Note: This article undertakes "Don't let your emotions fluctuate confidently because things are simple." This article proposes that when you are in simple things, you should be careful of various emotional fluctuations caused by the arbitrary incidents of "not me" (other people other than me). This article discusses the integration of psychology, emotions and wisdom when you are in complex things.
What is happening is complicated or unfamiliar to "me", what psychological reactions and corresponding emotional fluctuations should we pay attention to?
1. Two entry points for thinking
Xiaoyao thinks that there are two interrelated entry points to think about.
1, the first entry point : Is the so-called "complex or strange" matter a difficult problem for "me"? The reason why the
problem is a difficult problem is the result of the combined effect of two factors. first , which is less controllable to "me", which actually reduces the expected possibility of "me" of successful profits. Second, "I" subjectively need to achieve successful profits. To put it more specifically, the problem will be truly arise only when and only when the following conditions are met at the same time, that is, "I" need to make a successful profit, and "I" finds that the profit is difficult to control, and then predicts that the possibility of successful profit is low.
Otherwise, it cannot be called a difficult problem.
For example, although "things" are more complicated or unfamiliar, "I" think that the expectation of successful profits is low, but "I" has a lower sense of urgency to make a successful profit (maybe due to "I" or "non-I" factors), then "I" tends to "ignore" or "care first, and then ignore" things related to successful profits. The problem naturally no longer exists.
Also, although "things" are complicated or unfamiliar, "I" believe that although "things" seem relatively difficult, they do not cause psychological reactions that affect the degree of the mind's function. "I" can analyze and solve the problems in them through reasonable methods and make successful profits. Then "things" are not a real problem.
2. The second entry point: If "I" have regarded things that are happening, relatively complex or unfamiliar as a problem, what psychological reactions and corresponding emotional fluctuations should we pay attention to?
First of all, is based on the previous statement of the connotation of the problem, and it is not difficult to understand. When facing the problem, it is difficult for the parties to be psychologically to be full of confidence.
Next to , under the nature of profit-seeking, various "second decisions" based on experience, likes and dislikes and cleverness often bring about various contradictory decision-making results.
For example, the leader assigns a complex task, but there is no suitable existing method for solving problems in the brain's "experience library", so it is difficult to complete the task by "short decisions". But what if you can't complete this task or fool things up? A "second decision" often comes with it: it is likely to bring criticism or even punishment from the leader.
Therefore, when faced with difficulties, the final result of the so-called "second decision" is often "difficulty in decision-making or inability to make decisions", and the parties involved will inevitably have a psychological sense of contradictory .
2. Possible impact on emotions and wisdom
has different psychological reactions from "happy or not". The enhanced degree of happiness often promotes the generation of "likes or dislikes", and thus promotes the judgment of pros and cons and the formation of various "second decisions". And is unconfidence and a sense of contradiction often cause "I" to have various "uneasy" emotions. The enhanced psychological response of "uneasy" is usually not related to the formation of "likes and dislikes". It not only will not promote the formation of "second decision-making", but will instead inhibit the use of thinking in the brain and further inhibit the formation of decision-making.
Xiaoyao believes that "happy or not" and "likes and dislikes" are a pair of psychological reactions that echo. The increased feelings of likes and dislikes often lead to a clear sense of "happiness and anger". The psychological reactions that follow "uneasiness" are usually "worry" and "fear".
"Happiness and anger" often makes people feel the impulse to act, while "worry and fear" often makes people choose to retreat or escape.
3. How should we?
It is undeniable that even for people who have generally high levels of wisdom and personality qualities (psychological response ability to deal with environmental changes) after long-term practice, although they know the attitudes and methods that should be adopted in the face of "complex or strange" things ( 16-character policy : focus on things - grasp the main theme - burst out wisdom - multiple profits), however, since "things" are happening, various changes are constantly, and successful profits have not been realized. Therefore, although there will be no psychological reactions that can affect the function of the mind, it is difficult to achieve complete "safety". What to do if
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Confucius said: Those who are afraid of things when they are in trouble, and those who are willing to plan will succeed!
The Book of Changes says: A gentleman starts by doing things! I am afraid of blessing!
The above classics all illustrate one thing. When encountering things, there is nothing wrong with being afraid. It is precisely because of fear that we will think seriously, and we will not underestimate the enemy and will not shrink back, but will act in time. Blessings will come naturally.
Expansional thinking:
"I" is in the event that is happening, especially complex or unfamiliar things. Because the external environment is already changing, it is more likely to cause psychological fluctuations of "mainly me". Therefore, Xiaoyao thinks that being afraid of things and making plans is of great significance.
Among them, "fear" should reflect an attitude towards things, rather than a psychological reaction based on pros and cons analysis.
triggers thinking about "things" by "fear", and then uses your mind to "plan". It is best to be "good plan" before the incident. If something is happening, then "planning" must be focused on what is happening, and second, take the initiative to slow down the speed of doing things, leaving the brain with time to "plan".
and , we must also pay attention to planning the system boundary of "what is happening" that is "led by human elements".
is more specific. Various "self-centered" "non-me" often enter the "thing" that "I" is in the middle of it, which will cause our emotional fluctuations and confusion in our thinking. Therefore, when is facing what is happening, we must also pay attention to preventing all kinds of "self-centered" "non-me" from entering and leaving the matter (system) at will in terms of subjective consciousness. This is also a manifestation of "doing things and seeking things".
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