Beautiful and you meet as scheduled
For the relationship between people, whether it is family affection or love, it will be a process of going in two directions. When I treat you 100% sincerely, but you give back to me with less than one% sincerity, no one can accept this kind of gap in my heart calmly.
Love is a little easier to deal with. If two people are not suitable, at worst, you can stop working together and find someone who suits you again. However, family affection cannot be like this. Even if the quarrel between relatives reaches the worst, the family affection between the two will not be broken.
This means that in real life, the mother and daughter are having a big fight because of some things, and they have not even had contact for several years. However, when the other party is in a state of embarrassment, the other party will feel a sense of distress.
This may be the great and helpless thing about family affection.
01 The partial mother
In Xiaoli's impression, her family conditions were not very ideal since she was a child. Later, when she was five years old, her parents asked for a younger brother for her, and the environment at home was even worse.
Originally, my parents planned to let Xiaoli go to work after graduating from high school, but after the college entrance examination, Xiaoli's grades were indeed able to go to a good university, and her parents were still hesitating. At this time, Xiaoli promised that she could work and study in college, and that after graduation, she could find a good job to subsidize her family income. Only then did her parents agree to Xiaoli's request to continue to go to school.
Four years have passed in a blink of an eye. After graduation, Xiaoli also paid her parents his salary every month, and she only left a small part for her life.
Later, Xiaoli gradually stopped this behavior until she met her boyfriend.
After two years of in love with her boyfriend, the two planned to get married. Later, at the request of Xiaoli's parents, her boyfriend's family handed over the 200,000 yuan bride price to them, and their parents agreed to the marriage.
After marrying her husband, her parents left her dowry at home without Xiaoli’s expectations, and the dowry she gave was only a few quilts.
Xiaoli was very angry with her parents about this, but she knew that no matter what she said and did, her parents would not care about it, because this was what he experienced and felt in his personal experiences and experiences over the past 20 years. Even if she wanted these brides from them, it would probably end up unsatisfactory.
Therefore, after getting married, Xiaoli devoted herself to her family and she only hoped to live her own life.
02Home Demolition
Although Xiaoli has hardly had much contact with her parents' home since marriage, Xiaoli has many playmates in her hometown for a long time. By chance, Xiaoli heard a friend say that her home was about to be demolished.
Xiaoli was still very confused at the time, why she had never heard her parents talk about this.
So that night, Xiaoli called her parents, but unexpectedly, in her mother's ears, it seemed that Xiaoli came to ask for compensation for the demolition.
My mother said something at that time, making Xiaoli hung up the phone on the spot.
Mother said: Everything that is compensated for in the demolition is your younger brother. You are already married and are someone else's family.
Since then, Xiaoli has never contacted her parents again. Even if her parents call, Xiaoli deliberately refuses to answer. Over time, her parents also understand Xiaoli’s intention and no longer call.
Two years have passed in a blink of an eye. During these two years, Xiaoli has not returned home once and can almost be said to have broken off contact with her parents.
Xiaoli also told her friends around her that she will not assume the responsibility of her parents for her retirement in the future.
03 Parents regretted
Many years have passed in the blink of an eye. Although Xiaoli has never returned home during these years, she also heard from her friends about her parents’ recent situation. Although there are several houses at home demolished, these houses have been transferred to the name of her sister-in-law. And others have also heard that her sister-in-law has a bad temper. It is conceivable that her parents’ life is not very easy.
But as Xiaoli, she just wants to live her own life. She doesn't care about everything about her original family, because everything her parents did seemed to have happened yesterday and was vivid in her mind.
But later, Xiaoli couldn't help but call her.
On the phone, my mother told me about her current situation. As she gets older, her physical condition is getting worse and worse. However, Xiaoli's younger brother and sister-in-law don't care about their affairs and their lives are very helpless.
Xiaoli was also moved by it after hearing this. After all, they are their parents, and as children, they are a little unbearable.
But as Xiaoli, she understands that now is not the time for her to be soft-hearted. After all, she is now a wife and mother. Everything she does must be responsible for the family and consider for her partner.
Conclusion : There is still a big gap between love and marriage. After all, once you enter marriage, many intersections will inevitably arise with your respective original families. As parents, they should also put their children's happiness first. They should not do things that damage their feelings with their children because of a moment of confusion. Just like Xiaoli's parents, they do not agree with what they do.
