet.
God, you look like a skeleton, why don’t you just eat?
You look terrible, men like women with meat on their bones,
makes a zero, makes a double zero, nothing."
You worked too hard, you look a little too much, men don’t like to work too hard Girl.
looks young, old age is ugly, men don't like ugliness. "Z1z
they said, save yourself and stay pure.
don’t be so emotional, don’t cry, don’t yell, don’t swear, bear the pain, don’t complain.
fold his clothes, make his dinner, let They are happy; it is a woman’s job.
one day you will become a good wife.
give him children. You don’t want children? one day you will change your mind.
don’t be forced, don’t drink too much. Don’t leave alone, don’t go out too late,
don’t go out at night, don’t trust anyone.
don’t say yes, don’t say no, be the lady they say."
Under such discipline, a woman has to pass. How much does it take to find yourself?
02. "Every woman has a fire in her heart, dangerous and dazzling. Some people extinguish it, some ignore it, and they see it as a lighthouse."
Elizabeth Gilbert's "Girl City" gives it answer.
Its prototype, Norma Amigo, was a dancer in Manhattan who was unmarried and childless. The author Elizabeth Gilbert considered it to be the "most glorious and charming old man" she had ever seen. When
was 90 years old, someone asked her: "Why did you never want to get married?"
She said: "I have had a wonderful life. You don't want to have a relationship with the same man for 60 years..."
It is not only a novel about the growth of women, but also a rite of passage for girls. It is a collection of styles that can learn from dressing and fashion.
is better than such as: "If you wear too many fashionable styles, they will make you look very anxious. Paris is very good, but we can't catch the fashion of Paris to catch the fashion of Paris."
He also used Edna’s mouth to describe a different Chanel lady: “Coco Chanel is an elusive woman. She is talented, ambitious, cunning, and hardworking, but no one loves her. With Mussolini or Compared with Hitler, I am more afraid that she is the one who rules the world. No, I am not joking-she is the best among people. When she starts calling you a friend, you are in danger. But she is more interesting than I described. Now..."
It is really beautiful and free, like a beautiful olive tree under a three-brush pen.
03. "There is only one reason to treat the irreplaceable treasure of youth, and that is to waste it."
In 1940, New York was a banquet flowing among the ruins of Broadway, dancing girls raised their legs, and blood-colored skirts turned over wine. Dirty, laughter this year and again next year will make countless people yearn for.
Vivienne, a 19-year-old rich girl, was dropped out of Vassar College and went to her aunt Pegg, who runs the Lily Theatre in New York.
In the simple old-fashioned theater, her talent for making clothes was brought into play, and she met a group of women who influenced her life: Celia, the dancer who dreams of conquering the world with her beauty, the serious and old-fashioned Olive, and the weird girl Ma from the second-hand clothing store. Qiao Li.
Under their influence, she experienced liberation from the body to the mind. She gave the first time to the boring vet, wandering in the bar and having sex with many men. The
theater is not doing well and is about to close down. Fortunately, Edna shows up with her husband.
She captured everyone's heart, even Peg's husband Billy, who has been slumbering in Hollywood for a long time, made a special trip back to tailor her new play "The City of Girls".
On the other side, Vivian and Little Meat Anthony talked about their relationship.
was instigated by someone and mistakenly thought that Edna seduced Anthony. After she got drunk, she got on the boat with Celia and Edna’s husband.
was filmed by the paparazzi, and there was an uproar.
Edna performed as usual, and said to Vivienne afterwards: "I always thought you were an interesting person, but I was wrong. I am an interesting person. Your aunt Pegg is an interesting person. Olive is an interesting person. You are just an ordinary person. You want to know what you have to do now so that you can stop being a certain type of person-but become a real person? Just tell you, you can't do anything, no matter how hard you try to make yourself meaningful in your life, you will never succeed. You will never accomplish anything, Vivienne. You will never achieve even the slightest importance. Characters."
punish the heart.
Vivian was extremely sad: "In the past day and a half, I have been drunk, rolled over the sheets, been intimidated, degraded, abandoned, scolded. I have lost my best friend, My boyfriend, my circle, my interesting job, my self-esteem, and New York. I was just told by Edna, the woman I love and admire, that I am an insignificant person-more importantly I will always be an insignificant person."
