Introduction
Life begins to count down in old age. Many elderly people always feel that their days in their later years are difficult, because they will lose one day after a day, which is easy to have bad emotions and will be particularly likely to feel lonely. At this time, the importance of a wife is self-evident. With her husband's company, you don't need to live alone in a deserted manner, and life will have more hope.
In order to make your life better in your later years, many widowed elderly people are willing to find another companion to warm each other and live happier in their later years. The 70-year-old Mr. Ge also had the same idea. Mr. Ge also found a partner as he wished, but his life was not satisfactory after being together. Mr. Ge cried and said, "I originally wanted to find a wife to support me, but who knew that the other party treated me as a sucker." Next, let's listen to Mr. Ge's story together.
Self-reporter: Uncle Ge
My surname is Ge, and I am 70 years old this year. I used to have a happy family, a wife who loved me very much and a filial and sensible son. My wife is a gentle and virtuous woman. When I was 20 years old, we got married. We have not experienced any friction in our marriage life for so many years, and we have been living a happy life.
But such a life cannot last a lifetime. In the year I retired, my wife died of illness, and the originally happy life came to an abrupt end. After my wife left, I lived a very painful life, but fortunately, my son was with me, so life was not that difficult. But in just two years, my son got married. I originally thought that I would have a family member. In the future, my son and daughter-in-law would have two more grandchildren, and the family would gradually become lively.
As a result, my daughter-in-law was unwilling to live with me, the old man. She told her son that she had to buy a wedding house to live separately, otherwise she would not marry. The two of them started talking in college. The son loved his daughter-in-law very much, so the daughter-in-law's request at that time made him feel embarrassed. Because I am alone, my son is not very relieved.
I feel very pleased that my son has such an idea. I want to live with them, but I don’t want to be offensive. Since my daughter-in-law doesn’t welcome her, I will live alone. I have hands and feet, and I can do housework, so my life is definitely fine.
In this way, I started a lonely retirement life. I lived a boring life in those years, and I felt like I was working hard, and I had no hope for life. Even the three meals a day are very perfunctory, because a person has no interest in cooking at all, and just deal with two bites casually, just not hungry.
Later I thought this would not work, so I wanted to find a wife to support me. After all, I am getting older and sometimes I need someone to take care of myself, otherwise life alone is indeed quite dangerous.
It was with this idea that I started to go on blind dates frequently. During that year, I kissed each other hundreds of times before I got together with Xiumei. Xiumei is the most suitable for my spouse choice among all my blind date partners. She has no son and only has one daughter.
I am quite satisfied with this point because most of the elderly here live with their sons in their later years. After their daughter gets married, they don’t need to care about the elderly, and the elderly will not think about subsidizing their daughters.
If this happens, Xiumei and I will be with me, and she will be able to devote herself to our family. Of course, I don’t want to take advantage of her. I will also be responsible for Xiumei’s life and will not let her suffer any losses.
Xiumei also performed very well at that time, giving me the feeling of being more generous and generous. I also felt very comfortable when I communicated with her. She and I were in the same frequency. I believe that we will be able to manage our later years well together.
Just like that, after two months of simple dating, we hit it off and got the marriage certificate . When Xiumei and I got married, we went for the rest of our life. I hope to live together with her and live the rest of our life.
So I treated her very carefully. Xiumei said she didn’t like oil smoke, so I never let her go into the kitchen. I made three meals a day.Xiumei rarely does other housework, and I think it's nothing. Doing housework is not hard for me, so I didn't ask Xiumei to do housework. She doesn't want to do it, so I will do it.
In addition, I paid for the expenses of all sizes of the family alone. Since Xiumei married me, I have never spent a penny of her. And I give Xiumei a pocket money of 500 yuan every week, and it costs 2,000 yuan a month. Although 2,000 yuan is not a lot, it is already within my ability.
People say that remarrying couples are all right, but I think I am not that way. I really treat Xiumei as my wife. I also think I am a relatively responsible wife. There are not many men who are second-married to do as good as me.
But sometimes the easier it is to get, the less cherished it. After living together for some time, I found that Xiumei did not treat me as her wife, but instead treated me as a sucker.
Originally, we didn’t spend much money on our lives, but at least three days a week Xiumei asked her daughter’s family to come for dinner. Her daughter’s son-in-law and two grandchildren were four people. Every time she came, she had to buy extra vegetables and entertain her. Xiumei also asked to buy good vegetables and seafood was a must because her daughter liked to eat.
I can still accept it once or twice, but no one can stand it if it is frequent. Besides, Xiumei's daughter is still not satisfied. She always takes any delicious food at home whenever she comes to us. When she goes back, she always comes empty-handed and takes big bags back.
Xiumei never talked about her daughter, but instead felt that the other party was doing it right. She was not satisfied with the 2,000 yuan I gave, thinking that I gave too little, which was not enough for her daily expenses. Xiumeihua is also very generous. She often goes shopping with her sisters. Every time she goes shopping, she must buy things. The money I give her is spent in less than half a month.
Later I also raised her pocket money, which is 3,000 yuan a month. As a result, Xiumei still felt that it was not enough and wanted me to hand over the pension to her for custody. I felt that this request was too much and I didn't agree. As a result, Xiumei got angry with me and rushed me to the sofa to rest every night, not allowing me to go back to my room.
That's fine, what makes me angry the most is that I spend money to support Xiumei, and Xiumei is still carrying me and the man outside. That man is her partner who dances ballroom dance . I didn’t like Xiumei to dance ballroom dance. I feel that I have so much contact with the opposite sex dance partner, and it is easy to have different feelings. So I opposed Xiumei to dance ballroom dance before, and we have quarreled a few times about this.
But Xiumei didn't listen to me and still did her own thing. As expected, she really got along with others later and even spent my money on it, making my head full of green.
My starting point at the beginning was to find a good woman to support her. The two of them could rely on each other and live a harmonious life, so that they would not need to worry too much about their children. After getting married, I was also very nice to Xiumei. I basically agreed with every request and was willing to spend money on her. I never forced her to do housework, but what did I get in the end?
Xiumei not only did not thank me, but also betrayed our marriage. I was really heartbroken. Because of this, I couldn't stand it anymore, and later I divorced Xiumei.
I really wanted to find a wife to live with. I have chosen for so long, but in the end I still didn’t pick a good one. It really disappointed me. I advise everyone to open their eyes and see clearly when looking for a partner, otherwise it will only make their life more painful.
