Dong Qing: Marriage makes me more beautiful and more successful

There are always various rumors about the love life of the host Dong Qing.

And the exact news is that she is married and has children... Her husband is Mi Chunlei, the chairman of Shanghai Zhongying Group. From a successful career, she resolutely married and became Mi's wife. What kind of twists and tangles has Dong Qing experienced along the way? What kind of growth and happiness did you gain?

approached Dong Qing and shared her understanding of love——

To love him is to accept all of him

All along, Dong Qing It seemed that her relationship experience didn't go well until she met Mi Chunlei.

Dong Qing said: "The timing of meeting between people is very important. I knew him when I wanted to have a destination. At that time, he had just ended his first marriage and was emotionally confused. Very lonely period.”

But this relationship did not start smoothly. The photos of the two people’s interaction were taken. The rumor that Dong Qing was a third party and sugar daddy was spread like wildfire. It was her. During the darkest part of my life, she said: "I was a person who cared about others' opinions when I was a child. I was a child in my family, so the financial aspect was much better than that of ordinary classmates. I remember that time, every morning when I went to school. My father always put a piece of chocolate in my schoolbag, but at night, I still brought it back intact. My father asked me why. I said that no one else had it, so I was embarrassed to eat it. Later, my father didn’t bring it to me. "

Dong Qing, who even brought a piece of chocolate, was afraid of being talked about by her classmates, but because of a normal feeling, she was said to be a "little three" or a "sugar daddy", which is difficult for her to accept. At that time, she always had a feeling of "being a person with her tail sandwiched". She never dared to go to high-end places on a date. She often ate a bowl of instant noodles or quick-frozen dumplings before eating, and people became particularly sensitive, such as carrying a famous brand. My colleague occasionally asks: "Your bag is expensive? Your boyfriend gave it?" She didn't know what to say... She would ask Mi Chunlei: "Don't come to our unit to pick me up, don't give it I gave a brand-name gift, and I didn’t need it if I gave it...” At that time, every time Mi Chunlei came to pick her up from her unit, she would park her car far away, and then she would run out of a space where no one noticed, hurry up Get in the car, the first thing after getting in the car is to press the window.

Such a sneaky and cautious life makes Dong Qing feel very tired, and at the same time she feels aggrieved for Mi Chunlei: It was originally a dignified single and an upright love, just because her girlfriend is a celebrity, she would be misunderstood. Talking about being secretly filmed, but you can't just open a press conference to explain it because of this, right? Sometimes, celebrities are actually quite weak...Because of these troubles, Dong Qing once proposed to break up with Mi Chunlei. At that time, both of them were in tears, but Mi Chunlei still respected her decision.

After breaking up, Dong Qing lived a busy life alone, and didn't seem to miss that person very much. Until one night, she lay in bed and turned over a novel, "I have forgotten the name of the novel. I only remember that the softest part of my heart was touched. At that time, I missed him so much and said to myself: If he comes to me at this time, I will decide to be with him and never break up again!—— It’s so magical, this thought just flashed through my mind, the doorbell rang, I jumped up to open the door, the door opened, and stood him..." Since then, Dong Qing attributed the fate between them to "destined "She no longer resisted the arrangement of fate, but decided to face all kinds of rumors together. When

was criticized, Dong Qing also thought: If the man I fell in love with, he had never been married and divorced, he was not a small businessman... Then everything might be easier. Until one day, when she complained to her mother, her mother awakened the person in her dream: "There are not so many ifs. If these are true, then the greatest possibility is that you will never know each other at all." She thought of seeing herself. In an interview with the singer Faye Wong, Faye Wong said: "To remove one word of love and turn it into love, if it is just love for a person, it is narrow and fragile, but if it is love, it is open. Powerful and lasting.”

ThisThe words gave Dong Qing strength when she was most confused about this relationship.

She began to try to accept the parts of Mi Chunlei that made her uncomfortable. For example, because of a pair of children, Mi Chunlei needs to maintain close contact with his ex-wife. Sometimes, it may be that two people are dating. His ex-wife calls and tells him that the child has a fever or that there is an activity in the child’s school that requires both parents to attend. Every time he sees Mi Chunlei who answers the phone, he is embarrassed to speak. After stopping again, Dong Qing will know that his children are in trouble, and will take the initiative to say to him: "Go ahead, I'm fine here."

