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There are data showing that in 2022, the divorce rate in Beijing is as high as 39%, Shanghai is 38%, Shenzhen is 36%, and Guangzhou is 35%, that is, the bigger the city, the higher the divorce rate!
In our parents' generation, divorce is a matter of that is difficult to talk about , and even a very shameful thing, but now divorce has become a very normal thing!
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My cousin was spoiled by my aunt and married a businessman in their town. However, my cousin was very lazy and often ran out to play. She didn't help check the stalls at home, and she bought all kinds of things!
still doesn’t look like a mother after giving birth. throws the child to her mother-in-law, and still goes out to play all day.
The mother-in-law said a few words to her and she pushed her back. When her husband saw her lazy and rude , he said a few words to her: Look at who is like you, who doesn’t take care of her children every day and goes out to play all day!
My cousin probably met some boys while playing outside, so she always felt that she was very popular. At that time, she said to her husband very angrily: Then if you think I am not good, just divorce. You can find another good one yourself!
And my cousin was so angry that she was already disheartened by her cousin. Her cousin agreed to the divorce. When she was angry, the two really divorced!
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The cousin was even happier when he just divorced. After all, he is single now, and his aunt is very worried and said: You are not old yet, so why don’t you find someone to marry again.
My cousin said: It’s not easy for me to marry, so many people come to me. I want to marry a better one and a richer one!
My cousin praised this under the in , so my aunt went with her. My cousin played around every day. When she was not divorced before, the boys who had affair with her were both married.
The cousin became anxious and started asking her aunt to to arrange blind dates . My aunt had just dragged a few matchmakers, but the matchmakers waved their hands and said that I dare not do the matchmakers in your family, because my cousin's infamous reputation spread throughout the town, and she was lazy and fierce.
My cousin tested the boys who played with her, and everyone said to her with a smile: The family cannot afford to support it!
My cousin was so panicked that she easily said she had divorced. It was too difficult to remarry now!
I had seen a street interview online before, and interviewed some boys and asked these boys if they would accept girls who were married? Most boys say they don’t accept it, and some men even say they are a man who can’t accept it!
Why is it so difficult for women to divorce and remarry? The reason is real and heartbreaking
★If the previous marriage was not well managed, it may not be well managed by getting married again
Many people think that the reason for divorce is that the husband is not good, which is not good. In fact, divorce is that both people have responsibility for , and when entering the next marriage, there may be various problems.
If you say you want to divorce with a small problem in your marriage, then every marriage is prone to problems.
★Women's value will indeed drop after divorce
Although equality between men and women is now advocated, the biggest function of women in marriage is to raise children. If women get married and divorced, when they get married, their age will generally be relatively older. In fact, 's ability to give birth will decrease .
For example, if you got married once before and had two children, both of which had caesarean section. If you got married again and wanted to have a third child and still need a caesarean section, it will actually cause greater harm to your body.
At this time, you still want to have a second child, and you really want to fight for your life, so your fertility has already dropped sharply.
★The selectivity of remarriage will be lower
Many men do not like to choose remarriage, so if women are divorced, they can only find those with worse conditions, or they are also divorced.
You should know that the reason for the last divorce was that I felt that the previous one was not good. If you want to find a better one than the previous one, the difficulty coefficient would be higher!
So I advise all women who want to divorce to think about these two questions first:
① Is it really impossible to survive?
If it is just a little friction and life can continue, don’t divorce easily, Don’t divorce because of anger, Of course, if your husband has some unbearable bad habits, then you should divorce.
②Can you support yourself after divorce?
If a woman is from the countryside, it will be difficult to live at home after divorce, because rural family members are from ! So after divorce, you must be able to support yourself independently.
first think about these two questions clearly, and then decide whether to divorce, otherwise it will be easy to regret.
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