04. "I have watched the most sunsets with him in my entire life."
The catastrophe she caused, alarmed the senior brother who was in the army. On the way home from
, her elder brother scolded her: "Assassin, let the family be ashamed." The "driver" of
also said that she was a "dirty kid".
This made her feel a great shame. After
returned home, she accepted the blind date arranged by her father, but because she told the other party that she was not a virgin, the other party broke the marriage contract. After her brother
died, she returned to New York again.
Aunt Pegg helped the shipyard workers rehearsal. She helped take care of the clothes and opened a bridal shop with her single mother Marjorie.
In a performance, she met the "driver" who scolded her back then. He was Frank, his brother's comrade-in-arms. He said he had always wanted to find her and wanted to apologize to her.
Frank experienced World War II and suffered third-degree burns to half of his body. After surviving, he was accused by a military court of being a coward. His body and mind were greatly traumatized, and he could not stand the approach and touch of others.
But he and Vivian had a platonic love: "This kind of love is a deep well with steep walls. Once you fall into it, you are finished-you will love that person forever. "
After Frank passed away, Vivian told his daughter: "Your father and I have never embraced, we have never kissed, we have never been in bed, but he is the only one in history that I wholeheartedly and truly love The man I’ve ever used, and he loves me, we didn’t mention it, because we don’t need to mention it, we both know each other well ."
love is like this, no matter how many shortcomings you have, but I still love you.
is like Maugham in "The Veil"Li said: "I know you are stupid, frivolous, and mindless, but I love you. I know your goals and ideals are vulgar and ordinary, but I love you. I know you are second-rate, but I love you. "Z1z
05. "You don't need to be a good girl to be a good person" Gilbert, the author of the book
, was instilled by his parents that "my life is mine, and I can do whatever I want." Concept, married twice, divorced twice, became a partner with her best friend, and made a new boyfriend after her death, living a crazy, passionate, casual life.
is like the comment of the American Public Radio: "Gilbert never gets tired of telling us: Passion is the essence of life, not money, not a Darwinian struggle for survival, and certainly not the family you were born with— Passion is the reason for our existence. "
Vivian refused to become a "good girl" recognized by mainstream society throughout her life, marrying, having children, and living in a model.
She grows, transforms, tears, and is reborn. She can indulge her desire for enjoyment, and she can sensibly love separation, make mistakes, and dare to bear the consequences.
She is not Mary Su, she did not open up or counterattack, the rebellious girl did not return to the family, and the weak boy raised by single mother Marjorie declined the chance of success.
Celia did not become famous overnight, she became a woman selling floor wax.
The Lily Theatre was demolished, Olive was diverted, the swinger died prematurely, and the honor student died.
She is not Chanel, she did not become famous, she did not cling to a good relationship by virtue of her beauty and family background.
her fiance abandoned her, her parents alienated her, she was alone, but she knew herself.
The brides put on her wedding dress, Frank loved her, and the men admired her for her elegance.
She has friends, career, and money, breaking the secular definition.
06. The world is not straight
She made me understand that the most important thing in life is to be honest with yourself, you don’t have to be a "good girl", people say, "The world is not straight. Growing up. When you think things will be done in a certain way. You think there are rules to follow. You think things must be what they are. You want to live straight back and forth. But the world doesn’t care about your rules or yours. Belief. The world does not go straight, Vivienne. It will never be. Our rules are worthless. Sometimes, the world just happens to you. That’s what I think. People can only Do your best and move forward. If you want to know yourself, you must first have the ability to support yourself, and secondly, you must have the ability to make yourself happy, and then you must have the ability to love yourself and others, allow yourself to make mistakes, and have the dark side. , Embrace yourself frankly.
A bad life is to indulge in the dark side, let it drown you.
A good life is to accept the dark side, solve it, and at the same time make your other sides full of happiness.
As a woman, you can choose to be as open and confident as Vivienne, or you can choose to be an old-school woman. There is no right or wrong choice.
As long as you have the courage to bear the price, turn time into wealth, and be able to read, listen, think, and express, you can know yourself and adjust your relationship with the world.
So, life is difficult, you must not embarrass yourself too much.