For example, because of Mi Chunlei's identity as a businessman, it is inevitable that some social gatherings have to bring women Friends are present, and Dong Qing is the least fond of attending such occasions. Outside of work, what she likes most is staying at home in plain clothes. But now Dong Qing will also cooperate with Mi Chunlei to attend some business events, although she asked in advance, "I don't know what to say, I just smile."

This process, although not so pleasant, It’s easy, but Dong Qing slowly discovered her own progress: “God will not tailor a lover for you. Even if you love each other, there must be places where you need to compromise with each other. In this process, you are constantly opening up, The process of broadening yourself is also the process of slowly establishing a relationship between you.”

To love him is to love the person he loves

Two I talked about personal love for four or five years, but never walked into the auditorium. There are many rumors about this. The most popular is that the relationship between Dong Qing and Mi Chunlei’s sons and daughters is not good, and the children do not accept her. There are many concerns about life after marriage.

Indeed, it has always been Dong Qing's most disturbing thing to get along with Mi Chunlei's children. She said: "I am the kind who can't talk and coax people. I don't dare to expect the children to accept me from the heart. I just hope that we can live in peace."

But yes In the beginning of their relationship, they failed to achieve peace and harmony. Dong Qing talked about the first time she went to see Mi Chunlei’s children: "My sister is okay, so I called Auntie hello politely. I took my gift and said thank you. My younger brother didn’t give me that much face. With his remote control plane, his mouth curled and said: I have this long ago! Then he said to his father: "Dad, don't you know that I have this long ago? Why did you let your girlfriend buy this?" Let me faint on the spot , I don’t know how to deal with this little guy.”

“Take out one word of love and turn it into love.” This sentence made Dong Qing try again and again to overcome her confusion and overwhelming—she even specialized I went to consult with a child psychology researcher, how can we let the children open their hearts to accept her.

It is the celebrity that really opens up the opportunity to get along with her boyfriend. It was also by chance. Dong Qing knew that the elder sister of the siblings was a fan of the Korean idol group EXO, and the younger brother’s favorite star was Jay Chou, so he took advantage of the convenience of work to give the siblings the signatures of their respective stars. . Especially EXO’s signature. You must know that this group has 12 members. One less than one is not complete. Dong Qing will do his homework before, know what these 12 people look like and what their names are, and then hold them backstage. The book chased after a bunch of handsome guys, and it took three hours to collect the signatures of 12 people. Dong Qing laughed at himself: "I have never done such a blatant thing in my life!" Compared with EXO, Jay Chou's signature is easier. That’s too much, because Jay Chou and the magician Liu Qian are good friends, and Liu Qian and Dong Qing are old partners of Spring Evening. She called Liu Qian: "Let Jay Chou write two more characters." As a result, Jay Chou not only wrote a paragraph to him. , And also sent his own signed album. Although Dong Qing feels embarrassed by saying "chasing a celebrity to sign", but the elder brothers and sisters were ecstatic after seeing the gift, which made her feel that her hard work was not in vain.

From then on, the siblings accepted Dong Qing. If they have any small requirements, they will bypass Dad and contact Dong Qing. For example, every time my sister sees Dong Qing, she will ask Dong Qing to help her make-up. She can’t wait to see what she looks like when she grows up with makeup. Dong Qing will put on her make-up to make her enjoy the fun and beautify, and then she will do it for her.Wash off. In the eyes of his younger brother, Dong Qing is not an elder, but a big sister who can chat with him. He is a little bit young in front of Dong Qing. He often calls her by her name and tells her some interesting stories between his classmates in school. Of course "Interesting" is what he thinks, but for Dong Qing, "it takes a lot of patience every time to listen to the stories that talk about similarities."

Dong Qing said: "In fact, children are very simple. As long as they can feel your kindness from the heart, they will accept you like you.”

In Mi Chunlei’s life, in addition to this pair of children, the person he loves most is also his mother. This relationship is very delicate, but Mi Chunlei's mother was the first person in the Mi family to accept Dong Qing. The old man had long declared that Dong Qing was his daughter-in-law.

The reason is that Dong Qing said that in fact, she is not a person who will please the elders, nor will she deliberately do anything to express herself. She joked: "His mother likes me purely because of the elderly. A pair of eyes.” It’s said that the secret mother liked and recognized Dong Qing because when she first met Dong Qing, she took out some of her collection of jewelry and asked her to pick one that she liked, so Dong Qing picked one that she thought The most beautiful and most suitable crystal bracelet. Mimu said: "I told her that this piece of jewelry is the lowest value in it, but she was very happy, saying that she was wearing jewelry to look good, not to show how rich she is. I thought this at the time. Girls are simple and good.”

