Author: Shijiu|Scorpio woman, even if she is afraid of the society, she loves to dream
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Mr. Yang Jiang said: "People around the city want to escape, but people outside the city want to rush in. Whether it is marriage, career, or life wishes are like this."
In his 20s, on one hand, his parents are urging their marriage to their parents to express their fate; on the other hand, the miserable marriage tragedy online, which is terrifying.
A while ago, a reader sent me a private message saying that most of her friends and classmates were married, and they complained every time they went out shopping or chat online.
Whether it is a love that ends up with a good result for many years or a blind date, there are basically no one who can smile in marriage.
She tried to communicate with her parents, can she not get married?
Her parents said, "You are angry now, you will know when you get old."
She asked her friends if their life would be much better if they were not married/
Her friends said this: "As long as you can hold back the lights of thousands of families behind you, the neighbors are smelling smell of rice. When you see other couples holding hands, you can hold back and not cry."
"But after , you will find that there may not be a light of thousands of families belonging to me. ."
She is only in her early 30s now, but she is anxious that she will wake up from fear in the middle of the night.
In fact, what I want to say is to understand that complaining is complaining, life is life, and many people are complaining about the unfairness of life, and aren’t they living a good life?
So many people complain about how my husband is and how my child is. In the end, Isn’t it back to my family?
Don’t listen to those sounds, you have to see what they have done. Since you complain, why do you still have to do it? Isn’t that bad? Isn't it still going on?
Life is not defined. Don’t erase your view of marriage just because some people have bad marriages. Don’t say that they have never gotten married in their lifetime and live a good life without getting married. Life is your own and you need to explore it yourself. Other people’s goodness may not be suitable for you.
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There is a saying that you long for your partner to shelter you from the wind and rain, but many times the storms of your life come from your partner.
The roofs of most marriages are not as wide and thick as you think. I hope you can shelter yourself from the wind and rain, rather than treating your marriage as a refuge.
I met Huizi, an interior design designer at the exhibition. She looks particularly neat and has a ray-like trend in her work.
When she finished her work and went to have dinner with her, I realized that she was a five-year-old mother.
Huizi and her husband met at a party. It started with their appearance. The two met immediately and soon started dating.
Huizi is a very enterprising person, but her husband is not. Her husband is a game player. He will take care of him when he has sex, and lie down at home without sex, and is a rich second generation who is very happy.
When Huizi discovered this and began to reflect on whether the relationship should continue, Huizi found out that she was pregnant.
In order to have a better life with your child in the future, Huizi and her husband discussed and the two changed their modes.
Huizi is the only one who takes care of her children, does housework, and takes on the task orders. After Huizi gives birth to the child, she devotes her whole body and mind to her career.
Huizi said: "I am still very satisfied with my current life, whether in life or career, of course, so is my husband.
So suggests that before entering marriage, before truly establishing a relationship correctly, please take care of yourself, improve your skills, and improve your ability to look at people, so that your capital is not limited to youthful and beautiful appearance, but also a smart mind and a pair of golden eyes. In this way, no matter what kind of person you meet, you can make the most beneficial and suitable choice for you. ”
In "Thirty Not Confused", Zhong Xiaoqin said to her husband: "Family is like a safe haven, everyone wants to shelter, who is the port? "
There is no word "easy" for adults. Whether it is love or marriage, it cannot become a shelter in life, allowing you to escape the storms of life.
If you want to get happiness in marriage, you must lower your expectations for marriage. Most people have to be responsible for everything in their lives and bear it themselves.
Only when you have a certain ability to resist wind and rain can you have the ability to make yourself happy.
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Marriage is when two people form an intimate relationship with their own resources and values. If they place their personal destiny and happiness in life on their partner, this is an excessive demand for their partner and marriage, which will make them unable to bear the weight.
Those who learn not to avoid their own life issues, solve problems through their own efforts, and face their own sufferings will not expect others to save themselves and support themselves in a world without wind and rain, only sunshine.
Someone said: "Once you delete the two items of marriage and having children from your life plan, you will find that age does not have any constraints or fears on you at all. You don't have to hurry up so quickly in your life, and you can use it to experience all kinds of unknowns in your life. "
No matter which life you choose, you must have certain regrets in the end. Love your partner must first love yourself. The most important thing is to make the best choice you think after measuring. No matter which one you prefer to give up, just reduce the regret value to the lowest.
Getting a broad life is not about what you cannot do, but about what you want to do, live casually and do whatever you want.
When a person has the ability to live The ability to have a good life. When she chooses to enter marriage, she will stand side by side with her partner, face and share the wind, rain and sunshine in life together.
May you have a free and broad sky, become your own sun, and you don’t have to rely on anyone’s light.
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