Yesterday, I went to a friend’s company to visit him. Before the visit, a friend said to me: "I think you should learn from Zhang Mengjie. She has done a good job in many aspects. You must learn from Zhang Meng and don't care too much about other people's evaluations."
I don't know how to respond to this sentence.
Because I have cooperated with my friends, but I have not cooperated well. Does this mean I don’t respect the other person?
Because we all care about the other party’s evaluation very much, if he does not do well, we will be very unhappy; if he does well, we will be very happy. But what would you do if others kept belittling you?
So this question is really interesting.
So what should I do?
The first point I want to say is: "Respect" is based on a full understanding between you and others; because who are you? What kind of person are you? Others will also have a very full understanding of you; then they can make judgments to make decisions; then they can decide what measures to take to achieve their goals. The second point is that "respect" is actually an equal relationship.
The colleagues we come into contact with in the workplace may have many different types. Some are very strong, others are very humble; but I think both types are very important. Because only by treating them equally, allowing them to feel your respect and gain their respect, will they be willing to cooperate with you.
Only when you respect, understand, recognize and accept others will he be willing to cooperate with you; otherwise, he will be very resistant and reluctant. So when others can understand you and agree with you to a certain extent, they will cooperate; otherwise, the more you respect him, the less they will cooperate with you.
So respecting this is two-way; and I think it is best to do this level in a company; of course I also hope that more people can reach this level. But if it is really limited to such a small scope in the company, I don’t think it’s a good thing for all of us.
Give an example to illustrate this problem: in a company, when a manager criticizes subordinate employees very harshly (for example, a supervisor criticizes her subordinate employees for not doing well, and an employee complains to the headquarters); then subordinate employees will feel very wronged (for example: Supervisor, I know that I may have done something wrong); then the manager will feel very wronged; then the manager will not be able to respond more to such things.
So let’s think about it, if everyone can respect others, what will the world become?
Don’t you think you are a person who has been scolded for a long time or a person who has been criticized for a long time?
So many times we feel that we are "useless" (for example: the boss always says you are not good, you are not good at work, your colleagues have a bad relationship, etc.).
