Source: Bei Shuyouyou
There is a very classic poem in " White-headed chant ":
"I wish to win one person's heart, and I will not be separated from my old age."
This is the love view of talented women Zhuo Wenjun . At the same time, it is also a good wish for love from many people, hoping to support each other with the one they love and live a long life.
But sometimes things go against your expectations, and many couples are ultimately unable to be with each other for a lifetime.
It is not easy to go on a relationship for a long time, and it requires some prerequisite support.
For example, if the following three aspects are not correctly understood, it is easy to lead to emotional breakdown and separation.
01
Three views are inconsistent, and they rarely respect each other
Nowadays, when talking about the standards for choosing a partner, "consistent views" are often the first choice, and height and appearance must be placed in the back.
This also caters to the sentence online:
"Precision determines whether you can be together, and whether your three views are consistent determines how long you can be together."
Indeed, two people with three views are together, without pressure, and without feeling forced or restrained.
If the three views are not in line, the differences between getting along with each other will be very serious, and sometimes a little trivial matter will be very unpleasant.
TV series " Things in the Palm ", Fu Shenxing and He Yan have had opposite positions from the beginning, and their three views are contrary to each other. The ending of the two is destined to be a tragedy of .
In Fu Shenxing's world, I will always be the only one. The love he gives He Yan is possession and control. He Yan rejected all Fu Shenxing's thoughts and behaviors from beginning to end.
It is often difficult for two people to get along peacefully, let alone love each other.
The two sides have different views, and they will have a strong feeling that they are not from the same world, which will frequently cause prejudice and disputes.
What's worse is that they are stubborn and force the other party to accept their own opinions, and never give the other party the respect they deserve. In this way, feelings are naturally difficult to maintain.
Carnegie Lady said:
"As for the same mind as my husband is the basis for a happy marriage."
Good partners often have a heart-to-heart relationship.
Because of their high consistency in their views, they have a tacit understanding when getting along with each other and almost talk about anything. Only with such a similar sentiment can the relationship last for a long time.
02
The language is not speculative, there are few common topics
Holding from the perspective of the relationship, the state changes from the love period to the quarrel period, and finally the silent period.
is obviously a partner who spends time together day and night, but it is difficult for them to communicate with each other. He doesn’t listen to what you say, and you can’t understand what he says.
The result is mostly the same bed and the distance between the two hearts is getting farther and farther.
"The Art of Communication" writes:
"Everyone needs to be alone, but on the other hand, everyone also has a critical point of being alone. If you exceed this critical point, the pleasure of being alone becomes pain."
If lovers cannot maintain good communication, they usually ask three questions and answer one sentence, and they cannot negotiate to solve the problem when they encounter it.
Then, no matter how good the relationship is, it will be wiped out, and in the end it will be all the tiredness left.
As the saying goes, A thousand cups of wine will be less than , and you don’t have any speculation. It is important whether two people can chat together.
A long-term relationship is something that each other has endless things to say. From three meals a day to daily work, or from family matters to entertainment news topics, we talk to each other, and we never get upset.
Feeding in the opposite sex, you will fall in love with each other as you speak.
We chat with each other every day, and our relationship will naturally become more harmonious and happy every day.
03
emotional disloyalty, getting along with each other and being in love
Writer Roman Rolland said:
"The only great thing of marriage lies in the only love, the mutual loyalty of the two hearts."
Indeed, loyalty is the first element to maintain the stability of love relationships. If there is no loyalty between each other, you will no longer be able to trust each other, which will lead to the fall of relationships. In the TV series " Youth ", the tragedy of Fang Jing and her husband's marriage is because they touched the bottom line of loyalty.
Fang Jing did not show off with her husband after learning that her husband had fallen in love with him, but continued to maintain the peace of the past. The two attended the party together, and everyone around them praised them as a loving couple.
However, only the two of them knew in their hearts that they hated each other so much that they maintained a superficial relationship for various unscrupulous reasons, but they were actually separated from each other.
Two people are together, and they can’t even afford a dedicated love. How can they never leave each other and last forever?
In real life, many couples initially promised each other that they would love each other for the rest of their lives, but later they gradually forgot their original intentions, became restless, and made mistakes of betrayal, and could never look back.
Any relationship can only be achieved if both parties are absolutely loyal to each other and the hearts of two people are always closely linked together, and can they reap a happy and fulfilling future.
Finally, I share a sentence from "Seeing a Gentleman" and encourage them together:
"The most difficult thing between men and women is not the occurrence of love, but to endure the fire into the starlight of the clear light, illuminating each of their lives, whether prosperous or lonely nights."
