Psychoanalyst Karen Horney once put forward this point of view in the book "The Psychology of Women": Because women and men have different physiological structures, women should be more reserved and passive in relationships between the sexes. This is a self-protection defense mechanism.
Writer Balzac also said when talking about marriage and love relationships: Husbands and wives should know and understand each other, and then tolerate and respect each other, in order to maintain a happy marriage.
The basis for a warm and stable love relationship is that the couple, on the premise of loving each other and being responsible for each other, can have a long-term plan for their love and be willing to work together to manage this love.
But in real life, some girls don't understand this truth. When they meet the person they like, they will always behave very emotionally, so that they will fall in love hastily without knowing a person well.
Under the influence of this mentality, if some girls meet unkind people, they will encounter the situation of being abandoned before getting pregnant, which will put their lives in a dilemma.
Facing the camera, 26-year-old Sun Xin (pseudonym) looked sad. She said bluntly, Although she had just given birth to her son, her husband Li Yi (pseudonym) not only filed for divorce from her, but also took the child away and refused to let her see the child.
The setbacks in her emotional experience have made young Sun Xin full of vicissitudes. Once upon a time, when Sun Xin had not yet met Li Yi, she was still an innocent little girl full of fantasies about love.
So, how did Sun Xin and Li Yi meet? Why did Li Yi break up with Sun Xin not long after Sun Xing gave birth to her child? It all started a year and a half ago.
A year and a half ago, Sun Xin met Li Yi through social software. The two of them chatted online and soon met offline, and they both fell in love.
Sun Xin took this relationship seriously. Her ideal was to get married to Li Yi, but Li Yi only regarded this experience as a casual relationship. Because of this, after the two were briefly intimate, Li Yi's attitude towards Sun Xin became cold.
Just when Sun Xin was confused about Li Yi's indifferent attitude, she suddenly felt unwell. She went to the hospital for a check-up and found out that she was pregnant, so Sun Xin called Li Yi to tell him the news.
After Li Yi heard the news of Sun Xin's pregnancy, his attitude towards Sun Xin changed from indifference to joy. Li Yi did not object to Sun Xin's request for marriage at first.
Sun Xin's mother said that according to the customs in her hometown, if Li Yi wanted to marry her daughter, she would have to pay a bride price of 180,000 yuan.
After hearing what Sun Xin's mother said, Li Yi said, according to the customs in my hometown, the bride price is only 20,000 yuan.
Although Sun Xin told Li Yi that the 180,000 yuan gift was just a formality, her mother would return the money to us after the wedding.
But Li Yi still hesitated about this relationship and became cold towards Sun Xin.
Li Yi's attitude disappointed Sun Xin. Sun Xin had thought about not having a child, but when she went to the hospital for a checkup, she found that her physical condition was not suitable for removing the child.
So Sun Xin found Li Yi again and told Li Yi the truth. Li Yi agreed to marry Sun Xin, but was unwilling to pay too much money.
Sun Xin had no choice but to pay for her own premarital examination, pay for the banquet, and pay for herself to marry Li Yi.
Sun Xin thought that her concession would move Li Yi and lead to a happy marriage.
What Sun Xin didn't expect was that just one month after she gave birth to her son, Li Yi broke up with her again.
Li Yi tried to lock the door of his home to prevent Sun Xin from entering, but seeing that Sun Xin was unwilling to break up with him, he moved out of the house with his child in his arms and forcibly separated from Sun Xin.
Soon after giving birth, Sun Xin fell into deep pain when faced with her husband's indifference and the cruel fact that the child was taken away.
Sun Xin found a mediator. She hoped that Li Yi could not only allow her to see her son, but also compensate her for 100,000 yuan in economic losses. Otherwise, she would not agree to break up with Li Yi.
Sun Xin found Li Yi with the mediator. Facing the mediator, Li Yi spoke his true feelings. Li Yi said that he did not love Sun Xin at all. The reason why he married Sun Xin was because Sun Xin had a child. In order to give the child an identity, he and Sun Xin received a marriage certificate.
Li Yi said bluntly that now that he has settled his children, he will naturally break up with Sun Xin.
When faced with the mediator's question about why Li Yi insisted on breaking up with Sun Xin, Li Yi replied that it was because Sun Xin's mother asked him to give half of the house to Sun Xin.
Li Yi said bluntly that he bought his house before his marriage, so why should he give half of it to Sun Xin?
In this regard, Sun Xin said that Li Yi's house was bought with a loan, and she also participated in repaying the mortgage after marriage, and she also had the right to live in the house.
Li Yi said that if calculated according to the proportion, Sun Xin only has 2% of the house's equity, and he certainly has the right to arrange where his son lives.
Li Yi said bluntly that he was under great financial pressure and he could not take care of his children by himself. That was why he took his children back to his hometown.
But Sun Xin did not believe what Li Yi said. She said bluntly, since Li Yi was unable to raise his son, why did he take his son away from him before his son was weaned?
Sun Xin said bluntly that other things can be discussed, but she must see her child as soon as possible.
After the mediator's persuasion, Li Yi promised to let Sun Xin see the child in a week. When talking about the marriage problem between the two, Li Yi said that this could be resolved through litigation.
At this point, the story of Li Yi and Sun Xin comes to an end.
Emotional analysis:
A stable love relationship is based on the mutual understanding between the couple. Only by making sure that our love partner is a responsible and trustworthy person can we ensure that we can have a happy marriage to the greatest extent.
In the story of Li Yi and Sun Xin, the reason why their marriage only lasted for a short period of time and ended in failure was because they did not understand each other enough.
Perhaps what Li Yi wants is just the tenderness of a romantic relationship, but what Sun Xin wants is a happy and stable marriage. The two have different starting points for this relationship, making it difficult for their love relationship to have a perfect ending.
Sun Xin's mistake was that she should not have entrusted herself to Li Yi without understanding him as a person, let alone getting pregnant with him without establishing a marriage relationship with him.
At the same time, Sun Xin's mother asked Li Yi to give a bride price. Although the original intention was to allow her daughter to be respected after marrying into her husband's family, excessive interference in her daughter's marriage will undoubtedly make her daughter's situation more embarrassing.
Whether in marriage or in a love relationship, only a woman who knows how to love herself can be valued by others.
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