Dong Qing knows that dealing with people is her weakness. She said: “I don’t speak sweet words, and I don’t have the kind of eyesight that Beijingers say. My only magic weapon is Sincerity, and sincerity can be felt by others." To her boyfriend’s mother, she adheres to the principle: If I am moved by her boyfriend’s love and care for me, then I should be filial to his mother, because this treats me. Isn't such a good boyfriend the result of his mother's education? Moreover, if I don’t get along well with his mother, then the most uncomfortable thing is that he is caught in the middle. I love him, and I am not willing to make him so embarrassed... With this idea, Dong Qing has been getting along well with her mother for several years. Chunlei said: "My mother used to praise me, but now I basically treat me as nothing and praise Dong Qing."

and Mi Chunlei's sons and daughters and mother's harmonious relationship, let Dong Qing also establish a life after marriage With their own confidence, in 2013, they married in Shanghai in a low-key manner. It is said that at the wedding, a pair of Mi Chunlei's children volunteered to be flower girls and personally welcomed the stepmother into the door.

To love him is to strive to be a better self

Dong Qing after marriage is slowly changing.

The first to realize this change of hers was her colleagues in the program group. In the eyes of colleagues, Dong Qing "is a perfectionist, a person who is extremely demanding on work. This harshness has reached the level of indifference and ruthlessness." Examples of colleagues: She cannot allow herself to make mistakes, she cannot allow herself The host has flaws. For example, a show has been recorded and everyone is ready to call home. She is still sitting there thinking, and then she suddenly stands up and says aloud that I have come up with a better ending, let’s not worry. Go home, re-record the last paragraph, and then greet everyone back to work. So later everyone was afraid to see her pondering. "When you see her pondering, you will feel frustrated, and you will find a way to interrupt her, because she ponders it means that we have to work overtime."

In the eyes of Dong Qing Here, work is of course ahead of life. She is a person with no private life, and she feels particularly incomprehensible that others will neglect work for the sake of life. For example, if a colleague asks for leave after getting married, she thinks-when will we get married? Why choose a working time to settle?

After marriage, Dong Qing gradually became "humane" in the eyes of colleagues. For example, she will take care of the pregnant makeup artist in the group: "Standing tired? You don't have to stand, you can sit and put on makeup." In the past, she would never tolerate a makeup artist sitting and giving someone Make-up is such an "extremely unprofessional and dedicated behavior".

She has also become more and more "feminine", the most significant change is that she now andThe female colleagues in the group got together and talked about makeup, clothing, pregnancy, children, cooking, and other topics, which she had dismissed before. Colleagues also feel that if you talk about these topics in front of Dong Qing, you will feel short of breath. “Her look in her eyes makes you feel that talking about these things is a waste of life.”

When it comes to cooking, Dong Qing used to be at the root. I don’t know how to cook. I usually eat quick-frozen dumplings in the cafeteria at home. After getting married, she started to learn to cook. Colleagues said her attitude in learning to cook is as serious and rigorous as her attitude towards work. She will take a small notebook and meticulously record the detailed methods, steps, and ingredients of a dish, go home and try it out. Whenever she doesn’t understand, she will call her and ask her colleagues while cooking. He joked: “I used to be nervous when I saw Dong Qing’s phone call, because it meant that something went wrong at work, and now I’m less nervous.”

and Dong Qing colleagues for many years, colleagues have never eaten at her house After dinner, "she would feel that a bunch of people messed up the house, and then it would take a long time to clean up, which is really not worth it." But after marriage, she had already invited guests at home several times, and all of them personally Chef, her specialty is Sixi roasted bran and family portrait.

is a happy love and marriage, so Dong Qing slowly relaxes, begins to discover and enjoy, the fun outside of work, once the media photographed her and Mi Chunlei Standing on the street, feeding each other ice cream, their children sleeping soundly in the baby stroller... At that time, Dong Qing was no longer a CCTV "first sister", but an ordinary woman bathed in sweetness and happiness.

About the author: Karma, columnist, marriage and family counselor. Scope of consultation: marriage and love, relationship between the sexes, case experience accumulated 10,000 hours. He has published works such as "Slowly Getting Better with You", "The Practice of Two People-50 Reminders for Marriage", and "The Notes of Psychological Counselor". WeChat public account: Dear Kama